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Postby x9200 » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 5:52 pm

sggirl79 wrote:
JayCee wrote:He doesn't sound very committed to me if he can't spare 5 mins to talk to you every day, no-one's job is that demanding


You know what? I couldn't believe my eyes when he texted me that he doesn't even have 1 minute.

I was fuming :x

You had all the reasons to be. It doesn't look too good :( Hope you are a nice girl and he realizes fast enough that he can lose you.

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Postby JayCee » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 6:09 pm

Where is this guy from and where is he living now?

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Postby the lynx » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 6:18 pm

sggirl79 wrote:@lynx - love is blind and i am blinded by love. I will give him a deadline to relocate, if he cannot meet my deadline, that's it. My biological clock is running low now and i cannot afford another few more years of wait, ending up being alone and old eventually.


There's even a deadline?

Cut the crap. Please get up, get out and get a better one. It's Friday, girl!

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Postby Wind In My Hair » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 7:19 pm

sggirl79 wrote:Just want to get advice on how to keep myself going strong emotionally while waiting for him to relocate to SG.

Get a life, and I say this sincerely. LDR or no LDR, BF or no BF, having a life of your own (family, friends, activities, hobbies, community service) is the only way to remain emotionally stable both now and in the long run. Living your life around another person is emotionally destabilising.

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Postby Strong Eagle » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 7:36 pm

Wind In My Hair wrote:
sggirl79 wrote:Just want to get advice on how to keep myself going strong emotionally while waiting for him to relocate to SG.

Get a life, and I say this sincerely. LDR or no LDR, BF or no BF, having a life of your own (family, friends, activities, hobbies, community service) is the only way to remain emotionally stable both now and in the long run. Living your life around another person is emotionally destabilising.


Very wise words. I'dda thunk you did New Warrior training... but that's for guys to understand this life view.

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Postby Wind In My Hair » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 10:20 pm

Thanks SE. I wish I'd had training, but I had to learn my lessons through real-life heartbreaks.

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Postby nakatago » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 10:23 pm

the lynx wrote:
sggirl79 wrote:@lynx - love is blind and i am blinded by love. I will give him a deadline to relocate, if he cannot meet my deadline, that's it. My biological clock is running low now and i cannot afford another few more years of wait, ending up being alone and old eventually.


There's even a deadline?

Cut the crap. Please get up, get out and get a better one. It's Friday, girl!


This is why LDR's don't work for some people--they give in. You really need to go out more...

...and yes I'm aware of the irony of me posting this on a Friday evening. Hey, I felt too lazy to go out; I'll do so tomorrow instead.

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Postby beppi » Mon, 06 Jun 2011 12:30 pm

sggirl79 wrote:beppi - i have received your PM but I am unable to reply to you yet.


Then do add some value to this forum by a few more posts first!
Sorry, I will not publicly post my email address or identity here, nor will I discuss personal matters like my relationship here (but by PM or email is o.k.).

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Postby JayCee » Mon, 06 Jun 2011 12:54 pm

OP - if he's caucasion with a good job living in China he will no doubt be surrounded by temptation. And bearing in mind that guys from the country he is from (I won't write where as you sent it to me via PM so assume you want to keep it secret for some reason) don't have the greatest reputation for monogamy, along with the things you have written about him here, in particular never making any time for you, I would cut your losses and find a faithful guy closer to home


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