I've been through an interesting experience and revelation....
We have a "good" FDW. She's pretty much what most employers want. Good at childcare and housecleaning and cooking. Well behaved (i.e. moral). She's working on a bachelors part time in hotel and tourism and is going to ESL classes and is working towards paying for a house for her husband and herself to move back to in a few years so she has her future in mind.
We are going to give her up in the latter half of the year. What has surprised me is how proprietary we feel about her. When someone (no offense) approached me on the forum about taking her over I was quite 'protective'.... I guess it's because we put in effort to bring her up and she's going to be a bonus to whoever she goes to. We know that she won't go back to a Chinese family and probably not a local family at all.... at our church a few people have enquired and we've demurred.... because we suspect they won't treat her well, (i.e. they go through maids like tissues). It's almost as though she has become a paid adopted daughter and we want her to achieve her goals. This is something I did not expect at all when we took her on and I know the old timers are going to chorus "She's using you, you sucker!" but honestly, she's not.
I don't think there's a morale in the story but to me, it's great to see positive feedback in an individual for effort put in.
