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Postby nakatago » Fri, 27 Jan 2012 8:46 am

poodlek wrote:But then I tend to see the good in people :?


"There, there."

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Postby ecureilx » Fri, 27 Jan 2012 9:13 am

Mary Hatch Bailey wrote:She might be scheming, but clearly he needs a Man up! lecture and a dope slap.


On this, I gotta agree MHB .... while she sounds to be not an Angel, he too is not a divine incarnate .. while he wanted to know his obligation, i got the drift of him looking for an 'exit plan' was more than subtle... so says me ..

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Postby poodlek » Fri, 27 Jan 2012 10:13 am

I still think she needed to see his legal obligations as a reality check. He'd still have 7.5 months or so to come around to the idea of being a dad, but if she was really considering being a mom, she shouldn't just assume that this fling of hers is automatically going to be on board with it, just at her say so. They both are responsible, yes. She is equally responsible to consider all the consequences of raising a baby that the father doesn't want.

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Postby poodlek » Fri, 27 Jan 2012 10:16 am

This is a fresh topic in my mind, as I have a friend of mine who is struggling to get her ex husband to man up with child support. Both of them wanted kids at the time, but he left her with 2 year old twins and in her state she was awarded $275/month to pay for both of them. One must always be aware of what could happen, especially when they're starting out on the wrong foot.

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Postby ecureilx » Fri, 27 Jan 2012 10:19 am

actually, I wouldn't be surprised if the OP is from the country, where, statistically it was proven that more than 60% of the population fervently believe that sex is not always going to lead to pregnancy .. and pregnancy means that just that the couple was just a bit unlucky .. :)

Or just that babies are a blessing .. :) Until the reality of the cost of bringing up hits home ..

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Postby poodlek » Fri, 27 Jan 2012 10:55 am

ecureilx wrote:actually, I wouldn't be surprised if the OP is from the country, where, statistically it was proven that more than 60% of the population fervently believe that sex is not always going to lead to pregnancy .. and pregnancy means that just that the couple was just a bit unlucky .. :)

Or just that babies are a blessing .. :) Until the reality of the cost of bringing up hits home ..


Unnecessarily prejudicial and off mark, considering the OP apparently did take the necessary precautions as there was no actual pregnancy.
It seems it always comes down to bashing a certain country with you :???:
You don't think unplanned pregnancies happen in every country?

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Postby QRM » Fri, 27 Jan 2012 11:14 am

I have always assumed abortion was a sort of contraception, admittedly a rather expensive and last resort one.

Made me curious how many people have abortions, because of the unfortunate negative image associated with it, I suspect there are alot more people out there who have had the procedure but not willing to say it out loud.

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Postby ecureilx » Fri, 27 Jan 2012 11:43 am

poodlek wrote: Unnecessarily prejudicial and off mark, considering the OP apparently did take the necessary precautions as there was no actual pregnancy.

It seems it always comes down to bashing a certain country with you :???:
You don't think unplanned pregnancies happen in every country?


That is Uncalled for .. and FYI, the country I am talking of is not even well represented in Singapore, in Politically correct words, and .. unless you are quite clear of the "precautions" or the OP has detailed the "precautions" .. .. I would beg to differ though ..

And I don't have a habit of bashing any country .. oh, in case you are thinking, it is NOT INDIANS or FILIPINOS I referred to here .. (and the last time you did say such stuff, it was very sour .. but I kept quite .. )

A lot of 'youngsters' consider a lot of 'unsafe' methods as 'proper precautions' .. and think they are the best ..

In case you still consider me as 'immature' or 'inexperienced' sorry.. not gonna get into that ..

Oh, one more thing ..

I have a lot of friends who are 'objectors' but .. do counseling, and often the 'precautions' taken to avoid such a predicament is not amusing .. and not gonna go into details

Oh, I did spend a few years counseling, and I have seen a lot of 'proven' precautions .. like Panadol + Guinness, avoiding egg and fish, etc, etc, and more and more ..

So finally we did, as norm, divert the attention from the original topic of the poster ..

