sorry, am late to the party
those who whine about SGns, well, let me say (and with a million apologies for all the Filipinos in the house .. ) ..
Try conversing with a Filipino, except the rare few who have worked with other cultures, majority will spook you ... scare you, terrify you and make you wonder what is wrong with the world..
I know, cos I am living with two
When confronted with a tough choice, it is absolute silence, or 'implied' that the answer is in front of you .. or action taken is totally opposite of what you would like to see done ..
Like, when you say "shall we catch up for dinner, my sister is in town', instead of saying "no can do, I have an appointment" or "I am tired after work .. " the answer will be "sure, love it .. "
and at the time, an sms "go ahead first, I will catch you .. " and then "are you enjoying your meal ?? .. I will be there soon .. " and and hour later, "have a beer on me, I am just about there.. " and two hours later .. "I will catch you for dessert .. " and then silence ..
When I reach home, I find out that my housemate, being unable to reject my invite, decided to stay home, and never left the house ..
Only later I find out that my housemate either was shy, or didn't have the heart to say no .. or plainly, don't like to be the bearer of bad news ..
Well .. I am not stereotyping .. but .. different cultures mate ..
Now back to Singaporeans .. I worked with enough locals ..
One of the common trait here is, if you do something not acceptable, instead of telling you, it is better to keep the silence and then make you enemy # 1
Like .. a colleague of mine .. wrongly quoted the customer, and then tried to stick with the costing .. under-quote actually ..
I made a mistake of asking him if the pricing was right .. he smiled and said "it's ok, we will cover in the next sale .. "
I didn't realise it was taboo to question such stuff .. and next day, the whole sales team starts to avoid me .. till I confront another guy, who goes "well, the answer is there .. we have been hinting that such stuff happens .. " ...
I chalk it up to "think and think, and if you are not sure .. better to keep quite .. "
And on another note .. somebody wrote about Japanese culture .. post Tsunami ..
Apparently, not everything in Hunky Dory in The Miyagi prefecture .. it is just that, the attitude is "it is our problem, we live in the gym, and have no clue what happens, etc. etc. .. you keep yourself out of it .. "
That was the reaction of a lot of Japanese, when some british newspaper managed to highlight that the Japanese are struggling, and need a lot of shelter and things .. which were plainly rejected as "no need .. "
PS: I hope I didn't stir up the Hornet's nest ..