If staring were an Olympic sport, Singapore would definitely be in with a chance for the Gold.bluenose wrote:I was in a coffe house on Monday morning with a mate...when in walks my 12 year old step-daughter (Local).....
Friend said ' wow did you see them all staring at you two'?....yep I said, we get it all the time.....possibly they think she is my child bride or something....as long as it keeps them happy eh...nosing at me!
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Gee, I don't know. Those construction workers are not from Singapore.Mi Amigo wrote:If staring were an Olympic sport, Singapore would definitely be in with a chance for the Gold.bluenose wrote:I was in a coffe house on Monday morning with a mate...when in walks my 12 year old step-daughter (Local).....
Friend said ' wow did you see them all staring at you two'?....yep I said, we get it all the time.....possibly they think she is my child bride or something....as long as it keeps them happy eh...nosing at me!

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+1Mi Amigo wrote:If staring were an Olympic sport, Singapore would definitely be in with a chance for the Gold.bluenose wrote:I was in a coffe house on Monday morning with a mate...when in walks my 12 year old step-daughter (Local).....
Friend said ' wow did you see them all staring at you two'?....yep I said, we get it all the time.....possibly they think she is my child bride or something....as long as it keeps them happy eh...nosing at me!
So how do you (all, not just Mi Amigo) deal with that?
The stares are most often at my other half, and I return the stare into that person's eyes. But most when finally realizing that, still have no shame. Sometimes I say something, other times either my other half or I say to the other in Japanese "they are looking too much", loud enough for them to hear and know we are now talking about them. But I don't like any of this.
Another way might work better.
Sometimes we feel like fish in a fishbowl.
A while back my (Spanish) wife made a comment about 'mixed marriages' and I replied "what, you mean like us?" - she hadn't thought of it that way before. We still get plenty of stares, even though we're both European and don't look to be from different countries. Almost everyone seems to stare here - Singaporeans and foreign workers; the only ones who don't do it (blatantly at least) seem to be those from 'western' cultures.Brah wrote:+1Mi Amigo wrote:If staring were an Olympic sport, Singapore would definitely be in with a chance for the Gold.
So how do you (all, not just Mi Amigo) deal with that?
The stares are most often at my other half, and I return the stare into that person's eyes. But most when finally realizing that, still have no shame. Sometimes I say something, other times either my other half or I say to the other in Japanese "they are looking too much", loud enough for them to hear and know we are now talking about them. But I don't like any of this.
Another way might work better.
Sometimes we feel like fish in a fishbowl.
Fishbowl is a good way to describe it. I often stare back and then pull a funny face if necessay, or if I'm with my wife we'll start talking about the starer(s) in Spanish. It's funny to see their frustration, given that it's unlikely they'll understand what we're saying. At which point I think to myself "Now you know what it's like for me when you talk about me in Chinese."
I don't think there's any more subtle way of dealing with it, but if anyone has any suggestions I'd be glad to hear them.
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Yes, they do stare at me when I am alone as well. I think, if you will be looking hard for somebody to stare at you, you can always find one or two guys around. Doesn't matter if you're in couple or not. I think, OP is connecting the cause and the reasons incorrectly.
Interracial "coupling" is a way of living in Singapore - a lot of people with extremely mixed heritage (I call them 2-legged cocktails, or salads
).
Other thing, it looks like OP is pressed with some prejudices about the subject himself.
Interracial "coupling" is a way of living in Singapore - a lot of people with extremely mixed heritage (I call them 2-legged cocktails, or salads

Other thing, it looks like OP is pressed with some prejudices about the subject himself.
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No SH*T!zzm9980 wrote:And then they get married.sundaymorningstaple wrote:I'm guessing the biggest White Male fantasy is a small, young nubile girl with a subservient nature (not saying this is, in any way, the case) with exotic features. Asian, for the average WM would be the epitome of that fantasy I would think.

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Excellent point!morenangpinay wrote:in my observation...not a fact just opinion. the caucasian female and asian male couple is not common because maybe generally females in westernized environment are more strong willed and opinionated. Its a bit overwhelming for an asian man.
SOME PEOPLE TRY TO TURN BACK THEIR ODOMETERS. NOT ME. I WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW WHY I LOOK THIS WAY. I'VE TRAVELED A LONG WAY, AND SOME OF THE ROADS WEREN'T PAVED. ~ Will Rogers
Excellent point also!Steve1960 wrote:Come to that it's a bit overwhelming for a western guy toomorenangpinay wrote:in my observation...not a fact just opinion. the caucasian female and asian male couple is not common because maybe generally females in westernized environment are more strong willed and opinionated. Its a bit overwhelming for an asian man.

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I also get the same thing when it's just me and my daughter somewhere as she looks like a fair northern indian and she's 28 (with me being a dirty old man of 65). Just about right. She's as bad as I am for giving 'em a reason to gossip as invariably, if she notices something like that, she squeal with glee and give me a big old huge just to agitate 'em even more. Now I've don't lost her to a bear of a guy. Guess it had to happen sooner or later!bluenose wrote:I was in a coffe house on Monday morning with a mate...when in walks my 12 year old step-daughter (Local).....
Friend said ' wow did you see them all staring at you two'?....yep I said, we get it all the time.....possibly they think she is my child bride or something....as long as it keeps them happy eh...nosing at me!

SOME PEOPLE TRY TO TURN BACK THEIR ODOMETERS. NOT ME. I WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW WHY I LOOK THIS WAY. I'VE TRAVELED A LONG WAY, AND SOME OF THE ROADS WEREN'T PAVED. ~ Will Rogers
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Sergei, what the hell do you expect! You look like Arnold Schwarzenegger with a 12" sawn off'n your legs.Sergei82 wrote:Yes, they do stare at me when I am alone as well. I think, if you will be looking hard for somebody to stare at you, you can always find one or two guys around. Doesn't matter if you're in couple or not. I think, OP is connecting the cause and the reasons incorrectly.
Interracial "coupling" is a way of living in Singapore - a lot of people with extremely mixed heritage (I call them 2-legged cocktails, or salads).
Other thing, it looks like OP is pressed with some prejudices about the subject himself.

SOME PEOPLE TRY TO TURN BACK THEIR ODOMETERS. NOT ME. I WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW WHY I LOOK THIS WAY. I'VE TRAVELED A LONG WAY, AND SOME OF THE ROADS WEREN'T PAVED. ~ Will Rogers
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That would make you Herman.Steve1960 wrote:Can't wait for this coming May to see how many stares we get. There will be me, my much younger filipina wife, 2 year old daughter, 22 year old daughter and her boyfriend who is a black guy.
I think we will nickname ourselves the Adams family
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