Given the awkwardness of being a live-in helper, I would go out of my way to accomodate whatever requests they have. Eat with us, eat alone, whatever she prefers.Hannieroo wrote:Jeez. The lady we have starting has stated she would rather eat alone and I'm not comfortable with it. If it's because of professional boundaries and a desire for peace then great but I suspect it's not. Dunno what to do there.
And personally, when I leave the trollet (cart!) at the very far edge of the car park, or even the next HDB car park over, I feel no guilt. Because I know some auntie or uncle who would otherwise be cursing the Ang Moh Devil is instead laughing and grateful at Ang Moh giving him a dollar.x9200 wrote:It's not about taking the trolley home (BTW, I saw one couple near Jurong Point doing this) - still this would be a theft IMHO, but to discipline people so the trolleys will be in the designated places and not over the whole carpark for example. I am very sure this would be the case if no coin goes inside.
Yes, I've bought a small table with two chairs and a little radio to go in the kitchen. To be honest I'd like to eat alone occasionally.zzm9980 wrote:Given the awkwardness of being a live-in helper, I would go out of my way to accomodate whatever requests they have. Eat with us, eat alone, whatever she prefers.Hannieroo wrote:Jeez. The lady we have starting has stated she would rather eat alone and I'm not comfortable with it. If it's because of professional boundaries and a desire for peace then great but I suspect it's not. Dunno what to do there.
Yes, we get this a lot wherever we have lived. Would it really harm them to get an automatic opener. FFS if they have enough money for a landed home perhaps they could ....Hannieroo wrote:I sense and I most certainly hear my neighbours talk to their ladies. Next door beep their horn rather than opening the gates themselves.
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You know you can justify this way every single act of messing up in the public space... Besides, 25 cents coins also fit in many places. The Angmoh will be cursed in such case.zzm9980 wrote:And personally, when I leave the trollet (cart!) at the very far edge of the car park, or even the next HDB car park over, I feel no guilt. Because I know some auntie or uncle who would otherwise be cursing the Ang Moh Devil is instead laughing and grateful at Ang Moh giving him a dollar.x9200 wrote:It's not about taking the trolley home (BTW, I saw one couple near Jurong Point doing this) - still this would be a theft IMHO, but to discipline people so the trolleys will be in the designated places and not over the whole carpark for example. I am very sure this would be the case if no coin goes inside.
Tried a US quarter in vending machines here once. I felt like a badass!x9200 wrote:You know you can justify this way every single act of messing up in the public space... Besides, 25 cents coins also fit in many places. The Angmoh will be cursed in such case.zzm9980 wrote:And personally, when I leave the trollet (cart!) at the very far edge of the car park, or even the next HDB car park over, I feel no guilt. Because I know some auntie or uncle who would otherwise be cursing the Ang Moh Devil is instead laughing and grateful at Ang Moh giving him a dollar.x9200 wrote:It's not about taking the trolley home (BTW, I saw one couple near Jurong Point doing this) - still this would be a theft IMHO, but to discipline people so the trolleys will be in the designated places and not over the whole carpark for example. I am very sure this would be the case if no coin goes inside.
We have similar quandries and are trying to work out a way to split the kitchen / maids room off with some sort of bead curtain to provide some mutual privacy and separation.Hannieroo wrote:Yes, I've bought a small table with two chairs and a little radio to go in the kitchen. To be honest I'd like to eat alone occasionally.zzm9980 wrote:Given the awkwardness of being a live-in helper, I would go out of my way to accomodate whatever requests they have. Eat with us, eat alone, whatever she prefers.Hannieroo wrote:Jeez. The lady we have starting has stated she would rather eat alone and I'm not comfortable with it. If it's because of professional boundaries and a desire for peace then great but I suspect it's not. Dunno what to do there.
You keep your maid in the Kitchen and/or laundry/utility room?PNGMK wrote: We have similar quandries and are trying to work out a way to split the kitchen / maids room off with some sort of bead curtain to provide some mutual privacy and separation.
I have a specific room (in a condo) for her - it's neither a utility room or laundry - it's a separate room large enough for a single bed and wardrobe - probably 3 x 5 m? - near the second entrance with a lockable door. She is very happy with it.sundaymorningstaple wrote:You keep your maid in the Kitchen and/or laundry/utility room?PNGMK wrote: We have similar quandries and are trying to work out a way to split the kitchen / maids room off with some sort of bead curtain to provide some mutual privacy and separation.
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