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Same sex couple with baby looking to move to Singapore

Postby Lisa_0707 » Mon, 10 Oct 2011 10:36 am

Hi Everyone,
We are a lesbian couple with a 10mth old baby boy considering the move from Australia to Singapore. My partner has been offered a job there and we're trying to do some research.
We know that homosexuality is currently illegal, we are both feminine and quite discreet in our relationship and would never show affection in public but we're wanting to try getting some perspective on living there?
My main concern is that my partner is on our son's birth cert as his parent which would confirm our relationship status and so if we had to take him to the hospital etc we dont want this to be a problem?
Any advice, tips on where to live etc would be greatly appreciated and should we make the move, anyone wanting to have catch up's with our kids would be welcomed :-)
Thanks,
Lisa

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Postby Brooklynjenn » Thu, 13 Oct 2011 11:10 pm

I can't speak much about your situation except to say you might have difficulty getting a pass for yourself to come to the country. I am a trailing spouse, and I am here on a dependant's pass. It seems you might have difficulty, as I recall being married as one of the requirements. If you could get a pass on your own through a job then your family status would be less an issue. I know heterosexual couples who are not married have to both have passes to enter on their own merits. You may also have problems renting an apartment. They seem at liberty to ask questions that wouldn't fly where I'm from (USA), like family status, how many children, how old are they, had to provide kids passes too. We have had landlords who wouldn't rent to us because we have children. I wish I knew any answers to your questions directly, but I haven't met anyone in your particular situation here yet. I have only been here about 6 weeks. You are smart to question the risk of having your relationship unrecognized and problems with having an equal say in things like medical care for your child. I'm sorry I don't have real answers, just a feeling that it would be a difficult situation here. I moved here from San Francisco Bay Area, and have many friends there in your shoes. Now that I think about it, this is the first school my kids have gone to that didn't have at least one classmate with two moms or two dads. If they do, it's really kept on the down low.

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Same sex couple with baby looking to move to Singapore

Postby albertparkyank » Mon, 31 Oct 2011 11:21 am

Hi, Lisa.

I'm keen to hear what you find as my partner and I have twin girls aged 2 years old and I have been asked to consider relocating to Singapore. Private message me to share information. :)

I wonder if your partner could enter as 'domestic help'? I bet THAT would go over well!

Albert

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Re: Same sex couple with baby looking to move to Singapore

Postby sundaymorningstaple » Mon, 31 Oct 2011 12:34 pm

albertparkyank wrote:Hi, Lisa.

I'm keen to hear what you find as my partner and I have twin girls aged 2 years old and I have been asked to consider relocating to Singapore. Private message me to share information. :)

I wonder if your partner could enter as 'domestic help'? I bet THAT would go over well!

Albert


Nix on the domestic help. Defo won't fly.

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Re: Same sex couple with baby looking to move to Singapore

Postby ecureilx » Mon, 31 Oct 2011 2:31 pm

sundaymorningstaple wrote:
albertparkyank wrote:Hi, Lisa.

I'm keen to hear what you find as my partner and I have twin girls aged 2 years old and I have been asked to consider relocating to Singapore. Private message me to share information. :)

I wonder if your partner could enter as 'domestic help'? I bet THAT would go over well!

Albert


Nix on the domestic help. Defo won't fly.


Innovative thinking but sure wont' fly ..

Though I had a friend who had a friend (now take it with a pinch of salt) who's friend had an Angolan maid, as the maid had been the care taker of the child in England ..


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