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Postby changxin » Fri, 24 Jan 2014 12:53 am

JR8 wrote:The reason for divorce?

Are either of you looking to imminently get remarried...?


He break my trust on him.. I can't believe what he do and say to me now.. I try hard but I can't.. I feel one relationship without trust is hard to maintain.. So I choose to let go..

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Postby JR8 » Fri, 24 Jan 2014 9:08 am

One thing you might consider is marriage counselling. Which is seeking to identify any issues, and setting out to resolve them in a cooperative way. It is a logical first step to try and patch things back together.

I realise that such matters can become entrenched and akin to war, it's a hideous experience and best avoided if at all possible.

If I were you I'd start Googling. Start with 'Singapore divorce how' and so on. If you can find a divorce forum or self-help group that would probably be a great resource for you.

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Postby PrimroseHill » Fri, 24 Jan 2014 9:17 am

[quote="PNGMK]Every annulment I know of has involved some lying... (I'm certain)....

"Ya lah, after I marry PRC girl she no wanna open leg what?!"[/quote]

Or

Belly button leh :lol:

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Postby ecureilx » Fri, 24 Jan 2014 10:46 am

JR8 wrote:One thing you might consider is marriage counselling. Which is seeking to identify any issues, and setting out to resolve them in a cooperative way. It is a logical first step to try and patch things back together.

I realise that such matters can become entrenched and akin to war, it's a hideous experience and best avoided if at all possible.

If I were you I'd start Googling. Start with 'Singapore divorce how' and so on. If you can find a divorce forum or self-help group that would probably be a great resource for you.


helped a couple of friends, one through the Sariyah court, and another, civil court.

in both case, judge sent the couple for counselling, then mediation. .. and then more mediation .. etc. etc.

by then, the 3 year will be up !!

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Postby JR8 » Fri, 24 Jan 2014 11:03 am

ecureilx wrote: helped a couple of friends, one through the Sariyah court, and another, civil court.
in both case, judge sent the couple for counselling, then mediation. .. and then more mediation .. etc. etc.
by then, the 3 year will be up !!


That sounds quite enlightened. IME these days courts want to see that all avenues have been tried before a judgement in divorce proceedings is reached. Of course it can get more complicated if material assets are involved and way*2 more still if children are involved.

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Postby PNGMK » Fri, 24 Jan 2014 4:37 pm

changxin wrote:
PNGMK wrote:
changxin wrote:If I am the one who refuse to having sex and live with him, can I still proceed to divorce or annulment? Between, he not agree to divorce..


1. Divorce in Singapore Family Court required a 3 year separation unless evidence of adultery or abuse etc is presented. Once 3 years passes (or you have evidence of such abuse or adultery from a PI) you can divorce without his permission.

2. You can unilaterally start an annulment if you want to use the reason "marriage never consummated". There's no evidence required; simply a statement. Of course he may say "No, I did have sex with her" in which case you will have some difficulties but IME because an annulment offers a quick way out without issues over property settlement or spousal support he may go along.


1. You mean if I wan to divorce now is impossible unless we had separated for three years?

2. Can I personally filed an annulment? Can you advise me how to do it? I had totally no idea.. Coz he told me we only can divorced after 3 years of marriage..


1. Yes - unless you can prove abuse or adultery.
2. Yes - use a lawyer.

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Postby JR8 » Fri, 24 Jan 2014 4:40 pm

PNGMK, what is this '3 year rule' based upon?

I can't see it serves a useful purpose :???:

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Fri, 24 Jan 2014 5:00 pm

As I understand it, it is similar in concept to the American Legal Separation with the exception it is not entered into via court order. But it is there to give the couple time to possibly work out their differences. Especially if children are involved.

Legal separation (sometimes "judicial separation," "separate maintenance," "divorce a mensa et thoro," or "divorce from bed-and-board") is a legal process by which a married couple may formalize a de facto separation while remaining legally married. A legal separation is granted in the form of a court order.

My 2nd marriage went through the "a mensa et thoro" and it remained there for a couple of years until well after I arrived in Singapore and finally decided I wanted to remarry. At that time, just to make thing expedient, I call the 2nd wife, and sent her the money to pay a lawyer to finalize the divorce prior to marrying here in Singapore.

