Singapore Expats

Just wondering why some people say it's important to have relationship help in life and when it's offered to them, they think it's less important than all those 'making more money' help and advice offered? Any idea to making sense of this psychology or mind-set?

I've not heard too many say it was important to have relationship advice. In fact I don't think I've ever heard it.

Either means my relationships don't need advice, or no amount of advice is going to help my relationships.......

sundaymorningstaple wrote:I've not heard too many say it was important to have relationship advice. In fact I don't think I've ever heard it.

The OP maybe English and thinking of;

http://www.relate.org.uk/common-problems/index.html

So would this mean that people will not pay for relationship workshops or counselling or the likes of it?

lizziewine wrote:So would this mean that people will not pay for relationship workshops or counselling or the likes of it?

Ok I get it now, you're thinking of setting up a relationship counselling business and want to canvas opinion? Don't quit your day job

I'd agree--I don't think it's important for SG folks, and other "citizens" go to their temple/mosque/church for advice when needed. Certainly NOT like in the US where lots of people go for councelling and marriage help.

lizziewine wrote:So would this mean that people will not pay for relationship workshops or counselling or the likes of it?

You spoiled everything. I was hoping you would let it continue for a while before revealing your so difficult to be guessed intentions.

People would pay and you have already some competition around. The problem is that AFAIK they are pretty bad so either they are focused to milk you out or can only offer advices of the sort: lit the candles, wear something sexy, make this evening special for both of you! Now, there is nothing wrong with this uber-sophisticated counselling approach for a pretty large group of people. The problem is that if they could not have such stunning ideas by themselves their relation is already in some dire troubles even before it started. In this case the best way to save such relation is to focus on earning sufficient money. If they encounter some financial problems their relation may not survive so probably getting some help from the making more money advisers is here a better option. Do you follow?

Relationship management isn't just marriage! The culture is more inclined to work things out if they can, in Singapore with little outside interference, though my suspicion is more life skills training is required.

Money, health & safety, house keeping and all skill assessments at grass root level need looking at, would you believe i had a 40 year old male, who took the electric plug from my hand, and said the green wire is not connected and that's why it wasn't working, when in actual fact the fuse had dislodged and the two metal parts were touching intermittently as it loose in the fitting.

One of our drivers also has difficulty assessing vehicle storage area and logical packing to utilise space efficiently, which is very inefficient and costly, there is not much commonsense used due to a lack of practical experience and study, there is a great deal of opportunity in hospitality training, motivational work experience, team work, ethics and company loyalty at floor level. I have noticed many locals will resign rather than change their attitudes, or learn above 30 year old and upwards.

Which is quite negative and challenging for anyone that employs them, bosses also need a lesson in man management in most cases too, when they freak out, so i would say relationship management doesn't only apply to spousal issues, it's a part of social culture and educational practical experience in problem solving at a young age, that is to blame in my opinion so there are plenty of business opportunities in self improvement and confidence building through team efforts.

I'm not saying there is a right or wrong way of doing things, just that experience shows improving methods of tackling relationship problems in general and constructive efficiency models should always be evaluated, rather than discarded through stubbornness and attitude.

Learning is a never ending experience in itself which needs to be adopted, in all cultures.

I think the majority would pay for self improvement without a doubt, though the course syllabus needs to cover a spectrum of activities that endow the person with life skills in general to feel worthy and self confident.

It covers all sectors really and not just the working class, for self enrichment classes are confidence builders for everyone, educated and non educated.

NS probably goes a long way to install these qualities for some generations, though it is continual self enrichment which needs to be available for all.

Let me know if you intend starting up, I may also be interested to know more!