i am a 20 yr old girl from Malaysia and i am looking for a family to live with. i do not have any family or friends and i live alone.
i always wanted a family or someone to run to when things go wrong or someone to talk to. unfortunately i don't have any of it and living alone is killing me from the inside. i just want to be loved and accepted and have a place to belong. i have had a very rough life since i was young.
if you are interested in 'adopting' me then leave me a reply. its like having another child. i hope to be treated as your own and whatever you expect from your own kids, you can expect from me too <3 i can help with chores etc. hey i can look after you when you are older too.
i am not talking about legal adoption. i am obviously too old for that, i don't qualify lol. i am old enough to live with whoever i want but i want it to be a family type platonic relationship. of course i need to make sure the person is safe first.
i am looking for people over 30 doesn't matter male or female or a someone who is married. if you ever wanted a daughter, this would be suitable for you. please drop me a message and introduce yourself and we can discuss further.
i am aware that we live in different countries but i don't think distance matters (since malaysia and sg is so near) if you are really interested in having a daughter figure, we can work things out. people legally 'adopt' kids from overseas all the time and that is a lot more work. by the end of the day, it depends how serious you are about this and how far you are willing to go because i am ready to give this a shot.
i am posting in singapore because there are more expats there and lets face it this sort of relationship is more common among foreigners. locals don't really do things like this (especially if the person is from a different race) they are not as open minded. trust me i have tried looking. :/
hope to hear from you soon! thanks
severin wrote:hello thank you for your message.
yes its dangerous and kinda ridiculous to post something like this but i don't know where else to look.
i have actually tried going to churches. i will admit people are nice there but its just not the same as having a real family. also, everyone tries to make me believe in god etc. eventually i stopped going because it was too much for me to handle.
i have tried taking part in activities to meet new people. i met a lot of people but it didn't work out. i got rejected face to face which is very hurtful. its emotionally exhausting and its makes the whole situation weird. its hard to face them again haha.
so i thought it would be easier to put an advert up and let whoever interested to reply instead. of course i would like to know the person first . i would like to meet them in person and see if we get along and spend time with them etc.
but thank you for your advice! i appreciate it.
severin wrote:1. well the people that i asked, they were not interested in having another child or maybe because i am from a different race. lets face it, 'adoption' is not for everyone haha. that is why i figured its easier to put up an advert and let people who are interested to reply, then meet them.
2. i don't live with my biological family anymore because they are abusive. that is why i am on my own. and no i don't want to get married. lol.
severin wrote:i don't have any friends right now because all my friends have moved on? i met them in school/college and after they have left, we don't meet anymore.
about the people that i have met in real life via sports etc. none of them were interested in taking me in. its not that we didn't get along, they just couldn't do it or didn't want to do it.
i also met people from the internet (i had a similar post on a different website and people replied. so i met them in real life)... first of all most of them were weirdos trying to take advantage of me. the normals ones that i met, sometime we get along sometimes we don't. thats not a surprise. you can't get along with everyone lol. sometimes i don't like the person or the person doesn't like me or we meet a few times and lose interest eventually.
but one thing for sure is. all of the people i met were never really interested in taking me in. they just replied and pretend they are interested. once we meet in real life they just want to be friends or say they can't do it. that is what happens when you post on the internet as a young girl. you attract all the freaks. haha
so no i have never met anyone who is serious about this. hmm...there was only one person who genuine about this and we were doing alright but as time passed we stopped talking and when i asked him whats up he said he has his own issues and he doesn't have the capacity to be my 'dad' anymore. lol. i didn't live with him though. i just saw him once in a while when we were both free.
inside, i know i will never find anyone because i have been looking for years! and it never worked out. and now i am getting 'old' so it sounds strange to people? and i don't understand why because other 20 yr olds have families and that acceptable but when a stranger of the same age is looking for a family its considered weird. but i am still alive so i might as well give it a shot.
severin wrote:just because something is different doesn't mean you have to be afraid of it or assume there is something wrong with me. but its typical human behavior to react negatively to change. so i am not surprised, just annoyed at how ignorant people are.
hobbies? a psychologist? LOL. i just want a family. no one will never know what it feels like unless they have been in the same situation.
i honestly didn't know this would be so hard to understand. i posted here hoping i will come across someone who is interested in what i am looking for but all i am getting are unfruitful replies which are only a waste of time. neither of us are gaining anything from it. let this post be deleted. this is going no where. goodbye.
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