will it get blacklist

[bongirl]

nilnil

[JR8]

Perhaps you should elaborate further on what the situation is, and how it came about?

And what industry? Some industries here are quite incestuous, i.e. they're small, and people talk.

Blacklist, official or unofficial? From first hand experience here, I've seen a 'nutter' outed and hence unofficially excluded from the banking/finance industry.

[bongirl]

nahnahnah

[bongirl]

i m trying to pm. but its says cant i try to elaborate more in the pm. But do they really blacklist? As i have check with some seniors, they say quarreling wont matters across. unless criminal records as it is more strict with.

[JR8]

People don't get 'black-listed' from an industry as a result of a simple disagreement, or clash of personalities.

The example I noted, was more of a pathological psych-disfunction.*


* I don't say that lightly. We had two small branches (staff = 100?), one at Raffles Place, the other 'Private Client' nearby in a posher place.

She got canned from RP, and should have been very, very... veeeery, grateful she was not reported to the police considering what she did. I think the position was, 'withhold rice, but don't smash the rice-bowl'. And yet, two weeks later she was applying for a job at our other branch!

Like no one would know Like sacking a cleaner for theft, only for her to next week apply for a cleaning job at your mums place on the adjacent street.

I remember even now, the amazement: 'Hey JR8, you won't believe this, Psycho has only gone and applied for a job over at Private Client!!!'. Me: You're 'kin kidding me!!

[bongirl]

nilnilnil

[JR8]

I’m not a doctor and can’t diagnose people, especially the subtle shades of grey of psychiatry. But there are times, you can’t but help draw something of an informed opinion.

Most nutters work extremely hard to appear normal, day by day by day*. They will avoid a psychiatrist like the plague, in case their true self is revealed. Occasionally the mask slips, and you see revealed their true self.

What does ‘not liking me’ matter? Why is your ego so dependent on how your colleagues at work speak to you? Perhaps identify, honestly, if the issue is you or them, then avoid 'them' in future, or, work on becoming more (genuinely) likeable.




*The same could be said of alcoholics and junkies.

[eastcoastsg]

If you seriously think you were overreacting, make sure you learn a lesson from that whole experience. Mere perception of what someone else thinks of you isn't worth your job, is it?

[bongirl]

phewww

[PNGMK]

eastcoastsg sure will learn from this. Also, lucky enough small incident never got a blacklist phewww...

If you're talking about the FA (flight attendant) industry you would know that senior colleagues can and do blacklist others by refusing to have them on their crew.... this leaves the black listed person out in the cold and unemployable eventually. It's the same in the offshore industry.

[livingontheedge]

Your Senior has to be "really" Senior to certain heights in the organization structure to do that but then again, at that level, I doubt he/she would care enough to do so.

Though you don't get blacklisted, you should be concerned if your prospective employer decides to do a background check and happens to get in touch with your previous Senior or someone whom your previous Senior had been talking to..........that may pose a problem.

Nonetheless from my personal experience - my clashes (which I did throw in some vulgarities into the argument) - didn't come back to haunt me.