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Any support groups for women in an abusive relationship?

Postby appledot » Fri, 10 Jun 2011 6:07 pm

I moved to Singapore about 1 year ago. My husband, a singaporean, has become very abusive. He flares up for no reason or for little things. He can change from being a sweet and loving husband to a scary abusive man in a matter of minutes. He doesn't allow me to have friends, and forbid me from contacting my relatives. I believe he has a problem, it seems he has no control over his emotion at times, he denies that he has a problem. I am scared, sad, lost and very lonely. Is there any support groups in Singapore for women like me?

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Re: Any support groups for women in an abusive relationship?

Postby Strong Eagle » Fri, 10 Jun 2011 9:29 pm

appledot wrote:I moved to Singapore about 1 year ago. My husband, a singaporean, has become very abusive. He flares up for no reason or for little things. He can change from being a sweet and loving husband to a scary abusive man in a matter of minutes. He doesn't allow me to have friends, and forbid me from contacting my relatives. I believe he has a problem, it seems he has no control over his emotion at times, he denies that he has a problem. I am scared, sad, lost and very lonely. Is there any support groups in Singapore for women like me?


I don't know... but I can give you a two good starting places where women and counseling professionals can point you in the right direction.

First, take a look at SACAC. http://www.sacac.sg/Counseling/about.html. They would be a good starting point for counseling yourself about options, as well as pointing you to legal and social remedies available to you.

Second contact the American Women's Association: http://www.awasingapore.org/. I've found them to be an active and empathetic group of women, and I am sure that someone there will be able to connect and work with you.

Best to you... and you need to get out of that relationship ASAP. If he is not already hitting you, that will be next... he is exhibiting all the signs of an abuser.

Look at some of these resources.

http://sg.theasianparent.com/articles/a ... tionships/

http://fcd.ecitizen.gov.sg/FamilyNCommu ... oFindHelp/

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Postby JR8 » Fri, 10 Jun 2011 11:53 pm

There are a lot of resources and support groups on the web. But meeting with a professional will give you a much needed reality check.

In an abusive relationship you are often 'too close to the tree to see the wood it stands in'.

Good luck.

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Am sorry to hear about that

Postby paulgibson » Mon, 04 Jul 2011 10:42 pm

Am really sorry to hear about your situation. Perhaps his work life has become stressful after the move to Singapore. In your situation it might be a good idea to confide in a mutual male family friend you might have? This person could then speak to your husband casually and touch on the topic at hand. And perhaps also suggest ways he could help himself, perhaps by seeing a professional like a counselor?

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Re: Am sorry to hear about that

Postby JayCee » Tue, 05 Jul 2011 6:31 pm

paulgibson wrote:Am really sorry to hear about your situation. Perhaps his work life has become stressful after the move to Singapore. In your situation it might be a good idea to confide in a mutual male family friend you might have? This person could then speak to your husband casually and touch on the topic at hand. And perhaps also suggest ways he could help himself, perhaps by seeing a professional like a counselor?


Her husband is Singaporean genius.

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