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How many attempts to get pregnant?

Postby tenden » Tue, 07 Dec 2010 6:20 pm

Hi,

I have been trying to get my wife pregnant for the last 2 months. This is the second month that it has been unsuccessful. We are slightly depressed. :(

Can you guys please let me know how many time have you tried before getting pregnant? After how many attempts should we actually see the doctor to find if there is something wrong with us ?

Thanks in advance.

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Postby merichan » Tue, 07 Dec 2010 6:48 pm

average norm is 6 to 18 months

be patient...

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Postby QRM » Sun, 09 Jan 2011 8:59 am

Its sods law, when you dont want a sprog, you just have walk past your girlfrend and shes pregnant. When you do want a kid it takes more effort. I would say at least a few months.

Depends on your age lifestyle etc. If you smoke alot of dope and ride to work on a hard saddled bike, it will be harder.

Now that alot of my chums are "middle age" and have left having kids till now, I would say about 8/10 of them are finding it tough going trying to get pregnant.

No harm in going for a check up, you may as well find out if all is working in the plumbing department. Also doc will give you a good insight into all the folic acid supplements etc.

It takes the romantic spontaneity of the moment away but there a special kits in the pharmacy that test when the womens window of opportunity is open.

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Postby ksl » Sun, 09 Jan 2011 6:09 pm

QRM is right! It's tough going, my brother took 5 years and i myself when i first married.

In some way i do believe if the woman is desperate for a child it has a negative effect, my girlfriend was always on about having a child and i believed at the time it was just a desperate bid, to secure out bonding, which too me at the time was kind of scary as i wasn't ready...

I sincerely believe the women's mental state plays a big role, the emotional stress of wanting a child effects the chemicals of the body and more effort is needed.

I remarried at 50 and my second wife was mid 30's, not much time left for having children, however i made sure by having sex several times a day before and after ovulation and it worked, though you must remember that the woman should not stand up after sexual intercourse.

You need to help the little sperm on there way upstream, so she needs to raise her hips high for the sperm to run in the right direction after every sexual contact....common sense will tell you that if she stands up after a minute or two after intercourse, the sperm will run in the opposite direction and make it more difficult for the sperm to run upstream, it worked for us in the first month, though after 30 or 40 attempts you will be psychically drained :lol: but what a way to get tired!

Give it a go, no harm done at all, just ensure that the bottom half of her body is elevated so the sperm runs deep and stays there to get attached to the membrane, so they can wiggle forward.

My advice also helped others in getting pregnant too so i am pretty confident about the theory, when women are so desperate many stress hormones are at work which may kill the sperm she needs to relax, let her listen to some meditation music while relaxing after the event in the elevated position, hips raised and legs raised at least 45 degrees for 30 minutes and enjoy 8-) There must be something wrong in Singapore for the fertility rate to be so low could be the water :-|


Timing the ovulation is very important, and in that period a few days before and after you really need to be like rabbits and that's pretty active, as many times a day as possible until you start to get a pain in your goolies! :P
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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Sun, 09 Jan 2011 7:38 pm

ksl wrote:There must be something wrong in Singapore for the fertility rate to be so low could be the water :-|


Had quite the opposite effect on us! Nothing wrong with the water I can assure you!

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Postby QRM » Sun, 09 Jan 2011 8:13 pm

ksl wrote:
I sincerely believe the women's mental state plays a big role, the emotional stress of wanting a child effects the chemicals of the body and more effort is needed.


Not just women men as well, took me a while to get my head around wanting to "impregnate" (sound so clinical) my wife, I spent my whole life physically and mentally avoiding getting the GF pregnant, (worked most of the time :cry:) Then you have to go against your whole life long conditioning.


ksl wrote: You need to help the little sperm of their way upstream, so she needs to raise her hips high for the sperm to run in the right direction after every sexual contact..


LOL a chums wife was told after the bonk to lift her butt up in the air and balance on her back and elbows, then do ten minutes of upside down peddling with her legs. Must have been a hilarious sight.

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Postby ksl » Mon, 10 Jan 2011 12:04 am

QRM :Not just women men as well, took me a while to get my head around wanting to "impregnate" (sound so clinical) my wife, I spent my whole life physically and mentally avoiding getting the GF pregnant, (worked most of the time ) Then you have to go against your whole life long conditioning.


Yes you are right, I was against having kids early too, so maybe it's being on the same wavelength at the right time too, my girlfriend had two phantom pregnancies, I didn't want kids at the time...

Yes it is quite amusing to watch riding a bike, and also standing on their head, shows how desperate they are, but it works. :wink:

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Postby stephaniematchett » Sun, 16 Jan 2011 10:50 pm

Hi guys.
Looks like I am joining a male conversation about female stuff :). Well, I am a woman, and I am osteopath (if you do not know what an osteopath is, then maybe we can start another topic :).
The initial topic is should I get worried after 2 months of trying to conceive?
Nop. 2 months is nothing! In any given month, if both of you are healthy (and it means, if your wife has done all preliminary tests such as hormones levels and ultrasound check, and you, sperm count, and all is normal) and under 35 years old, then the chances to fall pregnant is about 25%. Surprising? Yes indeed. I did my thesis on infertility. To start going to the specialist, you should give yourself 2 years of actively trying. Before 2 years it is considered "normal" if you guys are under 35. After 35, the fertility rate starts dropping dramatically for the woman.

