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Postby Alicia13 » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 10:21 am

First of all, I repeat again, I have accessed to wrong forum which my friend provided me. I understand this forum is to provide some helpful info for those expatriates or foreigners.

Secondly, if we are that bad, MOM has already taken actions on us after my maid's internview. Like what I mentioned earlier, during the interview, my maid's answers to MOM are all positive; to think of those benefits that she may not get from other employers.

The reason that I get so upset is because she did not heed our advice, still continuing her misconducts, and due to her laziness and impatience, has hurt my child's arms few times and nearly caused him to death, therefore we intend to file police report.

We have decided to return her to the ageny and have requested to send her back, lest she harmed other employers here, but the agent said we have to pay the agent fee again if we really want to do so as she's only here for 2 months.

So here I am, but never think that I entered to wrong forum.

Different people different point of view.

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Postby nakatago » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 10:28 am

Alicia13 wrote:First of all, I repeat again, I have accessed to wrong forum which my friend provided me.


Please, just stop.

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Postby Alicia13 » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 10:37 am

There are pros and cons for letting our helper know there's a cctv at home.

If she aware, she will behave good and responsible of whatever she does but may not her true self; to others it may be a stress to them as if they are being watched over from someone at all times. However, if they are upright and honest, they will not bother whether if there is one in the house.

So for us, we intend not to let our maid know, or else we never know what is her true self.

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Postby intime0 » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 12:19 pm

Actually, people can only pretend to be a certain way for so long. Pretty soon their true colors will come out.

But regardless of their true colors...if they are treating your child they way you want them to, what difference does it make WHY they are doing it?

It makes more sense to me that if you are trusting your child with someone you hardly know, that you would WANT them to be on their best behavior. Therefore you would tell them about the CCTV. Otherwise they could hurt your child and you wouldnt know it until later.

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Postby JayCee » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 12:20 pm

Alicia13 wrote:has hurt my child's arms few times and nearly caused him to death,



How exactly did she do this? Was the kid in hospital, in ICU? Did an ambulance have to come to save him?

Any normal person would have had her out of the house in a second if she'd nearly killed their kid, yet you apparently continued to let her live there?

I'm calling bullsh*t on this
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Postby JayCee » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 12:23 pm

Alicia13 wrote:So for us, we intend not to let our maid know, or else we never know what is her true self.


You think a maid bowing down and calling you sir or ma'am every 5 seconds is the true personality of all the maids in Singapore? You think they do that when they're back home?

As long as the girl does her job well, what does it matter what her "true self" is? You're her EMPLOYER not her mother
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Postby Alicia13 » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 2:06 pm

I have mentioned earlier, we have found a new maid whom our agent has arranged for her to come over. As for this current maid, we have requested the agent to send her back to Myanmar but being rejected; he insisted either we have to pay him the agent fee again or transfer her to another employer.

The incident took place nearby my flat. My maid was fetching my child back from school. When crossing the road, my child just dashed across without noticing there's a car coming, and my maid still walk slowly behind. Luckily the driver slower down his speed and keep horning, and so coincidence that one of my neighbour passed by and helped carried my child away, thereafter she helped to send him home and told me later in that evening, and as for my maid, she pretended nothing happened!

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Postby JayCee » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 2:26 pm

Alicia13 wrote:The incident took place nearby my flat. My maid was fetching my child back from school. When crossing the road, my child just dashed across without noticing there's a car coming, and my maid still walk slowly behind. Luckily the driver slower down his speed and keep horning, and so coincidence that one of my neighbour passed by and helped carried my child away, thereafter she helped to send him home and told me later in that evening, and as for my maid, she pretended nothing happened!


Yet you continued to let this woman mind your child, even for one more day?
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Postby Alicia13 » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 2:29 pm

I have some friends who have cctvs in their houses too. Initially they let their helpers know about it and treated them as a family; they were performing very well and took good care of their children/elders. Thereafter my friends purposely kept the cctvs and left two in a hiddened area where their helpers unaware.

To their surprised, they showed their true colors. They started to misbehave and one of them even brought men home; some started to lazy around and did not care the children/elders, even yelled and shouted at them.

You are right, I am only an employer not her family, but if you know what is her actual self, will you still continue to keep her?

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Postby Alicia13 » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 2:34 pm

To Intime0:

I agree with your last paragraph. We may consider it when my new helper arrives.
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Postby Alicia13 » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 2:52 pm

To JayCee:

Of course we cannot tolerate...but what to do? Both of my husband and me are working, so no choice have to keep her for the time being, but we have asked our neighbours to help keep a watch on her as and when.

We have found a new helper, once she arrives we will send the current back to agency.

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 4:29 pm

I find it rather sad that you would keep her around, even though you are afraid for your child, all because it will save you a couple of dollars. Saving a couple of dollars is more important than your child's welfare? What does that say about you as a parent? :cry:

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Postby Alicia13 » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 4:45 pm

sundaymorningstaple wrote:I find it rather sad that you would keep her around, even though you are afraid for your child, all because it will save you a couple of dollars. Saving a couple of dollars is more important than your child's welfare? What does that say about you as a parent? :cry:



Err...think you get me wrong again. We have to keep her for the time being is because both of my husband and me are working, not saving money. We have requested our agent to provide us a temp helper till my new maid arrives, but he said no such service.

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Postby x9200 » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 4:52 pm

Alicia13 wrote:
sundaymorningstaple wrote:I find it rather sad that you would keep her around, even though you are afraid for your child, all because it will save you a couple of dollars. Saving a couple of dollars is more important than your child's welfare? What does that say about you as a parent? :cry:



Err...think you get me wrong again. We have to keep her for the time being is because both of my husband and me are working, not saving money. We have requested our agent to provide us a temp helper till my new maid arrives, but he said no such service.

- go for a leave
- go for an unpaid leave
- send your children to your family
- ask your family to come over
- hire temporary baby sitter
- ...

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Postby Alicia13 » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 5:00 pm

- go for a leave
- go for an unpaid leave
- send your children to your family
- ask your family to come over
- hire temporary baby sitter
- ...[/quote]


We have already applied leaves for these past few weeks, may consider to apply unpaid leaves if necessary.

My parents-in-laws are Malaysians who stay in Kuala Lumpur; my parents' health are not in good condition so we do not wish to trouble them.

Thanks for your suggestions.


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