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Postby JayCee » Thu, 04 Aug 2011 11:18 am

What a nasty piece of work (I'm not talking about the maid, who I'd be prepared to bet money has probably been made to work 16 hours days with no day off by the employer)
I HAVE MASTERS!

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Postby carteki » Thu, 04 Aug 2011 12:23 pm

Alicia13 wrote:My conscience is clear of everything what I hv mentioned.

As I've mentioned earlier, u may consider to "interview" her if you wish to. She has being selected and interviewed by MOM few wks ago, fyi.

And for sure, I hv gotten into a wrong forum.


Sorry - but couldn't not say anything... and I'm sure if the MOM had any concerns they would not allow her to get further employment in Singapore

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Postby x9200 » Thu, 04 Aug 2011 12:37 pm

carteki wrote:
Alicia13 wrote:My conscience is clear of everything what I hv mentioned.

As I've mentioned earlier, u may consider to "interview" her if you wish to. She has being selected and interviewed by MOM few wks ago, fyi.

And for sure, I hv gotten into a wrong forum.


Sorry - but couldn't not say anything... and I'm sure if the MOM had any concerns they would not allow her to get further employment in Singapore

This is the weirdest part of this story but first one more question: MOM interviewed her before or after the things got ugly?

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Postby ksl » Thu, 04 Aug 2011 1:17 pm

we hired a Myanmar maid
You get what you pay for, the Myanmar maids being the most cheapest in Singapore, of course I understand your worry, but just return her to the agent!

Basically you took a risk, with your 3 year old, that others with commonsense would be aware of the risks of a 23 year old with no child experience. Even those with child experience have to be monitored more closely than you realise.

Take some advice, you never know a person, you leave your child with even if it's family! Some of the worst scenarios of child abuse comes from parents themselves! So take it has a warning that no one is perfect!

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Postby Alicia13 » Thu, 04 Aug 2011 2:38 pm

After the incidents. What MOM officer got from my maid's responses are all positive. The purpose of the interview is to understand and assist the new maids to accomodate the life here.

I also want to hightlight here, Myanmar maid's salary is not the cheapest here; their salary can be equivalent to Indonesian or Philippino maids, and they have off day too. Moreover, my maid does not do much housework, priority is to take care my child, so her sleeping hours per day is more than 10 hours; 3 meals a day or 4 to 5 meals at times.

Now I understand what is the purpose of this forum finally.

Just curious, who is a Singaporean here?

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Postby Alicia13 » Thu, 04 Aug 2011 2:39 pm

I agree with you. Thanks for the advice.

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Postby x9200 » Thu, 04 Aug 2011 3:07 pm

Alicia13 wrote:After the incidents. What MOM officer got from my maid's responses are all positive. The purpose of the interview is to understand and assist the new maids to accomodate the life here.

So this is what I don't get: you are fuming with anger, surely she knows about it. If she is as mean as you suggested, why the positive responses? It would be natural for a mean person to push at least a part of the responsibility for such situation to the other party.

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Postby Alicia13 » Thu, 04 Aug 2011 3:59 pm

First of all I want to clarify, we aware about her misconducts and bad behaviour is from cctv, she does not know and we do not want to let her know, so we only hinted and warned her of what she had done. So when the MOM officer interviewed her, of course her response is positive, as over here she can have more than 10 hrs sleep, can get 3 to 5 meals a day (and have the chance to steal my child's and my parents' stuff to eat/drink), moreover not much housework to do.

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Postby Mary Hatch Bailey » Thu, 04 Aug 2011 5:23 pm

Alicia13 wrote:First of all I want to clarify, we aware about her misconducts and bad behaviour is from cctv, she does not know and we do not want to let her know, so we only hinted and warned her of what she had done. So when the MOM officer interviewed her, of course her response is positive, as over here she can have more than 10 hrs sleep, can get 3 to 5 meals a day (and have the chance to steal my child's and my parents' stuff to eat/drink), moreover not much housework to do.


A word of advice Alicia ~ when you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.

Even on this board with all its divergent personalities, I don't believe you'll find anyone who will justify your behavior. Stop campaigning to malign this individual and get on with your life. Next time you look for a helper perhaps you should spend more time in the interview and exploring personal references and thoughtful, patient training rather than stamping your foot like a 2 year old and throwing a hissy-fit.

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Postby gravida » Thu, 04 Aug 2011 10:14 pm

Come on people, for 10 hours of sleep and 3 to 5 meals a day wouldn't you manage the "slightly" cranky employer? And a CCTV that you do not know about*? It is such a deal.

* to make things clear - I do not see anything wrong with CCTV itself (we do have one in our house too, but our nanny knows about it and was informed straight away before she even started working for us), but I do have a lot against not telling the employee about it

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Postby Lilac2 » Thu, 04 Aug 2011 10:19 pm

Hi all, I'm new to this forum intending to get some information on part-time maids when this title caught my eyes.

So this is another example of horrible domestic helper huh. I could be wrong but generally the quality of full-time domestic helpers nowadays is getting worse however they still ask for pay rise.

I can see that Ms Alicia is hopping mad and can understand why. I do have some colleagues and friends who have similar or worse encounters. I would say some helpers just simply take things for granted. No matter how good you are to them, they will contribute the minimal but wishing to get everything. I am also a working mother who has no one to help take care of my little girl. Same as Ms Alicia, I have to "rely" on my helper to care for my girl when I am out working. I will share the same heartache if I discover my helper is pushing my innocent girl around.

Aside to Ms Alicia, just return this domestic helper to your maid agency asap and feedback on her. There are more horrible helpers around in fact, yours is not the worst. Move on with another helper if you need. Hope you have better luck this time. And if like what you said, your helper is really having a "good life" during her stay with you, then she should keep her finger cross when having a new employer.

Cheers!

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Thu, 04 Aug 2011 11:32 pm

One would have to wonder, with the venom she is showing on this board, how badly she treated the maid in the first place. Then accusing most maids of only take jobs to get to fly in a airplane? I have a strange feeling she may well be the employer from hell that we read about sometimes in the press and on the maid in Singapore blog. I might be wrong, but she should remember to ensure her own behaviour isn't the cause of nonperformance.

I would also be willing to bet our complainer is a Singaporean as well. Which begs to question why a local would pick an expat website to post on instead of Stomp or SGForum.

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Postby poodlek » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 12:12 am

sundaymorningstaple wrote:I would also be willing to bet our complainer is a Singaporean as well. Which begs to question why a local would pick an expat website to post on instead of Stomp or SGForum.


You really think she picked it instead? I'd be willing to bet she posted here in addition to the others. If not at first, definitely after she didn't get the response she was looking for here.

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Postby Lilac2 » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 9:50 am

[quote="Alicia13"] We have highlighted to him that she's here not to earn $$, same as some other maids, just because they never take airplane, so take loan from agencies and come over, they do not bother whether they will pass the exam, at the most return to their country, as long as they have travelled the airplane.

Frankly I have heard about this "truth" from 2 maid agencies. Both feedback to me it applies to mostly Indxxxsian helpers.

Btw is this forum strictly for expats? Cos I am a Singaporean.. hee..

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Postby nakatago » Fri, 05 Aug 2011 10:06 am

Lilac2 wrote:Btw is this forum strictly for expats? Cos I am a Singaporean.. hee..


Nah, feel free to contribute and mingle.

A word or warning though, we, a lot of times, use this forum to vent so things can get quite dicey.


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