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Postby PNGMK » Fri, 24 Jan 2014 5:56 pm

JR8 wrote:PNGMK, what is this '3 year rule' based upon?

I can't see it serves a useful purpose :???:


I don't know why it's so long. In Australia it's 12 months.

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Re: Divorce in Singapore

Postby Sendafurn » Mon, 03 Feb 2014 12:14 pm

changxin wrote:Hi all,

I am new to this, but hope to get some advice here..

I am Malaysian and married a Singaporean man 2 years ago at Registry Of Marriage in Singapore. We want to filed a divorce now..

May I know what is the procedures for divorce? Currently I am stay in Malaysia and he stay in Singapore..

Any help would be appreciated.. Thanks..




Hi, u can seek assistance from the Association of Women for Action and Research in Singapore (ie. AWARE) , provides assistance for women in distress seeking counselling, free legal advice , etc ( website http://www.aware.org.sg ). I assumed that your marriage is registered in Singapore

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Postby JR8 » Mon, 03 Feb 2014 12:28 pm

Sendafurn wrote:Hi, u can seek assistance from the Association of Women for Action and Research in Singapore (ie. AWARE) , provides assistance for women in distress seeking counselling, free legal advice , etc ( website http://www.aware.org.sg ). I assumed that your marriage is registered in Singapore


Don't provide it for men too? Shame, 100% sexist then.

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Postby PNGMK » Mon, 03 Feb 2014 1:38 pm

JR8 wrote:
Sendafurn wrote:Hi, u can seek assistance from the Association of Women for Action and Research in Singapore (ie. AWARE) , provides assistance for women in distress seeking counselling, free legal advice , etc ( website http://www.aware.org.sg ). I assumed that your marriage is registered in Singapore


Don't provide it for men too? Shame, 100% sexist then.


While in part I agree I like AWARE. They shut down the pro gay education that was creeping into the Singapore school system and showed Singapore how democracy can work.

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Postby zzm9980 » Mon, 03 Feb 2014 2:25 pm

PNGMK wrote:
JR8 wrote:
Sendafurn wrote:Hi, u can seek assistance from the Association of Women for Action and Research in Singapore (ie. AWARE) , provides assistance for women in distress seeking counselling, free legal advice , etc ( website http://www.aware.org.sg ). I assumed that your marriage is registered in Singapore


Don't provide it for men too? Shame, 100% sexist then.


While in part I agree I like AWARE. They shut down the pro gay education that was creeping into the Singapore school system and showed Singapore how democracy can work.


What's "Pro Gay" education?

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Postby PNGMK » Mon, 03 Feb 2014 6:47 pm

zzm9980 wrote:
PNGMK wrote:
JR8 wrote:
Sendafurn wrote:Hi, u can seek assistance from the Association of Women for Action and Research in Singapore (ie. AWARE) , provides assistance for women in distress seeking counselling, free legal advice , etc ( website http://www.aware.org.sg ). I assumed that your marriage is registered in Singapore


Don't provide it for men too? Shame, 100% sexist then.


While in part I agree I like AWARE. They shut down the pro gay education that was creeping into the Singapore school system and showed Singapore how democracy can work.


What's "Pro Gay" education?


What the west would consider balanced.

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Re: Divorce in Singapore

Postby zzm9980 » Mon, 03 Feb 2014 7:59 pm

PNGMK wrote:
zzm9980 wrote:
PNGMK wrote:
JR8 wrote:
Sendafurn wrote:Hi, u can seek assistance from the Association of Women for Action and Research in Singapore (ie. AWARE) , provides assistance for women in distress seeking counselling, free legal advice , etc ( website http://www.aware.org.sg ). I assumed that your marriage is registered in Singapore


Don't provide it for men too? Shame, 100% sexist then.


While in part I agree I like AWARE. They shut down the pro gay education that was creeping into the Singapore school system and showed Singapore how democracy can work.


What's "Pro Gay" education?


What the west would consider balanced.


So not denying the existence of homosexuals (like say Khatami or Putin would)?


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