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Postby ecureilx » Fri, 27 Jan 2012 11:45 am

QRM wrote:I have always assumed abortion was a sort of contraception, admittedly a rather expensive and last resort one.

Made me curious how many people have abortions, because of the unfortunate negative image associated with it, I suspect there are alot more people out there who have had the procedure but not willing to say it out loud.


Expensive ? err .. not if the person is using their medisave :D

As for the next thing you wrote - +1 !!!

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Postby x9200 » Fri, 27 Jan 2012 12:27 pm

Strong Eagle wrote:
ecureilx wrote:
nakatago wrote:
Maybe they just do deserve each other!


I would say, more like "MADE FOR EACH OTHER ?? " :D :D


I don't think either is true. She scammed him. His reaction, while leaning towards abortion, was to first to post to understand his legal obligations... he made that clear. He may need guidance... and certainly, this incident gives him food for thought... but she is the 'scumbag'.

She may be a scumbag but equally well she may be just stupid and immature and really testing him this way. If she was a real scumbag she would be actually pregnant by now. Himself, and the legal obligations, what was it for if not a check if he could get away with it?

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Postby ksl » Fri, 27 Jan 2012 4:35 pm

QRM wrote:I have always assumed abortion was a sort of contraception, admittedly a rather expensive and last resort one.

Made me curious how many people have abortions, because of the unfortunate negative image associated with it, I suspect there are alot more people out there who have had the procedure but not willing to say it out loud.
Mmmm married women too I'll let you know! Though some just decide to have the kids and tell their husband. I'd like to see the statistics on those that do not tell their husband!

My experience of women that do the scumbag trick, are normally emotionally disturbed attention seekers, or housing estate slappers on a high! Shame really as I do know women that screw anyone at anytime just to be liked which to me sounds quite disturbing. I also feel quite offended when guys take advantage, seen it a lot in UK on the pub circuit


http://www.worldlawdirect.com/forum/chi ... riage.html :wink: :lol:

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Postby ecureilx » Sat, 28 Jan 2012 2:07 pm

ksl wrote:[ ....



:oops: :oops:

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Postby ksl » Sat, 28 Jan 2012 10:14 pm

ecureilx wrote:
ksl wrote:[ ....



:oops: :oops:
Look at this too!
http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/221060.php

I've been looking for an article i read last year, that stated some facts of married women that deliberatly got banged up by men with superior IQ'a to their husband, to give her children a better chance in life without the husband or child finding out. Surrogate fathers :???: Then there are those male doctors in the fertility business that have used their own sperm to pregnant desperate wives. One American doctor was found out to have over 70 children. I think he's in jail now

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Postby mummy mantras » Sun, 29 Jan 2012 11:09 pm

ksl wrote:
I've been looking for an article i read last year, that stated some facts of married women that deliberatly got banged up by men with superior IQ'a to their husband, to give her children a better chance in life without the husband or child finding out.



Which makes me wonder: Why didn't these women just marry a smart guy in the first place, so they could have his high IQ genes all to themselves? :D

Or did they marry a rich but stupid guy, for which they had to compensate by getting a 'sperm donor' with a higher IQ? But that would mean then that despite this other guy's higher IQ, it hadn't contributed to his worldly wealth one bit... so his high IQ was just good for... what exactly? :wink:

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Postby poodlek » Mon, 30 Jan 2012 10:07 am

mummy mantras wrote:
ksl wrote:
I've been looking for an article i read last year, that stated some facts of married women that deliberatly got banged up by men with superior IQ'a to their husband, to give her children a better chance in life without the husband or child finding out.



Which makes me wonder: Why didn't these women just marry a smart guy in the first place, so they could have his high IQ genes all to themselves? :D

Or did they marry a rich but stupid guy, for which they had to compensate by getting a 'sperm donor' with a higher IQ? But that would mean then that despite this other guy's higher IQ, it hadn't contributed to his worldly wealth one bit... so his high IQ was just good for... what exactly? :wink:



Hahahaha TOUCHE.


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