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Wives who lunch - Is this normal or Expat only?
Wives who lunch - Is this normal or Expat only?
I've been traveling for work in another expat city and trying to connect some of the expats living here so that I have somewhere to go other than the hotel (safety is an issue so just going out by myself is not possible).
One of the ladies I connected with was a wife whose husband is working here and she invited me along to some of their events - but they all take place during office hours which means I can't attend them. It reminded me of when I first moved to Singapore and I joined the Saffer society to connect with people. The person who ran the society took offence that I thought in reality it should be called "the trailing wives of south african husbands who work club" because all their events happened during office hours. She thought that 1 pub night a month and 3 weekend functions a year were sufficient to encompass the needs of the members that worked, while averaging one function a week during office hours for those who didn't work.
I experienced the same in Qatar where there is a definite distinction between women who work and those who stay at home (taking into account in South Africa where both parents work is the norm). Even at joint functions there is little interaction between the 2 camps.
Having lived most of my life in an expat enviroment I don't know if this is how "normal" people live. I know that singles complain that marrieds don't hang out with them and know that once there are children you are lucky to see your friends (if you don't happen to have kids).
One of the ladies I connected with was a wife whose husband is working here and she invited me along to some of their events - but they all take place during office hours which means I can't attend them. It reminded me of when I first moved to Singapore and I joined the Saffer society to connect with people. The person who ran the society took offence that I thought in reality it should be called "the trailing wives of south african husbands who work club" because all their events happened during office hours. She thought that 1 pub night a month and 3 weekend functions a year were sufficient to encompass the needs of the members that worked, while averaging one function a week during office hours for those who didn't work.
I experienced the same in Qatar where there is a definite distinction between women who work and those who stay at home (taking into account in South Africa where both parents work is the norm). Even at joint functions there is little interaction between the 2 camps.
Having lived most of my life in an expat enviroment I don't know if this is how "normal" people live. I know that singles complain that marrieds don't hang out with them and know that once there are children you are lucky to see your friends (if you don't happen to have kids).
That's normal for here I think, but definitely not normal in Canada. I don't think I've met any women not of retirement age who willingly stay home unless it is to care for the kids, or they work from home. In either case they're usually too busy to meet up regularly for lunches.
I attended a couple of these events here before my son was born but I didn't really enjoy the company very much. It was ok to stave off utter boredom, but only just ok.
I attended a couple of these events here before my son was born but I didn't really enjoy the company very much. It was ok to stave off utter boredom, but only just ok.
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