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Anyone in Long Distance Relationship?

Postby sggirl79 » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 10:51 am

Just wondering if there are anybody here who is in a LDR with their bf/gf/husband/wife, where your signficant half is currently living in another country while you are relocated to SG?

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Postby sggirl79 » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 11:33 am

beppi - i have received your PM but I am unable to reply to you yet.

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Postby ScoobyDoes » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 11:33 am

Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt.






It's nothing unusual these days.
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Postby nakatago » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 11:37 am

compound word: videoconferencing.

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Postby ksl » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 12:42 pm

Emotions and trust my friend, learn to control!

I have had many overseas relationships, the only ones that really matter are the ones under your own roof!

Remember the promise of marriage, for better or worse!

Jealousy is a killer, and in most cases of overseas relationships life goes on as normal, in silence as privacy is important is golden in single life as married life.

Trust me when i say to let go of your worries, a million miles is nothing these days and life is life so just enjoy and remember you have an obligation, that many people cannot keep in the same situation.

I mean do you know what it's like to go without food for longer than a couple of days? Obligation is the word, in hygiene too, remember that sex and love is not the same and never will be the same!

As women and men that do not live up to their matrimonial duties also find out. Good luck and stop worrying it will all work out if you have faith. Though it maybe for better or for worse!

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Postby ScoobyDoes » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 2:15 pm

ksl wrote:Trust me when i say to let go of your worries, a million miles is nothing these days and life is life .......



Technically, that is truer than you might actually have thought given the earth's circumference is 24,901miles. It means that if you travel a million miles, you'll really only be 3,960miles away :lol: That's just a bit further than from here to HK, which was the distance between myself and my wife.

Coincidence, i think not.

Of course, that's provided you travel round the equator because if you go over the polls it will be a bit longer given the planet is not spherical.
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Re: Anyone in Long Distance Relationship?

Postby Barnsley » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 2:15 pm

sggirl79 wrote:Just wondering if there are anybody here who is in a LDR with their bf/gf/husband/wife, where your signficant half is currently living in another country while you are relocated to SG?


I live in the East and my girlfriend in the West ...... thats far enough for me.
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Postby nakatago » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 2:21 pm

ScoobyDoes wrote:
ksl wrote:Trust me when i say to let go of your worries, a million miles is nothing these days and life is life .......



Technically, that is truer than you might actually have thought given the earth's circumference is 24,901miles. It means that if you travel a million miles, you'll really only be 3,960miles away :lol: That's just a bit further than from here to HK, which was the distance between myself and my wife.

Coincidence, i think not.

Of course, that's provided you travel round the equator because if you go over the polls it will be a bit longer given the planet is not spherical.


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Postby sggirl79 » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 2:35 pm

ScoobyDoes wrote:
ksl wrote:Trust me when i say to let go of your worries, a million miles is nothing these days and life is life .......



Technically, that is truer than you might actually have thought given the earth's circumference is 24,901miles. It means that if you travel a million miles, you'll really only be 3,960miles away :lol: That's just a bit further than from here to HK, which was the distance between myself and my wife.

Coincidence, i think not.

Of course, that's provided you travel round the equator because if you go over the polls it will be a bit longer given the planet is not spherical.


Sometimes it is so tough to go on since me and my bf in different loations and we hardly see each other. Probably only once a month or once every two months. If he is not traveling out from China, he will be 1624 miles away, right now he on business trip, 2018 miles away.

Just hoping to find some consolation/support from anyone who are currently in/been through LDR. Nobody will understand how it feels unless they have been through the same before.

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Re: Anyone in Long Distance Relationship?

Postby sggirl79 » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 2:37 pm

Barnsley wrote:
sggirl79 wrote:Just wondering if there are anybody here who is in a LDR with their bf/gf/husband/wife, where your signficant half is currently living in another country while you are relocated to SG?


I live in the East and my girlfriend in the West ...... thats far enough for me.


Lol, that is not considered LDR :P

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Re: Anyone in Long Distance Relationship?

Postby sundaymorningstaple » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 2:40 pm

sggirl79 wrote:
Barnsley wrote:
sggirl79 wrote:Just wondering if there are anybody here who is in a LDR with their bf/gf/husband/wife, where your signficant half is currently living in another country while you are relocated to SG?


