I could probably 'hack' your Facebook account. Be afraid.

[ev-disinfection]

To JayCee -- Spoken like a true Singaporean male -
Don't all Females and Males think that way? internationally?

Surprisingly not. To most people's minds, what he did crossed the line and wasn't just a matter of keeping his "options open".

The reason for my comment is that Singaporean men (in my experience) rank second only to the Japanese on the "dirty-old-man-ometer" and seem to thing manogamy is a type of wood that you make furniture out of

Well, Monogamy are for people who have found a partner already, he is still single (as in not married yet or have not found his monogamous partner yet)

Muslims are legally allowed under their religion to have up to 4 wives (terms and conditions apply)
In the Philippines, Divorce is illegal, thus they leave their spouse and have other relationships (Mutually / Not mutually consented separations)
The list goes on....

Every race and creed have their good and bad, and as humans, we have a choice, choice to stay together, choice to leave and of course a choice to decide before marriage (as in this case)

Have met my fair share of minges too... lol

[JR8]

To JR8 -- In the case..... hahahahahhaaaaa That is so funny..

To JayCee -- Spoken like a true Singaporean male -
Don't all Females and Males think that way? internationally?

To JR8 -- Yes I do... and if you try that honey trap on me, I too will drive from Singapore to London..... LOL (add me if you can)

You'd be easy to get. In literally less than two minutes I have your real name, mobile number, and GMail address, plus I've just sent you a Friend request on your personal Facebook id (ignore it please, I did it to prove a point lah).

[ev-disinfection]

Well, i am a friendly guy, i could have set it at a higher privacy level, but didn't, will normally screen through the requests "to be friends" list, and you would have noticed already that i do not hide my contact details... Added.

[JR8]

Hehehe... this kinda stuff sometimes scares me.

[nakatago]

I remember a Saturday Night Live skit:

Julian Assange: I give you private information from corporations for free; I'm a villain. Mark Zuckerberg giives your private information to corporations for money; he's Time magazine's man of the year.

And a bit from Stephen Colbert:

Sorry, Julian Assange; you haven't violated the privacy of enough people yet.

[JR8]

Quite.... lol.

[x9200]

Well, Monogamy are for people who have found a partner already, he is still single (as in not married yet or have not found his monogamous partner yet)

If you are serious about someone you do not need and don't want to have your options open. And you are serious not because you are legally bonded to her/him.

Muslims are legally allowed under their religion to have up to 4 wives (terms and conditions apply)
In the Philippines, Divorce is illegal, thus they leave their spouse and have other relationships (Mutually / Not mutually consented separations)
The list goes on....

Yes, but what this has to do with the case J8 described? Do you think they are Muslims? Did you find her acting like she approves this kind of behaviour what should be the case if this is so painfully cultural?

Every race and creed have their good and bad, and as humans, we have a choice, choice to stay together, choice to leave and of course a choice to decide before marriage (as in this case)

Yeah, we have a choice to find someone honest and faithful or a miserable bastard who would explore first opportunity to s*w us up behind our back. The problem is this choice is often not really clear right from the start

Have met my fair share of minges too... lol

[JayCee]

Well, Monogamy are for people who have found a partner already, he is still single (as in not married yet or have not found his monogamous partner yet)

So that makes what he was doing alright then? So you'd be prepared to marry a girl who messed around on you before you got married so long as she was faithful once the ring was on her finger?

In the Philippines, Divorce is illegal, thus they leave their spouse and have other relationships (Mutually / Not mutually consented separations)
The list goes on....

And? So just because it happens, that makes it ok for others to do it?

Every race and creed have their good and bad, and as humans, we have a choice, choice to stay together, choice to leave and of course a choice to decide before marriage (as in this case)

Absolutely, but when it comes to being faithful it's a characteristic that doesn't seem to be very common in the Asian male gene pool. Indeed, in a number of countries in the region having a mistress is not something to be ashamed of but rather reverred as it means you are somebody and have "made it"

[vbelle]

Well, Monogamy are for people who have found a partner already, he is still single (as in not married yet or have not found his monogamous partner yet)

Muslims are legally allowed under their religion to have up to 4 wives (terms and conditions apply)
In the Philippines, Divorce is illegal, thus they leave their spouse and have other relationships (Mutually / Not mutually consented separations)
The list goes on....

