Sergei82 wrote:Hannieroo wrote:Domestic violence is the woman's fault...
Most of the time if not always.
You got abused - you left the abuser - I feel compassionate.
You got abused, you forgave and got abused again, you left the abuser - well, still pity on you - foolishly forgiving the 1st time.
You are getting abused times and times again by the same person - you're a freaking masochist, isn't it? That is disgusting, stay away from me!
But Sergei, it is really not that simple. You see it from your own perspective and you are a self confident, probably strong will, independent person. For you it is a piece of cake to say kiss my a** and wave goodbye, but this is not universally true and it is unfair to shift responsibility and blame somebody just because he or she is not strong enough. It take some if not a lot of strengths to leave someone, start a new life, often find a job after years outside the market, take care of kids (if the case) and in some places, including Singapore, to live with a stigma of being a single mother. On top of this, there is still this stupid thing called love and this has not much to do with acting reasonably. If you have been made unwillingly a drug addict, would it be your fault?
To the point. If there is just a loud argument I would do nothing. If there is violence I would probably step in but unlikely physically. I would shout loud at them to stop. If it would turn violent against me I would step back and call police. It is hard to generalize because it would also depend how they behave, is this like and "equal" fight (they are pushing each other around), or one person clearly gets victimized.