1. What is enough to raise a family ?
In a first world country I would say enough to ensure ALL of your kids have a safe and clean home, are clothed, fed, receive appropriate healthcare, and are educated.
Since we all have different perspectives on what is acceptable in this regard then I would say this is somewhat subjective and to an extent I have expressed my opinion on it previously.
2. Does $2K a month enough to raise a family of six or $8K to raise a family of three ?
3. What do you want to put on the table for your family ? A feast or the basic ?
4. To some $8k is just not enough if you want everything in the world money can buy. To others $2K is enough if live frugally and within your means.
5. Again, how do you equate financial stability to having big family ?
I believe I have left several caveats in my previous posts. A lot of ‘ifs’ which you choose to ignore by including me in these questions.
To be frank my posts are not really about big families. A couple could have a single child and be equally as irresponsible if they do not have means to support it.
It should be noted that from here on these stop being questions and start becoming statements. But I will address them anyhow.
6. Your resumes based on Asian applicant. Well , I am an Asian too.
This is obviously not aimed at me but since your post addresses me and just in case it needs to be said…
I do not see a single line I have written specifying any race, religion, or creed. I believe what I have written spans across all of these areas.
7. One man's junk is another man treasure.
No clue what this cliché has to do with anything.
But I have seen a naked 2 year old with no shoes walking along a sidewalk to his house which happens to be a tarpaulin stretched across a sidewalk. He can be the most loved kid in the world but you tell me if it is a responsible parent who has introduced this child to the world.
I (hopefully) anticipate you would say no. But what if this child’s parents reply to you with that cliché does it appease you?
While this extreme obviously does not seem to occur in Singapore I do not believe it would take nearly that far before I start to think something is wrong and assert that the parents are irresponsible. The marker for this lies within your own moral compass.
8. It is all about perception of how you think. In fact most of the time , it is not what the people that are in this situation thinks i.e having large family.
I don't think I said anything regarding having a large family being fundamentally wrong. I express a concern for the children who by no choice of their own and brought into the world by parents who don't have the resources to provide for them, and again I believe I have been pretty specific about the situations I would consider being irresponsible.
9. It boils down to parental responsibility and the commitment of both husband and wife to make thru come thick or thin. Compromise is the essence of success.
Is this really true? Husband and Wife have commitment to make it through come thick or thin... I am sure the two year old I saw will be grateful for the sentiment.
Next time you are near a pet store you should drop in. There are usually several signs saying not to purchase on a whim. The idea behind this is to prevent the potential owner of a dependant being acquiring said being without proper thought of the resources required to support it.
This translates perfectly to my point about irresponsible parents. Again – no issue with big families so long as due diligence is performed by the parents regarding the resources required to properly care for each child.
10. I employed staff too. Never had I worried when the applicant comes for a large family. I salute to them that they buck the trend and never beg and ask for any sympathy for their situation.
You salute them for bucking the trend? What difference does it make? So long as they bring kids into the world that they are able to support then we agree there is no issue right?
If they bring kids into the world that they cannot support I think they are irresponsible for doing so, and even more so for not asking for help and sympathy to aid them.
Not sure why they should be singled out for salutation during hiring for this.
It really breaks my heart on how shallow you see things
It is interesting how you and SMS are to new posters. You both seem to pick and choose what you read from a post to fit your own assumptions.
So far in less than 20 posts I have been insinuated as an advertiser (jokingly or not), called shallow, and probably worst of all… a mistake on the behalf of my parents.
If you disagree then fine, I am always open to a debate. But what is with these personal insults?