ban in singapore

[lovely4u]

HI,
I just read the forum and its interesting and helpful .
I am also in the same boat.i want to ask if anyone can giv me an advice on what to do.
I have a singaporean bf and we already have a 5yr old kid.Just recently we applied for permission to contract marriage in MOM but IT was rejected.The reason they said i got pregnant without getting approval of marriage first from them.Now the worst thing is,I AM BANNEd to entter singapore.
Does anyone have an idea of the same case like mine if how long would I serve an entry ban??since Mom did not specify the duration.
so desperate!
help pls!tnks.

[nakatago]

Wait for SMS to come along...his nephew is in the same situation.

Long story short: Sorry, there's nothing much you can do anymore.

[sundaymorningstaple]

So far, I only know of one case where it's been overturned and that is anecdotal only. I've not met them, but only have the information around 4th or 5th hand so haven't been able to confirm it yet (I'm trying). So, frankly, what I was told is the only way around it is to get an appointment with the PM and have his intercession. However I was also told that the husband must also show he earns a basic salary of AT LEAST $2K/mo and there might be a chance but below that, no way. Again, that is only hearsay. So far I've not be able to make it happen with a two ministers in my court. I do know, in fact, several cases where it's been over 10 years. In my nephews case, it's already been almost 3 years. About the only way around it is for your husband to immigrate to your country, cause it's probably not gonna happen here unless your child is a male.

Unfortunately, I don't have any facts to back this up so it's as good and not existing at all. But, it does make some sense as they don't want the wife and baby here and end up being a ward of the state. In my case, my nephew and his little girl are living with me as the baby has Singapore citizenship (was born here) but then the mother was refused renewal of her LTVP and was banished back to the 'peens. The baby went with her but after a year, the baby was not allowed to stay there either as she didn't have a 'peens passport or citizenship.

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Why can't people either keep their legs closed or their pants zipped up. Or, if they can't (like most of us), at least learn to use protection (like most of us)! You would think with HIV, Herpes, Syphilis and pregnancy, people would use some precautions. At the end of the day, the ones who suffer the most are the children of such unions!
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[wcs]

I have a friend who is a single mother here. They slip through the cracks. I guess so as to not encourage more people to do it to get a flat. But if she was divorced or widowed, then she could get a flat with her young son. It just seems to push vulnerable people into doing more silly things to fit into the system!

Maybe if the government is serious about having more local babies, they should ban contraception! It could cut down on their need for foreigners to come work here in the future! :p

[Mad Scientist]

If my memory serves me right, this issue start to pop up when many agencies here and overseas advertise "mail order bride". It is so dodgy and unscruplous as it target unsuspecting person on both end of the spectrum.
Issues start to pop up here where the bride ran away after getting the PR , so on and so forth. The two incidents that hit the nail is a CID detective killed his wife and himself after she refuse to stay with him once she got her PR status. and the other one was a famous son of prominent person.
Gahmen start to close in on this ploy and the end result is this.
But Work Permit holders cannot marry Sgers or SPR has been in place since the early 80s unless they got permission from MOM.
My brother who is a Sger , and ex cop, married his wife overseas, have two boys still has to wait for 5 yrs to get PR for his wife.
The first yr when she was here she cannot even get a LTVSP. Just social visit pass with special permit to stay for 6 months with strict condition. Their boys got their SG BC within One Week of moving in back to SG but not the mother.Talk about bureaucratic blunder and those read tapes.
All I can say after seeing all these, Love is Blind and I admire those that perservere.