It's not negativity, it's just a healthy dose of realism. It's sounds negative to you, but once you get here, you will find that all is driven by money here. From births to weddings to funerals and all dealings in between. In fact, when I first came here and to a great extent today, a marriage proposal goes something like "Let's apply for an HDB flat together" Often a marriage is postponed until they have secured financing for the Flat. After a while, you learn to automatically inflate your earnings just enough to impress OR deflate you earnings in order to envoke pity and maybe a discount.nwpz wrote:there is some negativity about the locals, is SG even worth the move?
I find this very intriguing... nobody asked how much I earn.. so either I have the really poor face or the really rich face. Those that asked vaguely were my close friends only.green_field wrote:u serious? I hope not... LOL....x9200 wrote:
This is a standard question. Better get use to it.
I guess the "class thing" is everywhere, not only in Singapore. But don't you find it is rude to ask people how much they are earning, esp after people already politely reject to answer. The worst is that it comes from the guys who tried to date me. LOL. They are not low-educated. I assume uni grad is not classified as low education. I think it is not the education issue here. Maybe cultural or EQ issue? haha. Or the male here not very sensitive.hey_smile wrote:
I find this very intriguing... nobody asked how much I earn.. so either I have the really poor face or the really rich face. Those that asked vaguely were my close friends only.
But I must agree people here are very status-conscious, as what sundaymorningstaple described. It's just a culture that was instilled in the young ones in their school days. Already at their age, they are segregated into "streams" (what you call? Express or something?), and graded for their performance in every aspect. But who to blame? It's the effects of a meritocratic society. Subtly, everything has a "class" here. You have the HDBs, condos and the landed. You have the JCs, polys and ITEs. You have the MNCs, GLCs and SMEs. Even primary schools are segregated based on their PSLE performance.... and parents take the extra miles to get their children into the top ones.... It's all imbued by the government. A country with no other resources, that is how they chose to motivate people to work hard by setting these ideals. So in the end, people seem less concerned if someone sacrificed his family, or a woman much of her youth, to achieve all these. But in recent years, the government has put some focus back on the family, and quality of life - not for long before the IR comes, and heck care about the family again. Oh btw, that's our new casino
This reminded me of a Colombian guy my sister encountered once.green_field wrote:
I had an interesting encounter during the school time. Till now still cannot forget!. I call it cultural shock.
We were all freshmen attending the Orientation week at the school there. I followed a group of seniors that brought us to Sentosa for some games. The group had some local girls. They all kinda ignored a guy who was a bit chubby and not very cool. All busy talking to the tanned-tall-muscular guys just out of army
. Of cos I talked to him and everyone else.
Then, when we needed to go to town for dinner, it turned out that the chubby guy was driving some fancy car. "Fancy car" because I guess so! cannot remember what was that, but must be because... all the girls suddenly ran to talk to him. haha! The car only had 4 seats, so they all like "fighting" to get into. At the dinner, even more hilarious, it was only him and all the girls at 1 table, while all the previously "cool" guys were completely ignored.
At the end of the dinner, again, the girls wanted to take his car back.
poodlek wrote: This reminded me of a Colombian guy my sister encountered once.
Dude: "Girrr, you gotta BIG BUTT!!"
My sister: "Pardon me???"
Dude: "It's so BEAUTIFUL. I LOVE it."
Everyone has their priorities.
green_field wrote:
I guess the "class thing" is everywhere, not only in Singapore. But don't you find it is rude to ask people how much they are earning, esp after people already politely reject to answer. The worst is that it comes from the guys who tried to date me. LOL. They are not low-educated. I assume uni grad is not classified as low education. I think it is not the education issue here. Maybe cultural or EQ issue? haha. Or the male here not very sensitive.
I had an interesting encounter during the school time. Till now still cannot forget!. I call it cultural shock.
We were all freshmen attending the Orientation week at the school there. I followed a group of seniors that brought us to Sentosa for some games. The group had some local girls. They all kinda ignored a guy who was a bit chubby and not very cool. All busy talking to the tanned-tall-muscular guys just out of army
. Of cos I talked to him and everyone else.
Then, when we needed to go to town for dinner, it turned out that the chubby guy was driving some fancy car. "Fancy car" because I guess so! cannot remember what was that, but must be because... all the girls suddenly ran to talk to him. haha! The car only had 4 seats, so they all like "fighting" to get into. At the dinner, even more hilarious, it was only him and all the girls at 1 table, while all the previously "cool" guys were completely ignored.
At the end of the dinner, again, the girls wanted to take his car back.
I was too shocked after seeing the whole thing. Their attitude just changed completely almost instantly after seeing the guy's car. LOL.
Money is important. I work my ass out everyday for it so I know it is important. But not to that extend right? Or I am just too naive. LOL.
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