Wind In My Hair wrote:
JayCee wrote:As for doing it more blatantly, that must be a joke as you see old uncles and various seedy looking local guys hanging around outside Karaoke bars smoking cigarettes with 'hostesses' all over this island, I wouldn't call that discrete.
I realise that YOU weren't saying all expat men are like that and it's just a perception that other locals may have, but it does back up the view that locals are xenophobic if this is the general view based on a minority of white boys that might shag around a bit.
Sigh, classic case of taking things out of context. I wasn't talking about karaoke bars or hostesses. Do read the relevant posts before you comment. I get tired of repeating myself! I've highlighted the important part for you, out of the kindness of my heart
Wind In My Hair wrote:
By local women I don't mean prostitutes or SPGs
longstebe wrote:WIMH, just out of interest, can you elaborate on your comment about the foreigners using local women for sex.
who are willing parties to one night stands, but the girl next door who is innocent enough to have her heart broken when she finds out that her 'boyfriend' is equally charming to many other women and sleeping with them all. I just don't like seeing this happen, that's all.
I think you missed my point. I was alluding to the fact that many, many Singaporean men who are dating or married to "the girl next door" will still mess around with other women including those who work as hostesses/hookers aswell as the more 'normal' women too. So ultimately it's the 'girl next door' who gets her heart broken by the cheating local guy, certainly the one he's supposed to be attached too gets hurt and possibly the one he's doing the cheating with too if she's doesn't know he's attached (as long as she's a 'normal' girl of course, a hooker or hostess obviously won't care)
How this makes the local guy any better than the westerner who is doing the same thing I don't know, but I'd take a wild guess that the percentage of westerners doing it is a lot less than the locals (don't ask me to start gathering figures for you about that as I just said it's only a guess based on what I see). Hence why I think it's a xenophobic attitude for many women to have if that's what they think about western men yet don't have the same viewpoint of their own guys.
Also, of the many foreign women (not western) that I know here, most say they wouldn't date a Singaporean because they don't treat women very well and most would be open to a relationship with a western man as they believe they would be more trustworthy and treat them better, so I guess at least someone likes us here