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Postby JR8 » Wed, 06 Mar 2013 8:29 pm

The Ivy League universities in the US have a written code (Antioch Rules*). That formalises and controls dating and sexual interactions between the genders. The uber-feminist concept, is to protect female students from being '''forced''' into one-night-stands (which they assert if not far separated from rape).

And that's 1st world thinking is it? :twisted: :P


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Postby zzm9980 » Thu, 07 Mar 2013 12:26 pm

JR8 wrote:I think one has to be careful not to see and judge via the prism of your own culture and social mores.


And conversely, you can't judge solely by a country's GDP either. That was my only point. I know Iran is much better off than most of the rest of the world. But you judge a society by multiple factors. I'm sure we could find something barbaric or obscene about most any country/culture. Even those Scandinavians.

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Postby rajagainstthemachine » Thu, 07 Mar 2013 1:17 pm

zzm9980 wrote:
JR8 wrote:I think one has to be careful not to see and judge via the prism of your own culture and social mores.


And conversely, you can't judge solely by a country's GDP either. That was my only point. I know Iran is much better off than most of the rest of the world. But you judge a society by multiple factors. I'm sure we could find something barbaric or obscene about most any country/culture. Even those Scandinavians.

yes but now what matters is how Singapore views a possible marital relationship between the OP and her bf.
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Postby zzm9980 » Thu, 07 Mar 2013 4:42 pm

rajagainstthemachine wrote:yes but now what matters is how Singapore views a possible marital relationship between the OP and her bf.


And they will see someone coming from a place that that lots of people want to GTFO of, thus raising dramatically the possibility this is a marriage of convenience.

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Thu, 07 Mar 2013 4:56 pm

So we are back to what I stated in my 2nd post. :-|

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Postby Mad Scientist » Thu, 07 Mar 2013 5:20 pm

It can be done. If you are a Muslim woman and so does he. Seek MUIS help . Been there and done that for my mate from Turkistan. Apart from the ICA guideline of LTVP . You need to sponsor him to stay here.
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Postby zzm9980 » Thu, 07 Mar 2013 8:39 pm

Mad Scientist wrote:It can be done. If you are a Muslim woman and so does he.


He is also a muslim woman?! What about Section 377A? :P :twisted:

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Thu, 07 Mar 2013 8:54 pm

MS, the key words here, I believe, are "boyfriend". They are not even married at this point. It's going to look like a marriage of convenience, muslim or otherwise, I'd guess.

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Postby enslaved » Fri, 08 Mar 2013 4:13 pm

Lynnngsl,

Well don't consider about getting him relocated here, as determining factor for going ahead with your marriage. If he is good, get married, and forget about rest. If not possible to get him a visa, just go with him. When there is love, the struggle will be entertaining you.

Btw, what zzm say here is partially true, but Iran is far far cultured and humane than rest of the countries surrounding it. The Arab countries are the worst. Atleast, your boyfriend is not from there. Iran is a conservative society, but women have a great respect and freedom unlike other Muslim world.

Lastly, one should not judge any country based on their culture with reference to your culture. For example, the Singapore MRT users, working women's dresses are far beyond the margins of obscenity and pornography even by western/european/american standards. If we can just learn to be like the others of any country, the life will be great. So you can simply go to Iran. After all, Iran is not like India (my country) or philippines, where corruption and insanity is very high, and you can't be honest if you want to live like others in these countries.

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Postby Wd40 » Fri, 08 Mar 2013 7:58 pm

zzm9980 wrote:
rajagainstthemachine wrote:yes but now what matters is how Singapore views a possible marital relationship between the OP and her bf.


And they will see someone coming from a place that that lots of people want to GTFO of, thus raising dramatically the possibility this is a marriage of convenience.


I can bet you ratiowise there are more SGns who want to GTFO of here than Iranians out of their own country :P

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Postby JR8 » Sat, 09 Mar 2013 1:37 am

enslaved wrote: Lastly, one should not judge any country based on their culture with reference to your culture. For example, the Singapore MRT users, working women's dresses are far beyond the margins of obscenity and pornography even by western/european/american standards.


LOL! :lol: You've just done what you've demanded people shouldn't do. Judge people based upon their own culture.

And you think females on the MRT dress obscenely and pornographically!?

Are you bitter and gay, a religious zealot, or both?

