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Postby Sam Raj » Mon, 25 Apr 2011 8:12 am

My helper has been with us for a little over 2 yrs now. Had her contract renewed with a lot of difficulty as she had tried getting married to a someone here.

We are planning to move out of Singapore , in a few months time and I had told my helper that I would give her a good reference and help her find a good employer.

But couple weeks back she told me that she wants to immigrate to the US. She has talked to a friend of her previous employer who resides there and has even managed to get a sponsor for a visitor visa (based on a fraudulent claim that she is the sponsor's cousin, and this sponsor is a physician family who wants to employ a maid!).

Now she wants me to fill her visitor visa application and give her 10 days off to visit there.

She tells me that after she comes back she will finish her 2 year contract here (getting a transfer after we leave) and only then take up a job in the US.

I have tried telling her that it is not easy to get a visa to work as a maid in the USA, but she told me that I should not worry about that and once she visits the US and comes back it will be fairly easy for her to get employment as a maid there and her visa for the same will also be approved.

I have a feeling that she is planning to leave from here and stay on as an illegal immigrant once she gets there and she just wants us to keep her work permit for some time and hence is telling me that she will be gone only for 10 days.


I do not like getting involved in these activities, as I don't think it is right. I have tried telling her that she does not even know the sponsor family and it may not even be a safe thing to do.

If I refuse to fill her visitor visa application or give her time off, she is going to be very upset and obviously show it in her work and actions as she has set her heart and mind on this scheme.

As her employer what are my liabilities if she goes on this trip and does not return? Any thoughts or ideas on how to handle this situation.

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Re: Helper plans to immigrate.

Postby ancientmariner » Mon, 25 Apr 2011 8:38 am

Sam Raj wrote:
As her employer what are my liabilities if she goes on this trip and does not return? Any thoughts or ideas on how to handle this situation.


She will get her US visa basis her own/sponsor's merit, so, you will be hardly responsible for anything I guess. Also, I don't think, Singapore gahmen will be interested on her at all if she leaves the country legally and never returns!
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Postby Mad Scientist » Mon, 25 Apr 2011 9:55 am

The problem like these is nothing new. You gave her an inch , she wants a yard.
Although not all maids are like yours but you had that coming for her .
You tried to treat her like other human being and methinks she is taking advantage of your weaknesses. Anyway I do not have maid at all so I cannot comment which way is good for you . Personally, cut her loose is better than having problems with her later.

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Re: Helper issues

Postby ecureilx » Mon, 25 Apr 2011 11:17 am

Sam Raj wrote:As her employer what are my liabilities if she goes on this trip and does not return? Any thoughts or ideas on how to handle this situation.


Complicated : for the sake of preserving my hide, I have sent you a PM !

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Mon, 25 Apr 2011 12:20 pm

Frankly, I would stick stick out my neck like that. If you help her to fill out the visa application (e.g., acting as her sponsor) then you are in collusion with her to defraud the US government. I doubt that is what you want to do. I personally wouldn't touch it with a 10' barge pole.

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Postby Sam Raj » Tue, 26 Apr 2011 10:37 am

I am not sponsoring her. She already has a sponsor letter. She does not read any English so she needs help filling the visa form online.
Also she can always get the visa form filled up by someone else.

She wants me to give her time off and keep her WP permit valid until she visits there and "come back".

I tried telling her that I cannot help much and there is so much crying, begging, pleading...so it is a difficult situation. It is not just as easy as saying no.

The only other option is to terminate her, which raises many more questions than I can list here.

Thanks for all your replies.

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Postby ecureilx » Tue, 26 Apr 2011 11:25 am

Sam Raj wrote:The only other option is to terminate her, which raises many more questions than I can list here.

Thanks for all your replies.


Hope you read my PM :D

As i said, if she goes MIA, MOM will be after your hide .. ;)

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Postby movingtospore » Wed, 27 Apr 2011 4:09 pm

You need to say NO and tell her to stop bugging you about it or you will fire her. End of story.

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Postby movingtospore » Wed, 27 Apr 2011 4:10 pm

But then I am still putting up with a maid who drives me @#$# crazy so take my firm words with a grain of salt. :)


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