Every race and creed have their good and bad, and as humans, we have a choice, choice to stay together, choice to leave and of course a choice to decide before marriage (as in this case)

Have met my fair share of minges too... lol

Dear...i hope not many people think like this...
dont be in a relationship if you dont want monogamy

[ev-disinfection]

I agree that all should be faithful, if in a relationship.
and also that marriage will not stop anyone from being unfaithful.

I am just saying that he is not married yet?
and you must agree with me that many.... not only Japan / SG people are unfaithfully or have "fallen"... is he a "bad" guy, because of it or just being Human.

Some people leave / drop out of their religion too, and if they who have fallen wanted another chance to get back, would they be forgiven?

[JR8]

Some people leave / drop out of their religion too, and if they who have fallen wanted another chance to get back, would they be forgiven?

Reminds me of people dropping out of SG PR or Citizenship. 2nd chance? No way!

Maybe it's a cultural difference EV-D? If you're dating someone and you think your relationship is on a path that might be going somewhere, at least from a western perspective you assume you have an 'exclusive'. Put another way, if you haven't sufficient interest to be exclusive before rings, why even bother considering afterwards, the moral bar has already been lowered.

Meanwhile back on topic.... if you thought the FB privacy issues could not get worse! (I've taken my Friends list down to the absolute hard-core of 20, and it's going to be one in one out from here going forwards...)
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/ ... esses.html

[JR8]

Pretty clearly don't sign up to the likes of Farmville, Mafia Wars, 10 things your friends don't know about you, or any other Facebook application that then skims all you personal data. Any you are linked to already, delete off your profile.

Jeez I could set up some dumb-ass app like 'Shut TF up, do you think I care what you think?' just to go and scalp people's personal data, rather than with any intention of the app being popular and making a profit.

[x9200]

I agree that all should be faithful, if in a relationship.
and also that marriage will not stop anyone from being unfaithful.

I am just saying that he is not married yet?

Again, so what? You really think someone only should be faithful after exchanging the marriage vows and only for that reason?

and you must agree with me that many.... not only Japan / SG people are unfaithfully or have "fallen"... is he a "bad" guy, because of it or just being Human.

Some people leave / drop out of their religion too, and if they who have fallen wanted another chance to get back, would they be forgiven?

Do you see the difference between what you emphasized earlier and what you are saying now? You just acknowledged the wrong doing.
Forgiveness it is a tricky thing. I assumed the girl had some reasons to allow JR8 to play the game. If the guy was spotless she did very wrong. This would be clear violation of trust. So probably he already had his 2nd chance.

[dazzlebabe]

My ex bf was with me for a few years with no intention of settling down with me (or anyone for that matter). It wasn't that I was not the right girl for him but he always wanted the thrill of the next catch.

20 years on and he's still not married and with his 3452157683 gf i think.

Call me young, call me gullible. Call me stupid. There are idiots out there!

[ev-disinfection]

I agree that all should be faithful, if in a relationship.
and also that marriage will not stop anyone from being unfaithful.

I am just saying that he is not married yet?

Again, so what? You really think someone only should be faithful after exchanging the marriage vows and only for that reason?

and you must agree with me that many.... not only Japan / SG people are unfaithfully or have "fallen"... is he a "bad" guy, because of it or just being Human.

Some people leave / drop out of their religion too, and if they who have fallen wanted another chance to get back, would they be forgiven?

Do you see the difference between what you emphasized earlier and what you are saying now? You just acknowledged the wrong doing.
Forgiveness it is a tricky thing. I assumed the girl had some reasons to allow JR8 to play the game. If the guy was spotless she did very wrong. This would be clear violation of trust. So probably he already had his 2nd chance.

My reply is quite general, as in he might be right or wrong...
Wonder how many of our spouses / relationship partners, weather guys or gals will pass the honey trap test? And if we would forgive them if they "fail" it...

I had earlier mentioned about the Muslims and Philippine people, was in regards to JayCee, who mentioned that Japanese and Singaporeans are no 1 and no 2 in the "dirty-old-man-ometer" ratings,
well the 2 types of people must be up there in the ratings too, if they have those laws or have applied them...
Of course, JayCee could have met a few of Japs and Sg guys only or was unfortunate to have met the bad ones...