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Postby rajagainstthemachine » Sat, 09 Mar 2013 10:09 am

enslaved wrote:Lynnngsl,

but Iran is far far cultured and humane than rest of the countries surrounding it.

lol

The Arab countries are the worst. Atleast, your boyfriend is not from there.

lol

Iran is a conservative society, but women have a great respect and freedom unlike other Muslim world.

lol


Lastly, one should not judge any country based on their culture with reference to your culture.

okay

For example, the Singapore MRT users, working women's dresses are far beyond the margins of obscenity and pornography even by western/european/american standards.

hey you judged you hypocrite!

If we can just learn to be like the others of any country, the life will be great.

just who are you ? sai baba?


So you can simply go to Iran. After all, Iran is not like India (my country) or philippines, where corruption and insanity is very high, and you can't be honest if you want to live like others in these countries.

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Postby enslaved » Sat, 09 Mar 2013 11:08 pm

Raj,

Your nick sounds like my country man. Well, Raj have you visited Iran ? At least have you been to international university campuses ? You can see many Iranian women. Have you noticed any women from other countries surrounding it in such campuses. Don't you come to know that they have right to travel alone to a foriegn country to study ?

Is there any women taxi drivers in other countries surrounding Iran ?

Have you watched Iranian Movies in which women have the right to act ? Do you know that many Iranian movies have got international awards

And you want to laugh ? well go ahead. And I note thing. When I said that most of my country men are insane in my previous post you didn't say, "LOL". seems you agree with it. That shows why want to laugh. You simply typed, "LOL" for the rest of my quote. Can you share your experience ? And have you come across series of gang rapes in Iran like that happen in your country? Or like the acid-throws on women that happen in your country?

JR8,

I said it by "western standards" where you don't find a girl going to work in babydoll dresses, don't you agree? You will find babydoll dress in the category of lingerie, can you find that out from some pornsite?

Editing to add this: Like babydoll dresses when someone stand nearby me wearing it :) that is one of the attractive things in Singapore I find.

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Postby rajagainstthemachine » Sat, 09 Mar 2013 11:56 pm

enslaved wrote:Raj,

Your nick sounds like my country man. Well, Raj have you visited Iran ? At least have you been to international university campuses ? You can see many Iranian women. Have you noticed any women from other countries surrounding it in such campuses. Don't you come to know that they have right to travel alone to a foriegn country to study ?

Is there any women taxi drivers in other countries surrounding Iran ?

Have you watched Iranian Movies in which women have the right to act ? Do you know that many Iranian movies have got international awards

And you want to laugh ? well go ahead. And I note thing. When I said that most of my country men are insane in my previous post you didn't say, "LOL". seems you agree with it. That shows why want to laugh. You simply typed, "LOL" for the rest of my quote. Can you share your experience ? And have you come across series of gang rapes in Iran like that happen in your country? Or like the acid-throws on women that happen in your country?

JR8,

I said it by "western standards" where you don't find a girl going to work in babydoll dresses, don't you agree? You will find babydoll dress in the category of lingerie, can you find that out from some pornsite?


Yes I am from India and I've lived there all my life until now and I find you quite close minded.
I haven't been to Iran but I've talked to several people who've escaped from there and don't want to live there anymore. The Iran from the era of the Shah is different from the current one.
I don't understand your ramble about universities and how that fits in this discussion you started.
You also made a reference in your earlier post to the OP's bf and how she should be thankful that hes not from an Arab country. Do you have an agenda against Arabs but not Iranians? your posts seem to suggest so.

rapes happen everywhere India,Iran, south africa, etc etc and Iran is no different, here let me help you out http://bit.ly/WABzL2
maybe you can see a video that will clear your delusional mind.

your comments regarding the way women dress here shows once again how close minded you are considering you are from India, have you even read the preamble to our constitution especially about the part of freedom of expression?
well girls running around partially naked, fully naked, naked , revealing, semi revealing and all the other possible ways of hiding or showing flesh are examples of individual expression.
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Postby zzm9980 » Sun, 10 Mar 2013 9:41 am

enslaved wrote: I said it by "western standards" where you don't find a girl going to work in babydoll dresses, don't you agree? You will find babydoll dress in the category of lingerie, can you find that out from some pornsite?

Editing to add this: Like babydoll dresses when someone stand nearby me wearing it :) that is one of the attractive things in Singapore I find.


You really need to visit the west, and not just whatever suburban office parks and business hotels you may have seen during a business trip.


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