Kids are rampugcious and they have lots of energy, more than the adults. That is why they burn out their parents. They need an outlet to burn off all these energy. I allow my kids to jump on our brand new sofa. They play on the sofa not because they want to be disrepectful or act destructively towards it. But because they are kids who are always looking for ways to incorporate fun into every events. They are a bundle of joy, filled with wonderment and curiousity for the world they live in. Do you remember how it is like being a kid? But I told them don't do it in somebody elses' house. I view the sofa not just for the benefit of the adults. It is also a play structure for the benefit of the kids. I view it as a multi-purpose and versatile piece of furniture, just like how I view life in general. Play is good for physical and emotional well-being. When I breed healthy kids, the world benefits.
Step into the neighborhood and there are no kids playing outside where they can join in. Even though many families have school age kids.To keep them occupied, you can sign up for tons of activities where the parents have to chaffeur them around. There is not much of improptu and carefree play available to kids. It is mostly stratured play. Strutured school,strutured neighborhood, structured extra curriculum activities, and then comes the structured parents who set all these rigid rules on what to say, behave, think. Nope, I shall not be part of the problem. Where is carefreeness, the freedom to be a kid?
I have a very dear friend where our kids play together. European mum. Eat together in restaurant, so many commands to her child,correcting him on his table manners, cannot do this, cannot do that. And during play, cannot act rampugcious and constantly correcting the child. I also get tired after having to sit there witnessing all the lectures, let alone a child. After each session of correction, I would see the boy's downcast eyes. I would just cuddle him and he would gravitate towards me. Living in the western hemisphere, his case is not unique. Sometimes as parents, we have to accept that kids will misbehave and embarass us with their bad manners. Because they are kids.
Kids have to live in a world where adults set all the rules. If I were a kid, I would think why so unfair? To rub it in, many restaurants and establishments are not friendly towards them. I have waitresses telling me the worst customers are families with kids. Yes, the kids are great inconveniences but what kind of community do we want to create? A vibrant and inclusive ones where you will come across lively kids or a sterile one, orderly but taking out the human equation.