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So many friends online; No friends offline. :(

Postby SG Expat Bat » Tue, 03 May 2011 12:06 pm

Guys...

I have a serious problem and I don't know what to do...
I feel very alone...

My Facebook got about 600+ friends

But in real life I feel so alone even though I am chatting online with so many people.

My birthday just passed not too long ago. Lots of well wishes on my wall; but nobody bothers to call me and wish me well...

Do you feel we become very superficial ah? Do for the sake of it or for convenience sake? I also admit I seldom call anyone to wish them Happy Birthday anymore.

Got many Facebook friends but all are like strangers.
Kinda of like ex-gf likedat... they know what's going on with you but don't talk to you...

Do you guys feel this way?

Sorry for WOT.
Just feeling depressed.

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Re: So many friends online; No friends offline. :(

Postby JayCee » Tue, 03 May 2011 12:54 pm

SG Expat Bat wrote:Do you feel we become very superficial ah? .


"We" - no
"You" - yes (based on your post)

The irony of complaining about having no life because of the internet - on an internet forum.

Get off your arse and go outside, and leave the PSP, IPhone and IPad behind too. Then try talking to a real person and see how you get on.

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Re: So many friends online; No friends offline. :(

Postby aargon » Tue, 03 May 2011 1:09 pm

You`re like a fat person munching away on a chocolate complaining about not being able to lose weight.

SG Expat Bat wrote:Guys...

I have a serious problem and I don't know what to do...
I feel very alone...



seriously dude, stop eating the chocolate bar ](*,)
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Postby SG Expat Bat » Tue, 03 May 2011 1:18 pm

there isn't much to do on this island either... haha

i am really curious to know though how many feel the way i do...

i mean on FB we can have many friends... and to other it may seem like our life is great and all...

but truth is a lot of us are alone inside...

the people who know you only KNOW you through FB.
their idea of "you" is who they see on FB... and never bother to try "knowing" you in person.

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Postby aargon » Tue, 03 May 2011 1:31 pm

SG Expat Bat wrote:there isn't much to do on this island either... haha

i am really curious to know though how many feel the way i do...

i mean on FB we can have many friends... and to other it may seem like our life is great and all...

but truth is a lot of us are alone inside...

the people who know you only KNOW you through FB.
their idea of "you" is who they see on FB... and never bother to try "knowing" you in person.


next you`re going to quote some BS about being born into this world alone....

dude, its hard to believe you even have friends on the internet.

I`d suggest you seek a more positive perspective on life - if its difficult to do on your own, seek professional help.

Although I figure you`re a local - which makes me then think perhaps I can understand why you`re depressed :D
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Postby Plavt » Tue, 03 May 2011 2:12 pm

aargon wrote:
Although I figure you`re a local - which makes me then think perhaps I can understand why you`re depressed :D


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Postby nakatago » Tue, 03 May 2011 2:36 pm

Seriously, get out of the house.

If, however, you're a hot, single lady, I'd be willing to take you out to dinner or something. But I seriously doubt that is the case so just look for a meet up and join that.

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Re: So many friends online; No friends offline. :(

Postby intellectualsmuse » Tue, 03 May 2011 3:40 pm

SG Expat Bat wrote:Guys...

I have a serious problem and I don't know what to do...
I feel very alone...

My Facebook got about 600+ friends

But in real life I feel so alone even though I am chatting online with so many people.

My birthday just passed not too long ago. Lots of well wishes on my wall; but nobody bothers to call me and wish me well...

Do you feel we become very superficial ah? Do for the sake of it or for convenience sake? I also admit I seldom call anyone to wish them Happy Birthday anymore.

Got many Facebook friends but all are like strangers.
Kinda of like ex-gf likedat... they know what's going on with you but don't talk to you...

Do you guys feel this way?

Sorry for WOT.
Just feeling depressed.


Now that you've realised you feel this way, why don't you do something about it? And since you're on the forum, why don't you go to the "Events, gatherings..." section and try and meet some people in the "real" world?
For those who fight for it, life has a flavor the sheltered will never know.

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Re: So many friends online; No friends offline. :(

Postby x9200 » Tue, 03 May 2011 5:12 pm

SG Expat Bat wrote:Guys...

I have a serious problem and I don't know what to do...
I feel very alone...

My Facebook got about 600+ friends

But in real life I feel so alone even though I am chatting online with so many people.

600+ FB friends... you wanted quantity not quality you got what you wanted. Sorry.

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Postby aargon » Tue, 03 May 2011 6:28 pm

This thread reminds me of the Celine Dion song - " where do all the lonely hearts go....." :-({|=
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Postby vbelle » Wed, 04 May 2011 12:55 pm

SG Expat Bat wrote:the people who know you only KNOW you through FB.
their idea of "you" is who they see on FB... and never bother to try "knowing" you in person.


have YOU try to know them in person??
contact them and meet up...

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Postby Strong Eagle » Wed, 04 May 2011 2:00 pm

You should choose an activity that you would enjoy and join a group. Friendships don't just 'happen', they build over time through shared experience. So, go dirt biking, sail boarding, cooking, something that provides a challenge you can share with one another.

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Postby aargon » Wed, 04 May 2011 5:26 pm

Strong Eagle wrote:You should choose an activity that you would enjoy and join a group. Friendships don't just 'happen', they build over time through shared experience.


I wouldnt listen to SE's advise if your idea of an enjoyable activity is online gaming!!!? :D
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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Wed, 11 May 2011 10:37 pm

How do you know the poster is an angmohs? :roll:

You should maybe read the other thread on Indian's dating in Singapore.

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Postby lavendar » Fri, 13 May 2011 10:56 pm

Strong Eagle wrote:You should choose an activity that you would enjoy and join a group. Friendships don't just 'happen', they build over time through shared experience. So, go dirt biking, sail boarding, cooking, something that provides a challenge you can share with one another.


I support this suggestions. We get to know alot of friends through activities and classes.

Do you also try to talk to neighbours, familiar faces you see in the food centre, market, bus stop, etc. It also works this way, but going to hobby class or activities will have higher chance.


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