Who cares? Well I do that is why I asked the questionStrong Eagle wrote:Who cares? Gracious host offers food. Singaporean? Who cares? Take food. Eat or sh*tcan, whatever your preference. Thank gracious host. I've had this happen more places than SG.
Sadly but true.JR8 wrote: So do you think it might be that routinely more food than is necessary is prepared? Hmmm...
My mom always cooked huge amount of food . We ended up having to eat the leftovers and we could only tolerate this much leftovers before it ended up in the garbage. Very wasteful. My mom lived thru WWII and had to go without food or lousy food for a period of time. Somehow she never got over her trauma and it manifested itself in her out-of-control portioning. WWII was over 6 decades ago. Me and my sister found her behavior illogical. But then we never experienced hunger in our lives but instead we have the opposite problem, too much food and waste.the lynx wrote:[
Between asking guests to pack leftovers back and losing face for 'not being able to provide well for guests', they rather do the former.
This is a very weird response IMO. It may indicate something is wrong beyond the food thing.earthfriendly wrote:Many of the asian guests are quite grateful but a white friend gave a funny look. I guess some people are just not comfortable with the idea. The response "we have food at home".
Good question EF, and interesting how the original question has turned around 180.earthfriendly wrote: So till now, I still don't understand why my giving away the food is not so acceptable to some. Perhaps you can help explain?
Agreed. Best to just accept and thank the host. It doesn't really matter what you do with them after that (and they don't need to know). Like I said earlier on, the whole idea was to avoid food wastage, which doesn't gel well with Westerners. earthfriendly made a good reference to the older generation (WW).BillyB wrote:Asians are great with dishing out food after open houses & parties. It's polite to take it, but there is no contract to say you have to take it home and eat it!
I find I never eat things that are brought back home from parties etc - Just take it and dump it in the garbage but be courteous and take the host up on their offer.
+1. If I was offered food here I would take it to be polite, but many things prepared for a dinner party just aren't the same the next day. If there's no good way to reheat it or freshen it up for a decent meal or snack the next day, why bother? On the other hand, if the food was less than delicious the first time around, you finish your portion to be polite and then the host turns around and insists you take more with you? Awkward. Even as a decent cook (especially serving guests who may not be used to my western cuisine) I would never presume that my guests were so enthusiastic about my food that they'd want to eat it again for the very next meal. Unless they were effusive with praise...JR8 wrote:Then left overs in the west would be considered in some ways 2nd best, half way to trash. Maybe ok between family.... but really not for guests who leave full, sated, satisfied and don't want to have a bag of second best foisted on them...earthfriendly wrote: So till now, I still don't understand why my giving away the food is not so acceptable to some. Perhaps you can help explain?
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