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Maid to look after my son

Postby iberis » Thu, 16 Sep 2010 8:23 pm

Hi,

I am looking for a maid who can come in within half to 1 month, to look after my 4 yo son and do some simple housework. Only mother and son in the small family and easy to managed. Not demanding and easy going family who believe in good relationship with the maid as a family. I need her to speak good English to guide my son in his studies.

I regret ithat I can only give her 1 week off as I need to work over the weekend.

No agents please. I do my own transfer process.

Here is photo of my son.

Thank you.

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Postby Strong Eagle » Thu, 16 Sep 2010 8:35 pm

You want her to work seven days a week?

And one week off over the whole year?

You don't want a maid, you want a slave.

Why don't you take a course in compassion for individuals less fortunate than yourself, and then get back to us?

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Thu, 16 Sep 2010 10:40 pm

Frankly, this shouldn't be in the forum at all. It should have been posted in the Classifieds section of the site as it is a Position Available Advertisement. This isn't a Domestic Helper Issue but a family looking to hire a slave/maid. An issue is a problem with you existing slave/maid.
I think we need to tighten this thread up a bit.

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Postby therat » Thu, 16 Sep 2010 11:38 pm

person who can
1. do housework
2. speak good English
3. guide her son on studying


she is looking for cheap and good labour.

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Postby iberis » Fri, 24 Sep 2010 12:59 am

Sorry all. Had a typo on off day, should be 1 sunday off per month. Thanks for spotting my mistake.

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Postby iberis » Fri, 24 Sep 2010 1:16 am

Hi therat,

Is finding a helper who can do housework and speak good english to guide son in studies consider good and cheap labour?

My helpers have so far enjoyed doing housework at the same time teaching my son ABC when I am out at work.

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Postby sundaymorningstaple » Fri, 24 Sep 2010 7:03 am

It should NEVER be in a domestic's job scope to help your children with their homework. This should ALWAYS be handled by the Parents. Otherwise, the parents will forever be blaming the maid for the kids poor marks in school. Additionally, you are hiring a domestic, not an educator. Big Difference. Paying somebody $150 to $400 a month to do all your household chores PLUS educate your children? :shock:

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Postby gravida » Fri, 24 Sep 2010 9:02 am

Leaving beside the salary, my biggest problem with such an arrangement would be trust. How can somebody trust a maid to take care of education of children? With all due respect, but most of the domestic helpers are exactly just helpers. They may know (usually in my opinion they do not, but that's the other story) THEIR part of the job (i.e., cleaning, cooking, picking up children from school etc.), but they are not teachers, tutors etc.

I can imagine it is hard to manage everything when you have to go to work and you are a single parent, but then again your son really needs you around, at least a bit.

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Postby therat » Fri, 24 Sep 2010 1:42 pm

Hi iberis,

My helpers have so far enjoyed doing housework at the same time teaching my son ABC when I am out at work.


Did your helper telling you she is enjoying?
If your helper is enjoying, why you need still need to look for helper?

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Postby missis » Sat, 25 Sep 2010 11:18 am

Agree with another poster - why on earth should you expect your "maid" to help with your child's homework? You should be advertising for a nanny or childminder, a very different thing.
"Is finding a helper who can do housework and speak good english to guide son in studies consider good and cheap labour?"
Yes

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Postby nakatago » Sat, 25 Sep 2010 12:13 pm

missis wrote:Agree with another poster - why on earth should you expect your "maid" to help with your child's homework? You should be advertising for a nanny or childminder, a very different thing.
"Is finding a helper who can do housework and speak good english to guide son in studies consider good and cheap labour?"
Yes


OP is looking for Mary Poppins. :shock:

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Already found my maid

Postby iberis » Sun, 07 Nov 2010 4:32 pm

I dont understand why an innocent post to look for maid generate so much negative response. I find it subject and arrangement between employer and maid.

Previous post why I am still looking for maid, because she wants to go back to Indonesia to marry and have kids.

Anyway I have already found a new maid few weeks ago and wiish to close this thread, if possible can moderator delete it.

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Re: Already found my maid

Postby Strong Eagle » Sun, 07 Nov 2010 5:11 pm

iberis wrote:I dont understand why an innocent post to look for maid generate so much negative response. I find it subject and arrangement between employer and maid.

Previous post why I am still looking for maid, because she wants to go back to Indonesia to marry and have kids.

Anyway I have already found a new maid few weeks ago and wiish to close this thread, if possible can moderator delete it.


Threads are not deleted on this board.

And yes, while the arrangement is between employer and maid, it is attitudes such as yours that cause many to call for mandatory minimums for days off for maids. Unfortunately, your view of 'reasonable' maid treatment is common among far too many Singaporeans.
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