Wow, 17 years! You have chosen the perfect nick for yourself
When we were in similar situation 2 years back, my thinking was completely opposite. I have absolutely 0 leverage here. Luckily in our customs/traditions the 1st child is supposed to be born at the wife's parents place and they are supposed to take care of the whole thing, kind of an extended dowry
But seriously, I can't imagine the stress I would have had to go through if we were to have the delivery done here. With both of us very inexperienced, being the 1st child. India, ofcourse is completely opposite. My inlaws place is a big joint family with like 3 generations living together(our baby was the 1st child in the 4th generation
) and so much of experience and the ceremonies and festive atmosphere associated with it, can never be replicated in Singapore.
But I also know several colleagues of mine who have handled the delivery of 1st child/2nd child here all by themselves, without any help, here in Singapore. Hats off to them.