Girls Bars at Tanjong Pagar

[Strong Eagle]

I'm itching to find out what she discovered evidence of

If you found out that hubby/bf went for a few after work drinks with friends to one of these places I wouldn't worry too much, most are quite tame and just want them to buy a few drinks nothing more

If he went to Geylang on the other hand...

It's the four floors you have to watch out for... although Naughty Girl is mostly an eye candy place.

I've always seen OT as more of a tourist attraction to be honest, on the rare occasions I've been there it's just been with a bunch of guys on a drinking session who want a bit of eye candy, nothing ever happens although I accept that for some guys it's not so easy for them to resist.

I tell the gf if I'm going there too, she couldn't care less as she trusts me, maybe brisa should work on her trust issues

Hoo Wee, JC... thine eyes must be closed... or you've never been into Ipanema. Yes, the girls leave you alone if you show you are not interested... otherwise, 'tis a shoppers paradise. And let's not forget Harry's right across the street.

And I agree about the trust issues.

[Strong Eagle]

Why does this thread remind me of Dr. Frasier Crane (Kelsey Grammer) and one of his lines:

How can men use sex to get what they want? Sex IS what they want!

[Wind In My Hair]

He sold to me cheaply a pretty decent laptop hiding that it spontaneously restarts every 30 min or so. It was pretty easy to fix it so I guess afterall it involved some kind of sexual activities.

X, you just gave me the most hilarious images of what you did to fix your laptop

Mine and most other mens idea of a good night out is taking the piss out of each other whilst having some nice looking girls serving you(supplying drinks that is).

That's it, Longstebe. Here I am thinking all along you're a woman because of your avatar. Then JR8 calls you a man. Now you call yourself a man. Tsk tsk, masquerading as a woman... I almost trusted you with my most intimate secrets!

[longstebe]

WIMH, I hate correcting people but that is Neil from the young ones in my avatar. Google or you tube"the young ones".

Quick, quick, you have time to change your post before anyone sees.

[ex-pat]

Thank you all for your male perspective. That's exactly what I was looking for. I just really wanted to know what made him go there in the first place...some locals have told me that the girls greet the customers with a kiss and immediately start some kind of intimate contact (hands on the legs, hands on everyone). It really feels like betrayal.
Anyway, once again thank you.

Oh well maybe learn giving him kisses as well and try to flirt to your husband as often as you can rather than whining about his infidelity.
Jealousy destroys relationship i tell you.
Ask yourself if you did your part as a wife, nagging and suspicion drives your hubby away so you better close one eye and start looking yourself in the mirror and think of ways to win back your husbands lust for you.

Just my half pence worth of advice....

[JayCee]

It's the four floors you have to watch out for... although Naughty Girl is mostly an eye candy place.

I've always seen OT as more of a tourist attraction to be honest, on the rare occasions I've been there it's just been with a bunch of guys on a drinking session who want a bit of eye candy, nothing ever happens although I accept that for some guys it's not so easy for them to resist.

I tell the gf if I'm going there too, she couldn't care less as she trusts me, maybe brisa should work on her trust issues

Hoo Wee, JC... thine eyes must be closed... or you've never been into Ipanema. Yes, the girls leave you alone if you show you are not interested... otherwise, 'tis a shoppers paradise. And let's not forget Harry's right across the street.

And I agree about the trust issues.

Yeah sorry, I should have said "nothing happens involving any of the guys I am with", I definitely notice a lot of the other enjoying the delights on offer though

I like the view on the balcony at dirty harrys bar, you can see all the guys with their temporary girlfriends queuing up for taxis, some look really embarrassed and some look like the cat that got the cream

[gravida]

OP, are you real? Or is it a windup?

You describing yourself as

an intelligent and good looking woman

and at the same time make ado about such thing.

Moreover, you are overreacting

(hands on the legs, hands on everyone). It really feels like betrayal.

Another thing that "hits me" is

he is sorry and have said so, but I am still considering divorce.

What he is sorry for? Did he admit doing something wrong?
I can understand he may be sorry for making you feel sad... but just going to such bar does not make a reason for a divorce.
PPs here are totally right - there is no trust between two of you and your husband indeed needs some space and air to breathe.

The rule of the thumb IMHO is - "if someone really wants to betray somebody, he/she will do it anywhere". Moreover, IF your husband will be really looking for sex (or whatever else you think he was doing in that bar), you would most likely not find the evidence so easily, as he would be extra careful...



I'm female, by the way. One that used to be in a relationship with a distance of 11 thousand kilometres and her then-boyfriend was visiting Orchard Towers and other pubs. OMG! Just because one can go there and not have/look for sexual intercourse, betrayal, hands everywhere etc.

[Wind In My Hair]

WIMH, I hate correcting people but that is Neil from the young ones in my avatar. Google or you tube"the young ones".

Quick, quick, you have time to change your post before anyone sees.

Just googled and ahem... realised what age group you are in. The Young Ones was popular when I'd barely learnt how to turn on the TV

Now you'd better tell me what Longstebe means because I'm clueless about that as well. And yes I tried googling already...

Sigh, why can't everyone be transparent like me and put their real face as their avatar?

[Strong Eagle]

Sigh, why can't everyone be transparent like me and put their real face as their avatar?

I agree... I'm Strong Eagle... and have posted my real avatar.

[nakatago]

Sigh, why can't everyone be transparent like me and put their real face as their avatar?

...well, that'll defeat being "more than meets the eye" and being "in disguise" wouldn't it?

...which raises the question, does OP's husband do that (in hiding) in Tanjong Pagar or was it a one-off thing? DUN-DUN-DUN...

[longstebe]

Just googled and ahem... realised what age group you are in.

Now you'd better tell me what Longstebe means because I'm clueless about that as well.

I hadn't even hit double figures when that was aired you cheeky little monkey.

As for the Longstebe thing, well thats not fit for this site.

[brisa]

Hi everyone, thanks for your replies. It is very interesting to hear your perspective and I am not here trying to say bad things about my "poor husband". I am just in shock and trying to find ways to cope...you are helping with your funny and sometimes totally 'off the mark' remarks.
I am not a jealous wife and the reason why I am upset is because my husband felt the need to lie when I simply asked 'where did you go last night?' He answered with a fairy tale story about pub with friends and I didn't think much of it. Now, days later, the truth surfaced ...and he kept denying until there was no other option...anyway, if is 'just the way guys have a good time' and 'they just want to talk rubbish with mates and watch pretty girls' why he felt the need to lie? Anyway, thanks again.

[Strong Eagle]

...why he felt the need to lie?

Because he knew what the reaction would be??

[Calmday]

Hi nakatago, thanks for your comment.
Yes, I have done it. He admits and 'normalizes' it buy saying it is a 'guy thing'...he is sorry and have said so, but I am still considering divorce.

Divorce??? Over a couple of drinks in a dodgy bar??? With that attitude I think he'll be well rid of you!

Exactly what I was thinking.

Me too

[brisa]

dear strong eagle...I kinda like your sense of humor but the answer for that question is 'because he did something wrong’.

I know you all are trying to ‘normalize’ the fact that guys ‘just go to these places to have a laugh’ but to be honest…I think it is something deeper than that. There is something missing in the guy's life and that's why he is looking for the wrong fulfillment….

can't you just throw me a bone here?