How do you define rudeness?BillyB wrote:Personally, I'd seriously question that.beppi wrote:Experience shows that countries which emphasisze their cultural and/or ethnic homogenity (e.g. France, Korea, Japan, China) are less tolerant towards foreigners than a muti-cultural nation.
Anybody who has been to China and Singapore will attest that the level of rudeness is much greater in China.
These are two major aspects I count under "graciousness". Singapore wins hands-down, whatever these Chinese nationalists want to believe.
I've lived in Singapore, Hong Kong and worked in stints in Shanghai, Qingdao and Beijing.
I think you're mis-interpreting the less-developed citizens in China and communities as being rude; spitting, local slang, not understanding foreigners. A big factor which contributes to your comment is not understanding the local dialects and slang.
I find the large majority of mainlanders to be polite, funny, very driven and eager to make a success of opportunities they are given.
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Spend a week in Singapore and you'll have your answer!x9200 wrote:How do you define rudeness?BillyB wrote:Personally, I'd seriously question that.beppi wrote:Experience shows that countries which emphasisze their cultural and/or ethnic homogenity (e.g. France, Korea, Japan, China) are less tolerant towards foreigners than a muti-cultural nation.
Anybody who has been to China and Singapore will attest that the level of rudeness is much greater in China.
These are two major aspects I count under "graciousness". Singapore wins hands-down, whatever these Chinese nationalists want to believe.
I've lived in Singapore, Hong Kong and worked in stints in Shanghai, Qingdao and Beijing.
I think you're mis-interpreting the less-developed citizens in China and communities as being rude; spitting, local slang, not understanding foreigners. A big factor which contributes to your comment is not understanding the local dialects and slang.
I find the large majority of mainlanders to be polite, funny, very driven and eager to make a success of opportunities they are given.
I'm not opening this hornets nest, again.....
A week?! Man! it took me more than a few weeks to understand the "rudeness" in my cousin's pet parrot.BillyB wrote:Spend a week in Singapore and you'll have your answer!x9200 wrote: How do you define rudeness?
I'm not opening this hornets nest, again.....

Avoid generalization as this Beijing professor had done and one shall steer a hornet's nest not.
BTW, over 1/3 of Singapore residence are non-local...so go figure.

Too late, it's open already. I asked because from your post above you seemed to have it related to the intentions of somebody rather than a cultural denominator. In such case majority of Singaporeans are polite.BillyB wrote:Spend a week in Singapore and you'll have your answer!x9200 wrote:How do you define rudeness?BillyB wrote: Personally, I'd seriously question that.
I've lived in Singapore, Hong Kong and worked in stints in Shanghai, Qingdao and Beijing.
I think you're mis-interpreting the less-developed citizens in China and communities as being rude; spitting, local slang, not understanding foreigners. A big factor which contributes to your comment is not understanding the local dialects and slang.
I find the large majority of mainlanders to be polite, funny, very driven and eager to make a success of opportunities they are given.
I'm not opening this hornets nest, again.....
Each to his own. Maybe I just have bad luck in that I experienced relatively little rudeness in China compared to to what I witness on a daily basis in Singapore.x9200 wrote:Too late, it's open already. I asked because from your post above you seemed to have it related to the intentions of somebody rather than a cultural denominator. In such case majority of Singaporeans are polite.BillyB wrote:Spend a week in Singapore and you'll have your answer!x9200 wrote: How do you define rudeness?
I'm not opening this hornets nest, again.....
What I mean is basically whether they (Singaporeans, Chinese) are aware of being rude. If not, hard to call it (objectively) this way. Surely in my subjective perception (cultural) they are rude but it varies. I.e. I found the mainland Chinese I know here in Singapore to be more rude, of questionable ethics and not flexible comparing to Singaporeans. Exactly opposite, if I purchase from E-bay.
Well they do say ignorance is bliss. Based on your perception, you're saying that you perceive someone to be rude less rude if they don't do it intentionally?x9200 wrote:What I mean is basically whether they (Singaporeans, Chinese) are aware of being rude. If not, hard to call it (objectively) this way. Surely in my subjective perception (cultural) they are rude but it varies. I.e. I found the mainland Chinese I know here in Singapore to be more rude, of questionable ethics and not flexible comparing to Singaporeans. Exactly opposite, if I purchase from E-bay.
So if a class of people are rude by nature, that doesn't constitute rudeness because its learnt and subconscious behaviour?! Try telling that to a judge...
I understand cultural quirks and differences, just in my view some things are universally acknowledged as rude in most cultures.
Additionally, how do you factor in access to education and upbringing? Because that would put whole communities at a disadvantage or advantage (depending on which side you take).
Perception is completely subjective of course
BillyB wrote:Well they do say ignorance is bliss. Based on your perception, you're saying that you perceive someone to be rude less rude if they don't do it intentionally?x9200 wrote:What I mean is basically whether they (Singaporeans, Chinese) are aware of being rude. If not, hard to call it (objectively) this way. Surely in my subjective perception (cultural) they are rude but it varies. I.e. I found the mainland Chinese I know here in Singapore to be more rude, of questionable ethics and not flexible comparing to Singaporeans. Exactly opposite, if I purchase from E-bay.
Kind of. Rudeness affects more emotions (subconsciousness) than my more objective side so I can not help myself and still see it rude. It is a justifying excuse that makes it slightly better in my eyes.
So if a class of people are rude by nature, that doesn't constitute rudeness because its learnt and subconscious behaviour?! Try telling that to a judge...
They may be rude only from your perspective because you were pre-conditioned this or that way. So were they.
I understand cultural quirks and differences, just in my view some things are universally acknowledged as rude in most cultures.
Probably, but we are talking about whole societies or nations that apparently have it somehow differently.
Additionally, how do you factor in access to education and upbringing? Because that would put whole communities at a disadvantage or advantage (depending on which side you take).
Same thing as for the cultural factor. If somebody is truly not aware of wrongdoing it is hard to make him truly guilty (ethically). It is not on a legal ground - the law has to be more pragmatic, so a judge will rule by the book not by emotions but even in such case the cultural preconditioning is often taken into account.
Perception is completely subjective of course
It is true that rudeness is based in culture. I met an american lady living in China. She told the story of how local Chinese friend walked into her apart. and spat a huge gob on the floor. I was horrified and thought it extremely rude, but in his mind it was probably normal. (she did tell him never to do it again though)
Not at all, that's just disgusting. Street, yard - yes - but not in peoples houses. It could be an extreme case.carteki wrote:It is true that rudeness is based in culture. I met an american lady living in China. She told the story of how local Chinese friend walked into her apart. and spat a huge gob on the floor. I was horrified and thought it extremely rude, but in his mind it was probably normal. (she did tell him never to do it again though)
But then again it comes down to what you were taught by your environment / surroundings and also what is tolerated by different people.
And so you justified your opinion based on your American's allegation?carteki wrote:It is true that rudeness is based in culture. I met an american lady living in China. She told the story of how local Chinese friend walked into her apart. and spat a huge gob on the floor. I was horrified and thought it extremely rude, but in his mind it was probably normal. (she did tell him never to do it again though)
Did you ask why her Chinese friend did that?
Come on, that is just one person misbehaving. Do you know how many weird people walk around on this planet?!?
Since not all her friends did that, she can't say the Chinese are such and such..
This is just a sensational incident that happened to her, she will probably tell it over and over again (and bore the hell out of her husband and friends) until she dies.
Since not all her friends did that, she can't say the Chinese are such and such..
This is just a sensational incident that happened to her, she will probably tell it over and over again (and bore the hell out of her husband and friends) until she dies.
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