Absolute newbie, please be easy

My husband and I are considering to relocate somewhere else on the planet. And singapore is one option that sounds refreshing. I have been going through the forums and I sense a lot of tension between applicants and this "MOM"

But anyways, to tell my situation. I am a Pakistani national, but have been living in the Netherlands for about 4 years now and have a valid 5-year residence permit. I did my Masters here in NL and am a graphic/advertising designer and editor by profession.
My husband is Dutch and is an environmental engineer who is working as a consultant in a semi-governmental organisation.
The reason we want to relocate is that we are terribly bored here and I have not been able to get fully adjusted with dutch-land. I would really like to get back into Asia.
By the time we are moving .. we'll be 3.
I have been through the dutch immigration system, and i feel it can't get worse. But then, i have no idea about singapore's system. And perhaps that is what i am trying to achieve here. If someone would be so kind to break it down into something understandable.
- 1. what is the immigration process?
2. how tough is it?
3. can singapore really be an option worth considering for particularly us (with our work field)?
4. what are the possibilities of us moving together after one of us has secured a job?
5. we do want a relatively good lifestyle, but for me, most important would be my child's care and education.
6. it would be great if someone could put down in numbers a minimum annual income per person to live a lifestyle that caters for: good child-care and a car. As for housing, we're not difficult with that at all. But anything that has 2 bedrooms and is in a decent location.
7. keeping in mind that we would be a two-income household, is this all realistic?
