To me that means you have to be in 7,178 air or space transport incidents before you are guaranteed to be dead? :S
On average, that would be correct. It's like flipping a coin. On average, you'll get a head 50 percent of the time but that does not mean you will not get 10 heads in a row. In reality, you could fly 30,000 times, or the flight you take tomorrow morning will be "the one"
I have a sister in law who also has a fear of flying. She thinks the wings could come off. This is nearly impossible. If you want to relax yourself... somewhat, anyway... do read some of the air disasters at the air disaster website. You'll learn that problems are far and few between, and that circumstances have to be very unusual for all the safety factors to fail.
I've been in an airplane that landed so hard all the oxygen masks deployed when we hit the ground. I've been in turbulence so heavy that drinks raised three feet off the tray table and people were screaming and crying... truly amazing. And yet, all was good... and safe.
The best attitude is a fatalist attitude. If today is your day to go, then so be it... and it doesn't matter if it's an airplane or a rabid dog that rips your heart out.
I love airplanes. I'd like to bring the Wright brothers forward in time to see what their first flights have brought... unbelievably sophisticated machines.