I live in the East and my girlfriend in the West ...... thats far enough for me.


Lol, that is not considered LDR :P


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Postby x9200 » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 3:37 pm

sggirl79 wrote:Sometimes it is so tough to go on since me and my bf in different loations and we hardly see each other. Probably only once a month or once every two months. If he is not traveling out from China, he will be 1624 miles away, right now he on business trip, 2018 miles away.

Just hoping to find some consolation/support from anyone who are currently in/been through LDR. Nobody will understand how it feels unless they have been through the same before.

2000 miles away, once a month or two and you dare to complain!? :shock:
We were 12000 miles away for 1.5y and managed.

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Postby sggirl79 » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 3:55 pm

x9200 wrote:
sggirl79 wrote:Sometimes it is so tough to go on since me and my bf in different loations and we hardly see each other. Probably only once a month or once every two months. If he is not traveling out from China, he will be 1624 miles away, right now he on business trip, 2018 miles away.

Just hoping to find some consolation/support from anyone who are currently in/been through LDR. Nobody will understand how it feels unless they have been through the same before.

2000 miles away, once a month or two and you dare to complain!? :shock:
We were 12000 miles away for 1.5y and managed.


Compared to those couple who are seeing each other everyday, this is a torture for me and for anyone. I guess it boils down to individual on the limit. If you are talking/communication everyday, fine. If neither have the time to even talk for 1 min per day even in same timezone, this is kind of weird and frustrating.

Anyway i am not complaining here, what's there to complain when it is my choice?

Just want to get advice on how to keep myself going strong emotionally while waiting for him to relocate to SG.

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Postby ThuyChi » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 4:03 pm

x9200 wrote:
sggirl79 wrote:Sometimes it is so tough to go on since me and my bf in different loations and we hardly see each other. Probably only once a month or once every two months. If he is not traveling out from China, he will be 1624 miles away, right now he on business trip, 2018 miles away.

Just hoping to find some consolation/support from anyone who are currently in/been through LDR. Nobody will understand how it feels unless they have been through the same before.

2000 miles away, once a month or two and you dare to complain!? :shock:
We were 12000 miles away for 1.5y and managed.


I can sort of sympathize with OP if she is in the earlier stage of the relationship or it's the first time they are ever separated. I came to Sg 2 months before my bf did, it was a living hell for me since we were only together for 3 months and we were always together when I left. Fast forward to three years later, now we are ok if one of us need to go away for 1 - 2 months (and this happens to us at least twice a year, not counting short separation of a week or two :wink: ). You learn to accept that missing your other half is part of your everyday but it should not be drag on 24/7. You will find something to occupy yourself rather than the other person. The world is much flatter nowadays, there's phone, Skype and all that. Trusting each other is the key, if you can't do it, you'll be hurt and the easy way out is to end the relationship before you go crazy.

There was a period when I went crazy and bought ticket to fly to where he was for only two days. Cost me a bomb but made me feel better :oops: For me, if a couple is sooo busy till they can't even find time to sneak into the toilet to call each other 5 mins a day, it's probably better if they end everything. Unless you are on the field fighting or in a coma in the hospital, I can't understand how people get too busy to call each other especially if they are in the same time zone :roll:

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Postby ScoobyDoes » Fri, 03 Jun 2011 4:24 pm

sggirl79 wrote:
Sometimes it is so tough to go on since me and my bf in different loations and we hardly see each other. Probably only once a month or once every two months. If he is not traveling out from China, he will be 1624 miles away, right now he on business trip, 2018 miles away.

Just hoping to find some consolation/support from anyone who are currently in/been through LDR. Nobody will understand how it feels unless they have been through the same before.



Doesn't make a difference if it's 1624 or 2018 miles, anything over something like 500miles is enough.

We did it for nearly six years, the last two years of which included my son. Skype and MSN kept everybody in touch and we would see each other three or four times a year.

It's not really so hard, just like being single but with a couple of restrictions :P
'When Lewis Hamilton wins a race he has to thank Vodafone whereas in my day I used to chase the crumpet. I know which era I'd rather race in.'



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