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How long does your maid stay out on her day off?

Postby EvaJ » Sun, 08 Jan 2012 10:32 pm

Just wondering if you ask her to return by any specific time or allow her to stay out as long as she wants?

Our maid has started to come back later and later, today for example at 10:30pm, so just wondering if this is something I should be worried about or do they normally stay out that late?

Thanks!

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Postby Asdracles » Sun, 08 Jan 2012 10:49 pm

If it's her day off, what's the problem of her being out?

Do you report to your employer in your days off?

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Postby Brooklynjenn » Sun, 08 Jan 2012 11:44 pm

My contract says she has to be home by 10. Does yours specify? You can use what your contract says as a guide.

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Postby JR8 » Mon, 09 Jan 2012 12:29 am

Asdracles wrote:If it's her day off, what's the problem of her being out?

Do you report to your employer in your days off?



No, because my conduct on days off is not their liability?

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Postby beppi » Mon, 09 Jan 2012 3:11 am

This is a serious problem and should be remedied immediately.
You cannot expect these people to act responsibly or have common sense!
I only give my slave a day off from her cooking and cleaning duties so she can do the ironing that she never seems to have time for on the other days of the month. And she can only leave the house when I need help carrying heavy stuff back from NTUC.



Disclaimer: I don't have a maid.

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Mon, 09 Jan 2012 8:46 am

^^^^
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Re: How long does your maid stay out on her day off?

Postby the lynx » Mon, 09 Jan 2012 10:06 am

EvaJ wrote:Just wondering if you ask her to return by any specific time or allow her to stay out as long as she wants?

Our maid has started to come back later and later, today for example at 10:30pm, so just wondering if this is something I should be worried about or do they normally stay out that late?

Thanks!


Well as long as she 'reports' for work timely the next day, why not?

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Postby nutnut » Mon, 09 Jan 2012 10:38 am

I think what you need to do is reduce the expectations, my maid comes in around 10 on a Sunday. It used to be 8pm, then we realised that thereis really no need, I said to her, come in when you like as long as you can work ok on Monday and you have enough rest then no issue!

We have even started allowing her to go out for an hour or two any evening her friends do.

If your maid is good and you trust her then surely this matters not, infact, if she really is good and you start coming down on her on her off days then she may well leave and you could have more problems by having to get a new maid and settling them in etc.

We have friends who let their maid stay at her "cousin's" place on a Saturday night.

Just explain the consequences of what you are concerned about... additional working and getting caught, her getting pregnant or doing something illegal.
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Postby the lynx » Mon, 09 Jan 2012 10:55 am

nutnut wrote:Just explain the consequences of what you are concerned about... additional working and getting caught, her getting pregnant or doing something illegal.


Reminds me of a recent cover of Get Rea! documentary by Cheryl Fox in CNA on romance life of FDWs in Singapore (with locals and also Bangladeshi construction workers - with predictable consequences), 'aptly' titled Bad Romance.

Too bad, can't find the Youtube link to post here :(

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Postby ecureilx » Mon, 09 Jan 2012 11:04 am

nutnut wrote:If your maid is good and you trust her then surely this matters not, infact, if she really is good and you start coming down on her on her off days then she may well leave and you could have more problems by having to get a new maid and settling them in etc.


That's the key .. :)

nutnut wrote:Just explain the consequences of what you are concerned about... additional working and getting caught, her getting pregnant or doing something illegal.


oh, a colleague of mine, conversationally, mentioned that he goes on 'three strikes' for the maid (the guy who is virtually staring at his home cctv monitor via web .. ) .. :) I asked him innocently if the maid is allowed to get locked up three times or get pregnant 3 times .. he was aghast .. I quickly pointed out to him that if he trusts the maid, there should be no case of x number of strikes .. it should be in or out .. not .. 'give a chance' and then fret over it ..

Beppi: Nice one .. :D
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Postby ex-pat » Fri, 02 Mar 2012 9:30 pm

beppi wrote:This is a serious problem and should be remedied immediately.
You cannot expect these people to act responsibly or have common sense!
I only give my slave a day off from her cooking and cleaning duties so she can do the ironing that she never seems to have time for on the other days of the month. And she can only leave the house when I need help carrying heavy stuff back from NTUC.



Disclaimer: I don't have a maid.


give this post a bit .of shake ....

And not allowed to make home phone call and receive calls , ler her find out that one of her loved one died when she gets the chance to go home for a holiday :mad:

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Postby ex-pat » Fri, 02 Mar 2012 9:41 pm

the lynx wrote:
nutnut wrote:Just explain the consequences of what you are concerned about... additional working and getting caught, her getting pregnant or doing something illegal.


Reminds me of a recent cover of Get Rea! documentary by Cheryl Fox in CNA on romance life of FDWs in Singapore (with locals and also Bangladeshi construction workers - with predictable consequences), 'aptly' titled Bad Romance.

Too bad, can't find the Youtube link to post here :(


Don't ever ever think that maids does not have common sense or stupid.
In fact they are more clever and practical than we thought.

They look for bf not because they are lonely and needs to be loved. They simply need someone who pays for thier meals on thier offdays. Someone who pay for thier phone bills and someone who gives extra cash when they need it because thier bosses dont pay them well.

Pay them good $$$$ and see if they still need bf.

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Postby ecureilx » Sat, 03 Mar 2012 8:15 am

ex-pat wrote:Don't ever ever think that maids does not have common sense or stupid.
In fact they are more clever and practical than we thought.

They look for bf not because they are lonely and needs to be loved. They simply need someone who pays for thier meals on thier offdays. Someone who pay for thier phone bills and someone who gives extra cash when they need it because thier bosses dont pay them well.

Pay them good $$$$ and see if they still need bf.


If that was in jest, I would laugh it out ..

If you meant it, you just stereotyped the whole maids as .... ah never mind.

You described the minority of the maids. Your notion that paying well will negate the need for a BF - reeks of extreme ignorance, and it is not like that all the maids here are desperately in need of a BF ..

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Postby zzm9980 » Sat, 03 Mar 2012 8:35 am

My friend runs an Indonesian maid agency in Hong Kong, but I feel it's safe to say the same applies here.

The young (relatively) attractive maids quickly figure out they can go to Wan Chai (same as OT) on their days off and make 50-100% of their monthly salary in one night. And sometimes, a sugar daddy ex-pat boyfriend (so what if he's 50-60 and she's 20! lol).

No amount of money you can or would reasonably pay your maid will change that.

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Postby Mi Amigo » Sat, 03 Mar 2012 9:06 am

Interesting that the (single posting) OP never came back to follow up on the comments, don't you think?

To cynical old me, the 'journo alert' flag got set fairly early on...
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