the memememe generation, that you are apparently a member of, finds it difficult thinking about loved ones, when they only love themselve
I think it very self sacrificial to work for your loved ones. When your dad has had a stroke and only your mum and you are left to look after him.
You and your mum are not educated and haven't any relevant qualifications to your name you suddenly can't pick and choose your jobs and working hours.
So you are a taxi driver and have to cover the rent of your taxi 7 days a week. You share that burden with someone else and each work 12 hour shifts overnight.
Your mum has to work in retail which means irregular shifts and weekends. Between the two of you you can just about afford the medical bills, pay the house bills and put food on the table. Medical bills being the obvious big spend.
Now tell me what is left to give up from this lifestyle of excess?
The one thing you can count on is your live in helper who can help your dad walk to the bathroom, change his clothes, eat and ensure that he is taken care of while you and your mum have to work.
You and your mum assist the helper in every free hour you have and do the main things like helping your dad shower etc and look after your dad while your maid takes her breaks.
Now a moral army decide to cast their judgement and enforce a day off on your helper.
Suddenly you cannot work one day a week since someone has to look after your dad full time. When life is hard enough you lose your willing and well treated maid because you can no longer afford her.
One of you have to quit your job to look after your dad every day which then means you can no longer afford the medical bills etc...
Long story slightly shorter... its a down hill spiral....
Still sound very 'mememe'?
Some families genuinely depend on their helper for more reasons than pure gluttony and sloth. They enter mutual agreements based on both the needs of the family AND the willingness of the maid.
My word some people on here sound hysterical for a population of helpers who were forced to come to Singapore with knives to throat where every employer barricades them in to their dungeon laughing maniacally... what a sensationalist bunch
To anticipate at least part of the inevitable backlash... I again deplore abuse and believe that where it exists (Which clearly some of you seem to believe is 100% of helper employers) it should be exposed and rectified.