Post Nups is the division of assets during the marriage. If you divorce, your assets are also typically divided so I do not understand why you would like to do it such way or even if this is legally possible.Otah Girl! wrote:He said that if only I sign on Post Nups, he would take me to U.S and help me apply for Immigrant Visa inorder to be with him. I agree to do so only on the event of Divorce.
As long as you've lived in Singapore for 3 or more years you are eligible to file for divorce here. The Women's Charter in SG is stronger than in most other countries and from a material point of view it would be to your advantage if you get a divorce here.Otah Girl! wrote:I'm a foreigner living in Singapore for almost 4 years and I am not permanent resident here but have residing been here as full time mother of child.
My husband is an American and we have been married for more than 4 years in another country. And I'm neither American or Singaporean. We have a kid who is 6 yeras old. My husband kept posphoning to bring us to U.S with so many reasons. At first he said, he would be posted here in Singapore. Then he said something else. But he gives us exact allowance to live here in Singapore including school fees and every expenes and we have our vacation every now and then meet up in U.S and other parts of the world.
He said that if only I sign on Post Nups, he would take me to U.S and help me apply for Immigrant Visa inorder to be with him. I agree to do so only on the event of Divorce. Not while we are in the marriage. As an attorney himself, he represents himself and he asked me to look for a lawyer who registers in U.S to practice. I do not agree with his draft. And I don't think he would be happy with me in anyway after this argument. So i know that it's time for me to prepare for Divorce here in Singapore.
I'm neither greedy nor want to control everything of his. But I want my rights as a wife. If I have no rights as a wife, what is the point of being married? I could have continued to live as a single. Now that I'm old and ugly because of childbirth, he takes me to the corner and telling me to take him as he wants or leave him. By the way, I'm quite younger than him.
Here are my questions!!!
1. Do you think I should ask for Divorce since I can agree no longer with his post nups and I'm sure to know that he would not be nice to me if I don't do as he wants?
2. Do you think I'm eligible to ask for Divroce in Singapore?
3. How will it look like?
4. I won't gain anything according to Post Nups. If I agree on Post nups. What will happen if he mistreats me later? Or give away all his fortune away as I got no rights in it and where do I live later when I grow old?
5. I am only willing to do Post Nups at the even of Divorce and not within marraige.
6. I still love him. But he hurts my feeling. I have been through all the gossips, difficulites and taking care of our child since birth and waiting to be with him.
7. If I ask for Divorce now, will I gain any advantage according to the law in Singapore?
8. Should I go ahead and agree his Post Nups since I'm still in love with him......? But I won't feel confidence or secured if I waives every rights of a wife. I will have emotional problem and will not be happy later.
9. In which way, he would be at his disadvantage?
10. For now, I propose him for Divorce and no reply yet from him.
11. To be frank, I do not wanna leave him. I love him. And I don't wanna sign on Post Nups regarding of waving my every rights as a wife of his properties. I can only agree on the event of Divorce.
12. Do I look GREEDY? It's not our way of doing the marriage. It's really scary and so saddening for being asked by my husband.
Please help me understand this logically and how will I hold on to him?
Thank you very much.
Otah.
Which specific points in the draft do you not agree with? And what do you mean by your 'rights as a wife'?Otah Girl! wrote:I do not agree with his draft.
I want my rights as a wife.
O.K. I'm sorry about my poor english.Wind In My Hair wrote:Which specific points in the draft do you not agree with? And what do you mean by your 'rights as a wife'?Otah Girl! wrote:I do not agree with his draft.
I want my rights as a wife.
Just wondering if your objection is to specific points or whether you are insulted that he is asking for a post-nup in the first place.
Why are you not willing to negotiate if you love him? If the negotiations fail, you can still divorce at that point.
Otah Girl wrote:O.K. I'm sorry about my poor english.Wind In My Hair wrote:Which specific points in the draft do you not agree with? And what do you mean by your 'rights as a wife'?Otah Girl! wrote:I do not agree with his draft.
I want my rights as a wife.
Just wondering if your objection is to specific points or whether you are insulted that he is asking for a post-nup in the first place.
Why are you not willing to negotiate if you love him? If the negotiations fail, you can still divorce at that point.
I told him I would agree to sign on the agreetment that based on the event of Divorce. Now he brings up the seperating of the assets. And apparently I have none. For the last 7 years, I didn't work. I was with him and taking care of the kid. As he didn't stay with us together, all the babies responsiblities are upon me and ALL ALONE. I didn't hire a maid as I didn't want to spend unnecessarily.
It's obvious that he got higher assets and everything........ Why do you think I should waive every right of a wife to be with him? Then what is the use of being a wife? It's not that I asked for more. It's according to the Law that I have given Rights as a wife. He asking me to waive every right that I'm entitled to any of his assets. I mean how much I would get from this..... He was the one working for it. But I don't see the reason to waive my rights a a wife is entitled to.
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