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30 soon and never be in love

Postby EatPrayLove » Tue, 11 Jan 2011 11:28 pm

Will turn 30 in a few months. Kinda feel lonely and sad.

Have dated nice guys,smart guys, handsome guys, rich guys, but never be in love with any guy. Is it unusual? is there any problem with me ?

One year ago, I never hesitate in turning down someone I was not interested or move on from one date to another when things didn`t work out.

Now my confidence complete goes away while thinking about turning 30 and single .

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Postby nakatago » Tue, 11 Jan 2011 11:52 pm

Kinda feel like this?

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Lotsa singles in their 30's 'round these parts...

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Postby jetaway » Wed, 12 Jan 2011 12:06 am

I'm turning 30 in a few months too and I imagine your feelings about love are made all the more worse because of the significance we seem to place on this milestone birthday (though as a guy it is slightly different). For me, having just moved here, my goal is to make friends so I don't spend my 30th birthday by myself, let alone "in love".

I very much doubt anything is wrong with you. In fact, I would continue to be as selective in guys as you always have been. Don't settle.

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Postby wild_orchidia » Wed, 12 Jan 2011 10:13 am

hayee there! i will be turning 31 a couple of months from now too. But hey! don't feel bad about it..

remember, happiness NEVER depend on people, it will start within yourself. who said that if you get married you will be happy? then again, happiness doesn't hold any status..it is on the way you think and act upon issues of life.


soo, enjoy life to the fullest! be happy always!
cheers! ^_^
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Postby milieu » Wed, 12 Jan 2011 11:01 pm

Cheer up girl!

Age is just a number and there's much more to life than love. :)

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Postby EatPrayLove » Thu, 13 Jan 2011 12:42 am

What would be the crazy but not damaging things a girl can do to celebrate the 30th. :???:

Any suggestions ?

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Postby welshlass » Thu, 13 Jan 2011 1:22 am

"If you are looking for the love of your life - Stop; they will be waiting for you when you start doing the things you love "

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Postby jetaway » Thu, 13 Jan 2011 1:31 pm

It's your birthday, so of course do what makes you happy. My suggestion would be to get some friends together and head out to a beach town in Thailand or Vietnam (or wherever) and relax during the day and then live it up each night, especially on the day of your birthday. Treat yourself to a great dinner, fun club, etc.

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Postby wild_orchidia » Fri, 14 Jan 2011 8:32 am

EatPrayLove wrote:What would be the crazy but not damaging things a girl can do to celebrate the 30th. :???:

Any suggestions ?



last year on my 30th birthday, i travelled alone..i went to Phuket..i am quite adventurous in sports so i tried water rafting..and it was fun! i had soo much fun even i am celebrating my birthday alone..i was alone in a place full of strangers, had friends with the locals and fellow travellers. i enjoyed the food in phuket, i love the sceneries!

there are alot of things you still can enjoy even alone..it is only up tp you on how you can make it happen.

cheers! ^_^
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Postby scarbowl » Fri, 14 Jan 2011 4:27 pm

I married at 34 and we had our first child just over a year later. And then another. You've some time yet. Don't fret at 30 years. Maybe at 40! :)

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Postby nakatago » Fri, 14 Jan 2011 4:34 pm

I just spent my 30th birthday while a blizzard was going on...

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Postby EatPrayLove » Sat, 15 Jan 2011 10:04 pm

Going to a new place alone sounds a good idea. I indeed don`t want to spend my 30th birthday as usual and have a party with friends.

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Postby VictoriaKhim » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 10:43 pm

Hey Girl, Chin Up ... I am sure there will be a great guy waiting for you out there .... Well, at least you are turning 30 I am already in my mids and still having HOPES :)
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Postby shutterprincess » Tue, 18 Jan 2011 12:03 am

I am going to be 30 end of this year too and I totally understand how you feel. It scares the sh*t out of me and I don't know if there really is someone out there for me.

My family and friends has been giving me so much pep talk as they see me slowly fall into this depression but you can only help yourself if you see things in a different light. A positive one. I am still trying, have faith even though it's hard to find. Just know you're not the only one. You're not alone. :)
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Been there done that

Postby Kitten Heel » Wed, 19 Jan 2011 12:13 am

Hmm... Sounds familiar. I've been there around 3 years ago. I was so nervous/anxious/worried about spending my 30th birthday being single that I dated a good-for-nothing guy. I was 29 at that time. Needless to say, the break up was painful as h*ll.

The funny thing is, once you 'missed' the deadline, you start to approach dating with a clearer mind. And you also start to realise that there is more to life than being in a relationship. When it's your time, there is just no way you can avoid it. Meanwhile, try to enjoy life as a single girl.


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