Need advice on helping my problematic ward.

[vivienwest]

My wife's business partner put her son in Singapore under our guardianship, she's PR and I'm not. He has been here for almost 7 years now.

After the first 3 years, he managed to get himself an O level cert, that was when it went downhills. He got into SIM afterwards, but expelled due to bad attendance. We managed to get him into MDIS for 2 years, but just October last year, we heard the same news again, bad attendance.

Now we are trying real hard to get the kid (whom is 23 now) into EASB, another private institute, but expectedly, ICA rejected his application and 2 followed appeal attempts. What I am asking is that if there is any chance of him continuing his studies here.

The thing is, the kid is a good kid and that is why we have been supporting him all these years, and this time I can really see that he is determined to get his studies done instead of fooling around like before. I have high hopes and somewhat I feel responsible for him.

Any insight / advice on this matter would do me a great favor. You have my thanks in advance.

[Mad Scientist]

Are you applying for him a student pass or what ?

You have applied and rejected twice. Did ICA explain reason behind it

His 23 now but when he enters Singapore at 16 what is he on in term of ICA pass .

All those that you put him into are private instuition yes ?

[Nath21]

This "kid" is 23 years old. He is a man, and non attending class means he is a slacker. No amount of helping this man will help unless he wants to do something. Why dont you ask him why he is not attending and what he wants to do. Most likely he dosent want to study because it dosent interest him. He might have been placed under your guardianship but that was before he hit 18. Dont help him anymore until he is motivated to help himself. Once he makes a committemt to something then support him.

[missis]

Have to agree with Nath21. This is not a kid. I had been working for 5 years at 23, bought my house (in the UK) at 22 and married at 23. I'm not saying you shouldn't encourage and support him to an extent, but it's time he took on some responsibililty himself.