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Postby JR8 » Fri, 14 Jan 2011 6:21 pm

ecureilx wrote:
sundaymorningstaple wrote:Unfortunately, I didn't have a smilie for :being facetious: :(


Maybe my comments went overboard, but I always have a tough time balancing those who are desperate to get to Singapore, and then complain that Singapore is a country of slave-traders :D :D

Why Singapore ?? Why not Malaysia, Thailand, Indonesia, Vietnam, Cambodia .. :D :D

PS: Exxxtraaaa smileys added to emphasise that it is an off-the-cuff comment :D


Because Singapore is a first world country, equivalent to the Switzerland of Asia. It is head and shoulders above the other 3rd world countries that you list.

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Re: Maid wants to go to Malaysia on her day off

Postby ex-pat » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 3:49 pm

tongamei wrote:My maid's husband works in Malaysia. She is asking me to give her her passport so that she can go to Malaysia to meet with her husband on Sundays. (Her husband already comes to Singapore every month to see her).

My husband is concerned that the maid will run away with her passport. Can anyone out there give me some advice please?


@tongamei tell your husband to read this...hope he doesnt turn red in vain...
http://maidsdiary.blogspot.com/2011/01/ ... -asia.html

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Postby ex-pat » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 4:26 pm

ecureilx wrote:
As for passport, what is the exact reason a maid needs to keep her passport with herself ??




Common sense
Its their PERSONAL property and not YOURS.

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Re: Maid wants to go to Malaysia on her day off

Postby ecureilx » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 4:35 pm

ex-pat wrote:@tongamei tell your husband to read this...hope he doesnt turn red in vain...
http://maidsdiary.blogspot.com/2011/01/ ... -asia.html


I also know maids who earn salaries in 1,000 $ and above, and are allowed to travel when the employer is out of town, and they have been with the employer for 20 years or more .. and are almost a part of their family. And when one of the maids in Iloilo lost her house in the storms, the employer paid her 10,000 $ to put up a new house .. and the employer are just government servants here ..

One of the maids even flew to Australia, when the employer was on vacation, and when I casually asked her whether the employer approved her flying away - she showed me the text from her employer, telling her that she can be away as long as one of her friends water the plants ... :D :D

That is called "TRUST"

As for your next post about 'Its their PERSONAL property and not YOURS' Yah, I gotta agree on that, to some extent .. so - does your maid go to Malaysia every weekend ?? :D :D

Hat, coat, umbrella - me is gonna leg it out . :D

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Postby nakatago » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 5:02 pm

ecureilx wrote:One of the maids even flew to Australia, when the employer was on vacation, and when I casually asked her whether the employer approved her flying away - she showed me the text from her employer, telling her that she can be away as long as one of her friends water the plants ... :D :D


aye, most probably the exception...

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Postby JR8 » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 5:11 pm

ecureilx wrote:That is called "TRUST"


And therein lies the culture clash and problem, since for a great many SGns life is a constant battle to get one over on someone else. Trust probably doesn't often get a look-in.

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Re: Maid wants to go to Malaysia on her day off

Postby ecureilx » Mon, 17 Jan 2011 5:14 pm

JR8 wrote:
ecureilx wrote:That is called "TRUST"


And therein lies the culture clash and problem, since for a great many SGns life is a constant battle to get one over on someone else. Trust probably doesn't often get a look-in.


Sort of brings back to my mind the words of a great person - life is acceptable, until you reach the destination, and then you realise there is nothing 'enough' in life :D

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Postby IamMike » Thu, 27 Jan 2011 5:35 pm

Hi ex-pat,

Sorry this is abit off topic, but I'd like to know if you know of any shop with good collection of Thai movies for rent? If yes, please drop me a note or email me at vhsiangtan@gmail.com.

I posted in another topic of yours but I thought I'd try my luck here.


Cheers,
Mike

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Postby Mary Hatch Bailey » Thu, 27 Jan 2011 5:54 pm

ecureilx wrote:Oh, I forgot: while the maid is with her BF, I presume she is reading the bible ?? If not, I also know few cases of employers who have been caught up in serious mess, when she is caught pregnant


The only way a bible is going to help prevent a maid from getting pregnant is if she holds it between her knees... :roll:

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Postby ecureilx » Mon, 31 Jan 2011 2:45 pm

IamMike wrote:Hi ex-pat,

Sorry this is abit off topic, but I'd like to know if you know of any shop with good collection of Thai movies for rent? If yes, please drop me a note or email me at vhsiangtan@gmail.com.

I posted in another topic of yours but I thought I'd try my luck here.


Cheers,
Mike


Golden Mile complex ?? :???: :???:

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Postby ex-pat » Mon, 31 Jan 2011 4:06 pm

IamMike wrote:Hi ex-pat,

Sorry this is abit off topic, but I'd like to know if you know of any shop with good collection of Thai movies for rent? If yes, please drop me a note or email me at vhsiangtan@gmail.com.

I posted in another topic of yours but I thought I'd try my luck here.


Cheers,
Mike


As if im a THAI.. :???: :???: :???:
Sorry Mike you are knocking on a wrong door........

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Postby ecureilx » Mon, 31 Jan 2011 4:38 pm

ex-pat wrote:As if im a THAI.. :???: :???: :???:
Sorry Mike you are knocking on a wrong door........


Que Pasa ?? I thought I was answering to "IamMike" - though his post started as ex-pat .. (or expat ?? ) :roll: :roll:

Cool

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Mon, 31 Jan 2011 5:03 pm

Proper BB tags have been re-inserted into the text of the previous message.

This often happens when posters don't use the 'Preview' button before hitting the 'Submit' button. :-|

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Postby longhorn0915 » Thu, 16 Jun 2011 10:44 pm

You are also held responsible if she does a runner, gets pregnant, and most anything else


I have seen this stated many times. What if your maid does leave or get pregnant? What does the responsibility entail for the employer?

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Postby QRM » Fri, 17 Jun 2011 9:08 am

longhorn0915 wrote:
You are also held responsible if she does a runner, gets pregnant, and most anything else


I have seen this stated many times. What if your maid does leave or get pregnant? What does the responsibility entail for the employer?



The employer gets a 5000 dollar fine and I believe it does say possible jail sentence, I assume the jail bit kinda applies if you the employer is guilty party? We got fined with our first helper she became pregnant with her ex-employers husband!


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