Want to take back resignation

melvin396 · Post by **melvin396** » Mon, 14 Mar 2011 11:02 am

Hi all,
I resigned last month, now serving my last 5 days on my date notice. I was so decided then, everything is settled until i found just this weekend that i am pregnant. This made me uncertain, since i will start fresh with the new company and will be on probation for 3 months, im worried about the unpaid leaves and also im afraid if the next company wont accept if i am already pregnant..im so confused right now,,one thing is it ok to take back my resignation if in case?

thanks

revhappy · Post by **revhappy** » Mon, 14 Mar 2011 11:39 am

Withdrawing your resignation shouldn't be a problem unless your replacement has already been hired and especially if you are in good terms with your boss.

My wife is pregnant for 3 months and was working, but she has morning sickness and feels so weak that she is unable to go to office and she is just taking unpaid leave. She is actually ready to quit and I support her as I think her health is more important than the money. So you should consider that if you can afford just quit the job and enjoy your pregnancy.

And yes congratulations!!

Vxx · Post by **Vxx** » Mon, 14 Mar 2011 6:25 pm

Unless you are a superstar at work, I would be very surprised if your current employer would welcome you back with open arms under those circumstances. You clearly do not want to work for them and taking you back for your convenience now you are pregnant....hmm not sure that is going to work.

ev-disinfection · Post by **ev-disinfection** » Mon, 14 Mar 2011 7:18 pm

melvin396 wrote:Hi all,
I resigned last month, now serving my last 5 days on my date notice. I was so decided then, everything is settled until i found just this weekend that i am pregnant. This made me uncertain, since i will start fresh with the new company and will be on probation for 3 months, im worried about the unpaid leaves and also im afraid if the next company wont accept if i am already pregnant..im so confused right now,,one thing is it ok to take back my resignation if in case?

thanks

melvin396 is pregnant, or are you Mrs Melvin.....
Imagine this..... your GF just broke up with you, and 5 days later wants to be back with you again, cause she just found out that she is pregnant, would you accept her back, if yes, would you think it will ever be the same again....

BTW.... Congratulations on your pregnancy

revhappy · Post by **revhappy** » Mon, 14 Mar 2011 11:32 pm

ev-disinfection and Vxx, I am not sure if you guys are talking from experience and is this a Singaporean thing.

In my experience of last 8-9 years in India, I have had numerous colleagues who had quit only to join back as soon as they found that they had taken a wrong decision. The company accepted them with open arms. Reason, they were good employees and were assets to any company they went.

The example of breaking up with boy friend is not even related with this context. Even then, Why cant you go back once you know you are pregnant. Put yourself in the boyfriends shoes and ask yourself the question will you accept or not? I would if we could work it together, why not?

ev-disinfection · Post by **ev-disinfection** » Tue, 15 Mar 2011 12:39 am

Hi Rev,
Maybe it is an Asian thing, (South East Asian) for once you have decided to leave, you leave. a good horse doesn't eat past grass (direct translation) but we do not burn the bridges once we have crossed it, though.

Yes, unless there is no one better, we would not accept a "just resigned and wanna come back" employee.

Different cultures i guess....

What does everyone else think about this topic?

k1w1 · Post by **k1w1** » Tue, 15 Mar 2011 6:02 am

You're about to quit and now you want to stay? Have you been replaced?

You clearly only want to go back to your old job now so you can get maternity benefits. Considering how many women in Singapore are fired during their pregnancy, I'd say you have slim hopes of being able to get your job/benefits back once your boss finds out you're pregnant.

revhappy · Post by **revhappy** » Tue, 15 Mar 2011 9:47 am

k1w1 wrote: Considering how many women in Singapore are fired during their pregnancy.

What a shocking comment.

And the gahmen wants people to produce kids. Most SG women need to work to maintain their lifestyles. So how are they going to get the kids if employers discourage workign women from getting pregnant

Post by **sundaymorningstaple** » Tue, 15 Mar 2011 10:22 am

Therein lies the problem. What the gahmen want and what the employers want are always two different things. It's the workers who get screwed between the two!

ev-disinfection · Post by **ev-disinfection** » Tue, 15 Mar 2011 1:22 pm

Hey SMS, do you normally take back someone who has just resigned?
say you do not know about the pregnancy (not that it is supposed to make a difference)

Post by **sundaymorningstaple** » Tue, 15 Mar 2011 2:27 pm

Hell, we take 'em back pregnant, fresh outta jail (as long as it's not theft related), old, makes no difference. We taken guys back three times, even after they just disappear. Our problems is we don't have enough help, never do. And with a 50% dependency ratio every time I lose a local I lose a foreigner. So, yeah, if the employee was any good we wouldn't mind taking 'em back. But, I'm not the boss and in a different employment situation, I personally wouldn't be so keen if you wanna know the truth.

enginette · Post by **enginette** » Wed, 16 Mar 2011 7:08 pm

We had a girl working for us who decided to quit then decided to come back because she didn't like her new job, and because we were mostly happy with her while she was working for us we were willing to hire her back. It at least saves us having to train up a new person.

You don't have anything to lose by asking, on the other hand, if you are in the early stages of pregnancy how will your new employer know you're pregnant? Perhaps YOU didn't know until after you started the job wink wink...

Employers know that by hiring a female there is a chance they're going to get knocked up so they shouldn't have anything to complain about.

Sophie Ng · Post by **Sophie Ng** » Thu, 17 Mar 2011 2:05 pm

Congrats !!!!

I am currently pregnant too so I know how you feel about the uncertainties. I suffered from bleeding in the first few weeks of the pregnancy and have to be on complete bed rest for a few weeks. But I also know of friends and ex-colleagues who suffered no complications at all. In fact, this lady who used to work under me took not a single day of MC throughout her entire pregnancy. She also discovered that she was pregnant only a few days into her new job and we were in sales. Amazingly, many colleagues all offered help to her and helped her pass her probation .... you will be amazed at how wonderful and helpful some people are, especially towards pregnant women.

So just take it easy and with regards to your resignation, I think it will be good to decide which company you prefer to work for and tell them the truth honestly? I guess you have already signed the LOA with the new company? I am not a HR person so I'm not sure how it works but the most important thing now is to take care of yourself ....

All the best in your pregnancy ....

econbizer2 · Post by **econbizer2** » Thu, 17 Mar 2011 5:29 pm

Usually I would say you should never take back your resignation once handed.

But in your circumstances, I would try to do so.. but note that even if your boss takes you back, this will be remembered. Promotion prospects will be poorer for sure. It's only human. So be sure to change jobs after 1 year.

mornglori · Post by **mornglori** » Thu, 17 Mar 2011 11:10 pm

From my past experience working with Mgmt, they would certainly take back great employees but will have a replacement plan set up because you've showed disloyalty and instability. Sorry but it's a risk in the eyes of companies. Did they try to negotiate with you when you resigned? That would be a good sign in your value.

Don't think, just ask for the job back if you need to. It's for the sake of your baby. It NEVER hurts to ask. Congrats on the pregnancy! I'd ask for the job back if I were in your shoes... but be prepared with plan B & C! Sometimes it's better to start fresh with another company.

Good luck!

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