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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Thu, 14 Feb 2013 2:16 pm

rajagainstthemachine wrote:A
hanging out with white girls in western countries
crowd response: couldn't care less


Obviously you haven't tried that too much in Australia, have you? :lol:

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Postby x9200 » Thu, 14 Feb 2013 2:27 pm

WanWanWan wrote:Hookay, so this thread went in some strange directions!

If you read my original posts, you'll see my issue: what other people think is not my business. It is a problem, however, when we are refused service, accosted by complete strangers, etc. several times a week. I was more interested if these things happen in Singapore. Staring is merely unpleasant and frankly not worth worrying much about.

One of the reasons we get so much trouble is that we are the opposite of what happens more frequently: Asian male, Caucasian female. Apparently we are thus the spawn of Satan. My own family actually disowned me for marrying, so neither of us are really going to let what some racist idiots think affect things. It's just when we aren't able to buy a car because "we don't sell to your type" that we take umbrage.

I would be very surprised if you will get in Singapore anything worse than just some curious looks. And I would not be surprised if majority of these looks are friendly. You (3xWan) will be likely seen as a winner and your wife as not a typical, arrogant AngMoh (that's the stereotype).
Yes, I still remember what you wrote in your initial post, but I really think you got it wrong.

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Thu, 14 Feb 2013 2:32 pm

Yes, 3Wan will defo rise up in stature in the eyes of his ethic peers here. They will have eyes all green with envy. So enjoy the idol worship you receive.

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Postby rajagainstthemachine » Thu, 14 Feb 2013 2:33 pm

sundaymorningstaple wrote:
rajagainstthemachine wrote:A
hanging out with white girls in western countries
crowd response: couldn't care less


Obviously you haven't tried that too much in Australia, have you? :lol:


In fact Australia is the only place where i've tried it :-| :-|

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Postby alexalex » Thu, 14 Feb 2013 5:38 pm

I'm Caucasian and my husband is Chinese. We met in Singapore and we stay in a HDB in a mature estate. We haven't experienced anything negative at all, but we get quite a number of questions from curious uncles and aunties.

My hubby gets asked, "Whoa, where you meet ang moh lady?!"

And I get asked, "Your kid got to do NS or not?!"

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Thu, 14 Feb 2013 9:27 pm

:lol: No doubt!

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Postby mummy mantras » Fri, 15 Feb 2013 12:19 pm

alexalex wrote:I'm Caucasian and my husband is Chinese. We met in Singapore and we stay in a HDB in a mature estate. We haven't experienced anything negative at all, but we get quite a number of questions from curious uncles and aunties.


My folks get the same looks (and usually broad smiles!) whenever they are in Singapore (my mum is Dutch and my dad is British-born Chinese).

And when they go out with me (I'm obviously Eurasian, and the product of their union) and my hubby (Peranakan Singaporean guy), and our adorable daughters, all the neighbourhood aunties and uncles coo in delight.

In fact, there are several mixed race couples in our HDB block and no one seems in the least bit bothered by it. My next door neighbour is 'Chindian' (half Chinese and half Indian) and he's married to a Malay lady. A few floors above us lives a Japanese lady whose Singaporean husband is half Indian and half French. Down the corridor lives a Chinese lady who married a Eurasian man.

So, as a mixed race couple, my hubby and I hardly stand out, in fact. :wink:

In complete contrast, you won't believe the things that my parents and I have been called back in the UK. Sigh...

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Postby LongTimeHere » Fri, 15 Feb 2013 1:52 pm

We all came as bachelors in our early 20's many years ago. Many among us married Chinese Singaporeans and we all dated them. Despite the racism that we face there are some very nice Singaporeans and I count many Chinese amongst my friends so your experience, given your profile is quite an eye opener for me. I always thought it be very very positive.

Also on a different note there is much being said about expat Indians not assimilating with local Indians. I can't speak for those who came after the immigration floodgate was opened but we who came in the mid-1990's tried to but were treated like vermin. It was only later when the income gap became apparent and we started moving into private property, bought cars etc that all the complaints started. Even back in the 1990's there were very few local Indian's working in MNC's & that wasn't anything we caused.

Don't you start dating with people you meet at/around work? what do you do if none of the females in your office are from your race but otherwise very friendly? go over to Little India or in a disco where they converse or play music in a language you don't even understand?

Despite the racism we found the Chinese to be much more welcoming and that can be seen in the many Indian Expat+Local Chinese couples today.

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Postby Saint » Fri, 15 Feb 2013 2:45 pm

I reckon at least 90% of my western mates are either married or partners are Asian. I'm actually struggling to think of more than 2 non mixed couples I know well!

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Postby morenangpinay » Fri, 15 Feb 2013 3:58 pm

I think it is worse when the hubby isnt working...the aunties and uncles would gossip and roll their eyes. ex. when we were checking out our new place, the tenant and the owner gossip bout the ang mo neighbor who are both caucasians but the husband is a stay at home dad.

and the next thing i knew, the neighbors were also gossiping bout us

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Postby Sergei82 » Fri, 15 Feb 2013 4:03 pm

morenangpinay wrote:I think it is worse when the hubby isnt working...the aunties and uncles would gossip and roll their eyes. ex. when we were checking out our new place, the tenant and the owner gossip bout the ang mo neighbor who are both caucasians but the husband is a stay at home dad.

and the next thing i knew, the neighbors were also gossiping bout us

Why I thought you are Filipina???????

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Fri, 15 Feb 2013 4:26 pm

She is. Reread her post carefully. :wink:

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Postby Wd40 » Fri, 15 Feb 2013 5:59 pm

LongTimeHere wrote:We all came as bachelors in our early 20's many years ago. Many among us married Chinese Singaporeans and we all dated them. Despite the racism that we face there are some very nice Singaporeans and I count many Chinese amongst my friends so your experience, given your profile is quite an eye opener for me. I always thought it be very very positive.

Also on a different note there is much being said about expat Indians not assimilating with local Indians. I can't speak for those who came after the immigration floodgate was opened but we who came in the mid-1990's tried to but were treated like vermin. It was only later when the income gap became apparent and we started moving into private property, bought cars etc that all the complaints started. Even back in the 1990's there were very few local Indian's working in MNC's & that wasn't anything we caused.

Don't you start dating with people you meet at/around work? what do you do if none of the females in your office are from your race but otherwise very friendly? go over to Little India or in a disco where they converse or play music in a language you don't even understand?

Despite the racism we found the Chinese to be much more welcoming and that can be seen in the many Indian Expat+Local Chinese couples today.


For those who want to know more about Indians congregating together and forming ghettos, there is nice article in one of the local bird cage liners. Google for "Simei's Little India"

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Postby trebleclef81 » Sat, 16 Feb 2013 11:40 am

Brah wrote:[quote="Wd40"The version of Tamil that Singaporeans speak is actually very antique and .... some of the perceptions they have about India are also about a century old :)

Kinda like some of the people's names I've heard since I've been here.

Some are so antiquated I had to bite my tongue. Can't think of any ATM.[/quote]

i can think of a few... Doris/Dorothy/Agnes...

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Postby Wd40 » Sat, 16 Feb 2013 11:44 am

The most common "alias" names here are Jason, Desmond, Daniel, William, Tony, Steven, Brian, Terence, Alvin, Kelvin.. typical real estate agents have these names.


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