Whilst I was not the only child in my family, I was after all Msian chinese educated in Msia during my primary and secondary years. OH, not the only child either but his parents outsourced their parental duties to the school since the age of 6/7. We only have 1 kid, 14. Compared to angmoh kids back in London, yes, she is better behaved etc etc. Compare her to local SG kids and she is..................alien.

There were courses at work about Parenting Teens, I went out of curiousity and found that my fears were totally different from theirs. Mine were sex, drugs and alchol. Theirs were too much computer time, not performing well in school and not getting straight As.
She would go from a nice, pretty decent kid and we would be having a banter to her flipping and being nasty, hurtful, judgmental. Basically knowing it all. To some extent, I don't want to come down hard on her as she is generally a good kid, she do well in school, not into the drinking, smoking etc. On the other hand, its all about "I want" "I told you". I try so hard to not lose my temper and yell and say things that I cannot retrack later like you selfish little bitch do you even understand..... I wait for her to chill or calm down whenever she flipped, whereas OH fights fire with fire which to my opinion is dangerous.
So, come share, advise etc. I feel like pulling my hair out today and sort the calmness of work