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Postby PNGMK » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 2:12 pm

Hannieroo wrote:We're human and I could easily pop my eldest three times a week. But you just don't. You don't hit. I can't imagine seeing fear in my boy's eyes.

Good on you.


It was the look on the lads face that prompted me to act actually. He looked both ashamed, defiant and afraid. His father was the size of an All Black.

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Postby nakatago » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 2:20 pm

I was hit a lot when I was a wee lad, even for the smallest infarctions. Those who know me can vouch how messed up in the head I am.

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Postby Sergei82 » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 2:34 pm

I was punished by hitting every so often by my parents in my childhood. I think, that's one of the contributing factors I'm not communicating with my parents at all for quite long already.

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Postby the lynx » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 2:37 pm

I was horrified by a public child whacking scene I was forced to witness in IMM last year.

Young parents rushed to catch the lift I was in, dragging a very young boy along. He lost his footing and fell forward right in front of the lift. It obviously hurt him because he cried.

The father angrily picked him up from the floor with one arm and dragged him into the lift. The boy continued crying (I think it was more of because his father gripped and pulled his arm too hard). That horrible man scolded him for falling down and spanked him. The boy cried louder. The father shouted and spanked him even more because he was crying.

"See la! Why you fall, huh?!" (spank, pull)

"Why you crying, ah?! Stop crying!" (spank, spank)

"Cry some more for what? I said stop crying!" (spank, spank, spank)

Good thing the family got off the lift after going up one floor (why would they want to take a lift for that?!), otherwise I'd have grabbed his arm from behind to stop him.

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Postby x9200 » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 3:41 pm

As far as I know it is almost at the loosing face level to do something like this in public so if you see it, just think what is going on behind, in the homes.

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Postby nakatago » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 3:46 pm

x9200 wrote:As far as I know it is almost at the loosing face level to do something like this in public so if you see it, just think what is going on behind, in the homes.


From what I can deduce, some people just have very poor control over themselves that they just have to act out their disappointment by spanking an already shaken child who, aside from receiving one of many scoldings of a lifetime, will still receive spanks or pinches. And sometimes in public.

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Postby Hannieroo » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 4:37 pm

Pinching? FFS. You should only touch your children with love. Although if big boy keeps playing his bloody bangra at full blast I might kill him.

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Postby nakatago » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 5:46 pm

Hannieroo wrote:Pinching? FFS. You should only touch your children with love. Although if big boy keeps playing his bloody bangra at full blast I might kill him.


And this is just Filipinos: http://business.inquirer.net/13787/corp ... e-or-abuse

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Postby JR8 » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 7:28 pm

Hannieroo wrote:The hitting is horrid. They were debating it on the radio yesterday and getting 'beaten up' never harmed them. Apparently.


Just to clarify:

It was a mixed group, maybe 6-8 adults, +c6 children: men with lots of tatts and a couple of the women looked polynesian (some tatts too). I don't know if that suggests Kiwis...

In any case a pretty rough looking crowd, and pretty rough behaviour towards the children too. A bit like encountering a bunch of trailer-park people at The Raffles.

But that said, I KNOW not to judge by looks alone... so please take all of this as a visual first impressions (which are usually wrong) ok...

[If I continue to bitch about then down the line, then fair enough, a spade is a spade ;-D)

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Postby Hannieroo » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 7:31 pm

I know what you mean. But I am tattooed so as you say it's just first impressions and not a therefore.

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Postby katbh » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 8:33 pm

My god Hannieroo...you get more and more complicated each post!

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Postby x9200 » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 8:56 pm

JR8 wrote:- Glossy carpark floors making cars, even at 2mph, squeal like in a 70s Starsky & Hutch show.

You don't want to know how it is to ride a motorbike on something like this when it rains outside. Almost all my near fall slippery encounters I had in the carparks.

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Postby nakatago » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 8:59 pm

x9200 wrote:
JR8 wrote:- Glossy carpark floors making cars, even at 2mph, squeal like in a 70s Starsky & Hutch show.

You don't want to know how it is to ride a motorbike on something like this when it rains outside. Almost all my near fall slippery encounters I had in the carparks.


Try just walking. This is just as bad as the tiles.

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Postby JR8 » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 9:11 pm

nakatago wrote:Try just walking. This is just as bad as the tiles.



Yah true. Some years back, I did the splits and fell over, in the basement carpark at Ngee Ann, on a pool of condensate from a cars air-con.

Kin hurt going arse up. If in the US I expect it would have been expected that I sue and make big$... back in the real world, it's just lousy design.

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Postby Max Headroom » Thu, 13 Jun 2013 9:30 pm

JR8 wrote:- Electric bicycles
- Cina slang - 'Eheheheh-eh' [+ outstretched arm + hand flapping downwards], apparently meaning Yes (or no) ?


It means come here. Western peeps gesture "come here" palm upwards, but in Asia that's considered rude.


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