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by tyianchang » Tue, 08 Mar 2011 7:22 pm
And here I am, musing about the after life and the great FP of those guys as they discussed the latest SMS for their parents as how FP Conquers space these days. The high numbers of readers in this thread might be a sign of youngsters reading up about FP and what'll they think about this lapse into bunfights and ego preening? A typical way , err, to relax; or a sign that the topic's mundane nature is a subject for the shelf??
A new thought flashed through. The structural framework for FP practice is all the way TOP DOWN ( like the way the Mods raise their big sticks) which is the same as Honour thy Father and thy mother. The minions must look up to the respectable experienced and take it all from them. Is that an ancient custom needing reforms?
The break away from that age encrusted structure have started with the cultural revolution in China; and who knows when elsewhere. Was the GCR a good thing, an inevitable course of events or a necessity to put the balance right?
Hmm, not intending to invite another spate of hot-headed acrimonies but in today's situation, esp in the UK, all children know their RIGHTS and some will throw that in the face of their parents and teachers ( from informed cases at parental consultations). Some become competely unteachable, but glad to say, that's only a handful. Still, it could be a sign of the things to come.
I met a few in SG too, ( sigh of relief ) children going against the grip their parents have on them and reacting by making big statements - cultivating deliberate disruptive nature, smoking, not studying, truanting, littering and showing off such anti-social acts.
In most families today, parents live for their children - ensuring the best for them, looking after every potential or whim a child might have and basically, tailoring their lives round the needs of their children like moving to a house near the best school or catchment area; selecting jobs that match with the demands of children's needs etc. Recently somebody thinks it's funny when he says, "My parents give me all the support and I give them all the trouble" as a quote for mother's day that's coming.
Have our expectations tipped the other way in the sense that children expect a lot from their parents while parents, being mostly self-sufficient and of independent means have freed all expectations from their children?
Is society too child-centred at the expense of parents' own needs? Can FP be practised in small families or does it need the support of extended families?
tyianchang