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My marriage

Postby Bota206 » Sun, 03 Feb 2013 7:45 am

My wife was caught for working under social visit in a KTV pub.
Now her case is just over after being hold up for 3 months , Now she's waiting to go back Vietnam (Air-Ticket purchased).
May i know normally, this ban will last for how long?

I new to this, what can i do?
This thing is depressing her so much tat she have no faith in our marriage anymore.
Please HELP!!!

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Re: HELP!! My marriage please.

Postby x9200 » Sun, 03 Feb 2013 8:31 am

Bota206 wrote:My wife was caught for working under social visit in a KTV pub.
Now her case is just over after being hold up for 3 months , Now she's waiting to go back Vietnam (Air-Ticket purchased).
May i know normally, this ban will last for how long?

I new to this, what can i do?
This thing is depressing her so much tat she have no faith in our marriage anymore.


Have you been behind the idea of her work illegally? :shock:
I am afraid it's rather years than months.

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Re: HELP!! My marriage please.

Postby Bota206 » Sun, 03 Feb 2013 8:45 am

x9200 wrote:
Bota206 wrote:My wife was caught for working under social visit in a KTV pub.
Now her case is just over after being hold up for 3 months , Now she's waiting to go back Vietnam (Air-Ticket purchased).
May i know normally, this ban will last for how long?

I new to this, what can i do?
This thing is depressing her so much tat she have no faith in our marriage anymore.


Have you been behind the idea of her work illegally? :shock:
I am afraid it's rather years than months.


No, i know she was working. She love singapore alot. She was working because i was having low income. Now she is caught, her dream of being a singaporean shattered. She has no faith in sinhapore anymore. She say the ban last very long or maybe forever because she was caught woth concrete evidence. We quarrel alot after n she losing faith on our relation too. Pls help.
Please HELP!!!

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Sun, 03 Feb 2013 11:13 am

Working without a valid work pass? Probably a permanent ban. If you are married, you only choice now would be to immigrate to VN.

Here is a prime example of why they still need to import FTs.

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Postby Bota206 » Sun, 03 Feb 2013 3:00 pm

sundaymorningstaple wrote:Working without a valid work pass? Probably a permanent ban. If you are married, you only choice now would be to immigrate to VN.

Here is a prime example of why they still need to import FTs.


Maybe that's my only way out. I'm willing to give up sibgapoe For my wife.
Please HELP!!!

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Postby zzm9980 » Sun, 03 Feb 2013 4:00 pm

Out of curiosity, are you SC? PR? EP/WP? Where are you from.

You misspell Singapore like a Vietnamese.

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Postby taxico » Sun, 03 Feb 2013 4:04 pm

Bota206 wrote:
sundaymorningstaple wrote:Working without a valid work pass? Probably a permanent ban. If you are married, you only choice now would be to immigrate to VN.


Maybe that's my only way out. I'm willing to give up sibgapoe For my wife.


i think you should think about this rationally man. love alone does not conquer all. or at least, the emotions you now think is love.

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Postby Bota206 » Sun, 03 Feb 2013 6:19 pm

zzm9980 wrote:Out of curiosity, are you SC? PR? EP/WP? Where are you from.

You misspell Singapore like a Vietnamese.


I'm a singaporean, not proud of it. My wife work because i seek help from gov n i was nelected. I giving up on sg.
Please HELP!!!

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Postby Bota206 » Sun, 03 Feb 2013 6:24 pm

taxico wrote:
Bota206 wrote:
sundaymorningstaple wrote:Working without a valid work pass? Probably a permanent ban. If you are married, you only choice now would be to immigrate to VN.


Maybe that's my only way out. I'm willing to give up sibgapoe For my wife.


i think you should think about this rationally man. love alone does not conquer all. or at least, the emotions you now think is love.


I don't need a gov that don't help a citizen in need of help. Singapore failed me. I lost all my trust in sg, i planning to leave in 2 years time.
Please HELP!!!

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Postby taxico » Sun, 03 Feb 2013 6:27 pm

Bota206 wrote:I'm a singaporean, not proud of it. My wife work because i seek help from gov n i was nelected. I giving up on sg.


you and your wife knew before you got married that your marriage does not automatically qualify her for any type of work pass, right?

i'm trying not to judge, but there are lots and lots of other places to work illegally and not get caught, especially since you're a singaporean. not easy money like a KTV place, is what it is, but i'm just sayin...

don't blame the system for neglecting you. off you go then.

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Postby the lynx » Mon, 04 Feb 2013 10:10 am

I hope this thread gets picked up by TR or AsiaOne etc. They need to know about this Singaporean who opines that he got neglected by the government and his struggles revolves around his Vietnamese wife who got caught in KTV.

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Postby Mi Amigo » Mon, 04 Feb 2013 11:47 am

I'm trying not to be judgemental too, but here we have a person who marries a Vietnamese lady, seems to have strong feelings for her (willing to leave the country, etc.), but is OK for her to work in a KTV bar??? I don't get it. :???:
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Postby teck21 » Tue, 05 Feb 2013 10:38 am

He got suckered. She doesn't have faith in the marriage because he's no longer of any possible perceived use to her.

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Postby Mi Amigo » Tue, 05 Feb 2013 3:04 pm

teck21 wrote:He got suckered. She doesn't have faith in the marriage because he's no longer of any possible perceived use to her.

Yes, it's hard to avoid coming to that conclusion, isn't it?

Bota206, you will know best of all - if this is the situation then your best bet is to cut your losses now. I can't see it working out if you were to go to Vietnam with your wife TBH. Sorry to be blunt, but sometimes it's best to stand back at look at the situation objectively.
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