Birthday kid received hardly any gifts

kiwigal · Post by **kiwigal** » Sun, 04 Jul 2010 8:55 pm

I was recently told of a child that had a birthday party and more than half of the kids turned up with No gift or No Card. Despite the childs brave face, there was some hurt feelings there.

IS this a common thing here ? Do people stop giving birthday cards and gifts when they attend parties ? I know its not compulsory to offer one - but not even a card ??? Bad manners ??

Any views ??

samsarah · Post by **samsarah** » Sun, 04 Jul 2010 11:13 pm

HI, sorry to hear that. It's certainly not a practice here. This is in fact the first time I'm hearing it.

durain · Post by **durain** » Mon, 05 Jul 2010 5:56 pm

yeah, defo not normal.

Girl_Next_Door · Post by **Girl_Next_Door** » Mon, 05 Jul 2010 6:17 pm

I think people are gradually becoming rude, in general?

I know that I will always bring a bottle of wine/dessert whenever I go to someone's place for dinner. Nowadays, nobody seems to do that anymore. Or is it the group that I hang out with, have weak manners?

kimora · Post by **kimora** » Mon, 05 Jul 2010 7:06 pm

Poor manners but something I always tell my little one is not to expect loads of gifts ...just a thought. And maybe this family should never invite those who turned up empty handed ...?

durain · Post by **durain** » Mon, 05 Jul 2010 7:14 pm

once you identified who are the TIGHT parents, you can cross them out of your list for next year.

QRM · Post by **QRM** » Mon, 05 Jul 2010 7:20 pm

Maybe a bit of a misunderstanding, if the invite didn't say birthday party? could have been assumed it was like a large playdate?

cbavasi · Post by **cbavasi** » Mon, 05 Jul 2010 9:38 pm

durain wrote:once you identified who are the TIGHT parents, you can cross them out of your list for next year.

haha - nice!

my kid was asking parents for an iphone for his birthday. when they would look at me in surprise i'd just sort of shrug... aim high right?

Post by **sundaymorningstaple** » Mon, 05 Jul 2010 11:29 pm

cbavasi wrote: my kid was asking parents for an iphone for his birthday. when they would look at me in surprise i'd just sort of shrug... aim high right?

aim high? To me it would be a good way to signify not to bother with buying anything if the parents have been spoiling the kid with high priced toys so often that the kid thinks everybody had that kind of money to buy those types of presents.

cbavasi · Post by **cbavasi** » Tue, 06 Jul 2010 8:25 am

OMG SMS relax.... it was a JOKE. although, as usual, irony is lost.

Post by **sundaymorningstaple** » Tue, 06 Jul 2010 9:04 am

Sorry, I thought, seeing you've been in Singapore awhile, some had rubbed off on you.

Local kids are spoiled rotten as you well know. They aren't known as "little Mandarins" for nothing and think nothing of asking for expensive stuff.

Wasn't really taking it seriously - guess I should have used different smilies, huh?

missis · Post by **missis** » Tue, 06 Jul 2010 4:18 pm

kiwigal wrote:I was recently told of a child that had a birthday party and more than half of the kids turned up with No gift or No Card. Despite the childs brave face, there was some hurt feelings there.

IS this a common thing here ? Do people stop giving birthday cards and gifts when they attend parties ? I know its not compulsory to offer one - but not even a card ??? Bad manners ??

Any views ??

Never heard of this before. Most of the parents of the children invited to my son's party asked in advance what would be suitable! (I requested small items only - no i-phones pls

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Yep, don't invite them again!

snowqueen · Post by **snowqueen** » Tue, 06 Jul 2010 9:37 pm

I would never be so rude as to let my boy turn up at a kids birthday party without a present for the birthday boy/girl, that's just cheap and embarrassing.

Doesn't seem like these are good 'friends' to invite to a birthday party.

cbavasi · Post by **cbavasi** » Wed, 07 Jul 2010 12:03 am

sundaymorningstaple wrote:Sorry, I thought, seeing you've been in Singapore awhile, some had rubbed off on you.

not yet!!! even though i'm a west coast gal - i have some midwestern sensibility

my kids are happy with any sort of prezzie...
but i almost had to give a quick smack to the back of the head when my son looked at a goodie bag once and said "is that it??" it was one of those moments where i didn't know what to do first... needless to say we had a loooooong talk about parties, presents and goodie bags. i definitely spoil my children quite a bit - mostly b/c it's really hard not too - but i do hope i'm teaching them some good values along the way.

QRM · Post by **QRM** » Wed, 07 Jul 2010 8:40 am

All our school kids mums have agreed when it comes to birthdays, spending about $10-15 per present should be the norm.

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