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Postby offshoreoildude » Tue, 15 Jan 2013 7:53 am

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daytripper65 wrote:There seems to be one woman in particular who moved in 6 months ago, who is causing most of the trouble. She has taken it upon herself to set the standard around here, and is the one ordering the maids to stay away from the pool, complaining about the security guards (who seem quite nice to us), and of course is personally annoyed by the sight of animals.

The AVA coming out to collect the help along with the cats will probably quench her thirst for blood until the next full moon, but she has managed to get herself appointed as the vice-chair of the MC, so I suspect she's only just begun. And that we've just had a lot of smoke blown up our arse.


Know thine enemy :)

VC of the MC after 6 months eh? There is a tendency for those positions to go to people with the time and inclination, rather than to those who might be best able to fulfill the role. The danger is no one has the time or interest, so things end up in the hands of 'all the little Hitlers' who want to run things their way, rather than the proper way.

On the plus side, it sounds like you have the MO on your side. You could pay her a visit and ask her what her concern is, as no rules appear to be being broken. Although in Asia such a direct/honest approach tends to be avoided at all costs.

Why not brief your maid, and tell her that if this woman approaches her/them and challenges her, then to politely outline the rules, and ask on what basis she has a complaint.

Otherwise, just keep the MO updated on any harrassment*, and keep them onside (your side!). With people like this it is (IMHO) very likely that your maid is just one of many victims. Refer Vexatious Litigant etc.

* via e-mail can be useful, in case you wish to refer to the written record in future.


She's moved fast! Unfortunately if the OP's LL doesn't get involved I think the OP is going to be looking for a new place to live. I'm glad to here the MO/MA has been cooperative. With a bit of luck the aggressor will overstep her bounds and assault and steal something - at that time ACT has hard as you damn well can. Engage lawyers - threaten to sue - file police reports and drag the whole damn MC into the mess and make them bloody well sweat. Singapore courts do not TOLERATE domestic worker abuse - do not forget that.
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Postby x9200 » Tue, 15 Jan 2013 8:30 am

Engaging lawyers will cost money and time and this unfortunate member of MC is probably coming right from the proverb, the bell is loud because it is empty, plus the usual dose of arrogancy. I met such people here before (who didn't) and watching how they transform to some humble peasants just by an ordinary police officer explaining them their inappropriate behaviour and possible legal consequences is truly priceless.

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Postby morenangpinay » Tue, 15 Jan 2013 6:00 pm

Just write a commentary to the newspapers without naming anybody. You can just mention your opinion and why the public with better education need to treat people with lower status. they hate being shamed remember that.

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Postby Splatted » Tue, 15 Jan 2013 11:10 pm

Keep the iphone handy and audio record these ridiculous demands. Then make a formal complaint. Surely racism is illegal, even here.

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Postby thailand_hero » Wed, 16 Jan 2013 7:22 am

Not happy just go back to your country.

Why come here and make others condo a hard place to live? Maids are humans too and they deserve to be treated better than this.

Hope they catch your cats

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Postby offshoreoildude » Wed, 16 Jan 2013 8:33 am

Splatted wrote:Keep the iphone handy and audio record these ridiculous demands. Then make a formal complaint. Surely racism is illegal, even here.
Not unless it's against the three races of Singapore..... (half joking).
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Postby offshoreoildude » Wed, 16 Jan 2013 8:35 am

thailand_hero wrote:Not happy just go back to your country.

Why come here and make others condo a hard place to live? Maids are humans too and they deserve to be treated better than this.

Hope they catch your cats


You want to snack on cat?
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Postby the lynx » Wed, 16 Jan 2013 8:56 am

thailand_hero wrote:Not happy just go back to your country.

Why come here and make others condo a hard place to live? Maids are humans too and they deserve to be treated better than this.

Hope they catch your cats


You have made a mistake. OP wants to protect maids AND cats.

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Wed, 16 Jan 2013 9:57 am

It's not his first one.

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Postby x9200 » Wed, 16 Jan 2013 10:21 am

And he has this nice habit too of removing his old messages.

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Postby morenangpinay » Wed, 16 Jan 2013 11:11 am

if i was the op..id piss them even more by organizing a pool party and ask the fdw to ask all her friends to come over including all the fdw in the complex.

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Postby offshoreoildude » Wed, 16 Jan 2013 5:30 pm

morenangpinay wrote:if i was the op..id piss them even more by organizing a pool party and ask the fdw to ask all her friends to come over including all the fdw in the complex.


Tell them to make it a cat themed party and to bring cats! Hell I'd go to something like that as you'all know how I am about cats (with tails).
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Postby Mi Amigo » Wed, 16 Jan 2013 5:35 pm

x9200 wrote:And he has this nice habit too of removing his old messages.

Looks like we've got a live one. :roll:
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