If you are in a rush :) to get pregnant, then I would advise to do a basal temperature chart to target the best time to do "It". I can explain how to. It's very easy but boring.
If not, the best advice is: keep at it :).

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Postby ecureilx » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 12:59 am

stephaniematchett wrote:If you are in a rush :) to get pregnant, then I would advise to do a basal temperature chart to target the best time to do "It". I can explain how to. It's very easy but boring.
If not, the best advice is: keep at it :).


Me too am in a quandary - when I was going out with other girls, I prayed they don't get pregnant and when I want to - it is not working :((


Well, I am 39, my partner is 35 and a doc (ObGyn) to boot, and she just tells me the timing is not right - now I am being force fed Vitamin B complex and Vitamin E, and she came with this magic number that is is 27% - get this right - not a random number but 27 %

She knows that I been smoking very little, but continuously since the age of 24 - about 2 or 3 sticks a day max, and I told her i used to work in Telecom Line and was exposed more than once to high radiation (about 1 mega watt of Radiation- by somebody not monitoring the power wave) .. but she is adamant a sperm count is not needed ..

I am curious to know more about it .. though I am not doubting a doctor's view - but, many a doctor relatives have said that they fail when it comes to self-medicating and they have this theory that 'it only happens to others' and I am tempted to believe that :(

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Postby carlsum1986 » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 9:34 am

ecureilx wrote:
Me too am in a quandary - when I was going out with other girls, I prayed they don't get pregnant and when I want to - it is not working :((




:D

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Postby stephaniematchett » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 10:17 am

Hi,

if your partner is gyne/obst, then she knows?? In absolute reality she is right when she says low sperm count should not be a deterrent as you need 1 egg and 1 sperm. But if you have low count, it means less chances that's all. 25% is not that big and that's if you guys are "normal". The actual window for ovulation is between 12-24hrs so bad luck if you miss it.
I don't really understand why she does not want you to have a sperm count. My husband did...and I did my tests too. Vitamins are going to boost the quality not necessarily the count. Menavit is a multi-vitamin complex who has been proven to give some results. This has been researched. I don't know if they sell it here. Anyway if your count and quality are very poor then it's unlikely to have any effect. Did your partner get herself checked? Because if she did not the problem (if any) may come from her as well. To start with you should have a sperm count to establish facts. You go to a doctor and they ll give you a referral.

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Postby ecureilx » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 4:46 pm

stephaniematchett wrote:if your partner is gyne/obst, then she knows?? In absolute reality she is right when she says low sperm count should not be a deterrent as you need 1 egg and 1 sperm. But if you have low count, it means less chances that's all. 25% is not that big and that's if you guys are "normal".


She came with this number of 27% :D :D Hence my renewed interest .. haha .. And anyway, as I said, doctors dont' believe advice applies to them .. it is only for other patients - or so they thin :D

And another thing - Never argue with a woman .. :???: :???:

To start with you should have a sperm count to establish facts. You go to a doctor and they ll give you a referral.


I wonder if I can use Medisave for that :D Beyond jokes, yah, I am contemplating it .. though whetever is the outcome - it is not gonna change anything in our life - it is just that she is starting to yearn for a child, having been so focussed in her profession ..

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Postby stephaniematchett » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 5:26 pm

27%...As an obs/gyne, she needs to be in touch with the latest research. And she must read quite a few medical journals, hence she must be right. I said about 25%, so, it's coherent.
I do not know about Medisave. I am new to Singapore. You need to go to see a doctor, and with a referral they send you to a lab, to do your business :). I do not know how much it would cost. I am sure your partner would know :).

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Postby ecureilx » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 5:41 pm

stephaniematchett wrote:I do not know about Medisave. I am new to Singapore. You need to go to see a doctor, and with a referral they send you to a lab, to do your business :). I do not know how much it would cost. I am sure your partner would know :).


That medisave thing is a silly joke :D If nobody screams thread drift I may be tempted to pen it here .. comments ??? :D

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Postby tenden » Sun, 20 Feb 2011 6:00 pm

Thanks everybody for your encouragement.

My wife has concieved and is in her 6th week :)
As QRM rightly said, it was exactly a case of "It happens only when you least expect it". We tried very hard for 3 months and it was unsuccessful.

Finally in the month of Jan, I was suffering from cold during the first 2 weeks and then my wife was sick next 2 weeks and hence we stopped trying in Jan. But we did get intimate just once on the 18th day without pregnancy in our minds. And my wife missed her period subsequently :o

She noticed a faint line on the test strip. We still didnt believe it. But after 6 day of no periods our hopes kept getting higher and higher and finally on the 45th day we got it confirmed from the gynae with a scan. Are we delighted :)

So to people out there try on the 18th day. It was lucky for us. May be lucky for you as well! :)


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