Sergei82 wrote:You go, guys, interrupt them. But when you're being beaten by both of them at the same time, I will not step in - will be just watching and eating popcorn.
At most - I will call police if it looks serious, but I will not get my share of beating because somebody was not smart enough to stand aside and let the couple enjoy their quarrel (that is exactly what is happening, although you may think they are suffering).
I think this is a good point. In some relationships bullying or violence forms an intrinsic part, as necessary as a skeleton to an animal.
I am NOT saying it is right, particularly as I once found myself on the receiving end for a year, until I found the focus to see the wood for the trees, and escape it. Battered wife syndrome runs both way, and is not at all uncommon. An associated book title posits the contradiction of why such relations often endure: 'I hate you, don't leave me'. Two psychologically '''unbalanced''' people who have hooked up like jigsaw pieces.
So, the point is, what for you might be domestic violence, for others is an every day part of the dynamics of a relationship. When you're hit every day, being hit is normal. And some stranger on the street coming up to you and your abuser, and threatening to interrupt your normal dynamic, and start a fight... it's like, who are you, what's your problem FO will ya!
Yes, it's complicated.