robleo wrote:for everyone's info, I moved on and chose this new assignment as a priority rather than leaving the job and find another one elsewhere.
It's true that whether I find a new job in the same field or shift to a new career- it will be an unknown world. For now, i know where i am and what I can do and I know the playing field.
I have a lot to work on-personally- and moving to a new company may not be the best choice as it will just re-start the cycle. It's never too late.
@ksl- you really have affirmed my decision. would like to catch up with you sometime...
I'm happy for that! I have no degree as such, I didn't start my education until i mastered another language on a high level, i was 39 years old at the time, with no O or A levels. So my education isn't structured.
I did my export exam, before i went to business college, and the minimum criteria for the export exam was a degree, or relevant work experience.
I did my A and O levels after that. It was a matter of working and study at night when i could to pay my bills.
I had developed business with others and for others, but never myself until 2004, now we have a thriving multimillion$ business with 2 factory units one is the parent company, and the one my wife and I started was to help in the restructuring and support of a loss making parent company.
So I was 54 when we took the plunge into our own business, after we decided that we had helped others enough. It is obvious of my weaknesses in routine education, but my work experience and practical commonsense stands out more than my academic ability.
My man management skills I can thank 10 years of professional soldiering for, plus my own interests in continued learning for self improvement. keeping an open mind and a positive one is key to progress, take criticism positively on the chin, even though you may disagree and move on, with the next task in hand.
All leaders may not approach the same objective, with the same ideas! Hang in there, I believe your talents are good for the business environment and that talent is required as a reminder, that adventurous people like myself, need reigning in and reminding how the actual financial accounts are doing, and what we can do to improve them, that is a bankers job, they are level headed and not great risk takers, they want win win situations.
Though risk and success go hand in hand, one needs control and team work, you will always fit into the business environment, though you may stagnate in a teaching position, suffering claustrophobia attacks and wishing you was more active. Self improvement to keep young and positive, I'm 60 next month and beaming with motivation not only for myself, but also for others, I like to help others because i can, even competitors....It's like playing chess and if you know you are good or better than the opposition, you ease off and give people a chance, to make the game more interesting, it keeps you on your toes.
Life is very short but good, live it to your fullest ability with confidence and face those fears, believe me i have had traumatic fears in my life, that have almost destroyed my mental capacity, that's why i am a fitness fanatic kick starting the endorphins all the time, other wise the reaper may catch up with me, its very easy to fall into depression, search out the symptoms and know what is happening.
I spent the last year coaching my wife into accepting her fathers death, so that it would ease the grief, you have to be realistic that life ends and medication just prolongs the suffering, its a selfish commercial world we live in, people ignore the dignity of others, for there own selfish reasons, being prepared through experiences of death makes you stronger or a neurotic.
What you learn is the truth about yourself, you have a choice to run or fight the fears, this is the learning experience. good luck!
The older generation like SMS SE and myself, have the survival instincts, we may not always agree with each other because we all have our own independent thought processes. Military life was basically my career which i lost due to divorce, I was conned by the army recruiter with full of promises, that didn't materialise, which kick started my attitude problem in the army. I knew what i wanted and told the major I used to drive, to polish his own f-----g shoes, I'm a pro soldier not his lackey, he also chose me because of my abilities of driving and soldiering, I was also the one to stand out, in the end i was posted out to the desert a punishment posting which i loved, because i was with like minded people, we were all well disciplined with attitude leaders in our own right, and highly qualified because we had improved through being active taking all the courses we could. I had all HGV licences by the age of 22, I eventually left my unit after being attached to the SAS unit and Army Air corps, 4 years before the Army Air corps, was reestablished after being disbanded.
It was a new chapter in my life, but meeting the challenges physically and mentally, was supervised and tested by the best of the best, I was never a SAS member but it was our role to support the front line troops, para's Marines, and special forces so our training regime was at the same level, has we always operated in small groups out stationed for support attachment from squadron level or as a squadron.
I transferred when the Army Air Corps became a reality in 1974, as i was already serving with them for the last 4 years, we had a few SAS members as pilots in the squadrons, and we had to make critical decisions in cases of emergencies, all the routine training pays dividends.
So we are multi skilled in survival, firefighting, first aid, vehicle maintenance both armoured and support vehicles, radio communication and air traffic control, under slung loads and casualty evacuation, air sea rescue and survival training in different terrain, setting up of night landing aids and helicopter ground handling and helicopter refueling duties. The air corps soldiers of today are highly skilled in routine practical emergancies, as well as 4 main trades he must also be a professional soldier. Most westerners have interests in DIY and skill sets, that are useful like welding, building and construction courses, drainage courses, I personally have collected what i could because i had a interest in doing my own work, because i couldn't rely on others to do it, to the standard i wanted.
So the drive to learn and become self sufficient is the basic requirement for my own survival, the only real problem i have ever had in my life, was self realisation after all the traumatic experiences i have lived through. Why is life like it is, why all the wars and suffering around the world, then i woke up and said, that's it.
I quit, I dropped out of the social system to be my own master, that's when i remarried in Taiwan 10 years ago and moved to Taiwan to make a difference genetically in my family history .
A very big step for a westerner to take on the life of Chinese culture, but done with confidence, and for a reason. Moving to Singapore is much more adaptable for me, but not for my Taiwanese wife who would rather be with her mum, though i am here for the family living the Asian way of life supporting Asian ideals and family, having a meaning in life is satisfying, though we cannot always see what the meaning is all about.
Self realisation opened my eyes, to my own ego, calmed me down to prepare myself for transition, now I do what ever i want to do, in a semi retired manner, like a banker, I guide the business through my wife and act as her sparring partner, I have no reason to work, just delegate the responsibility and oversee the outcome and you will also reach that ability, sooner than I have, by learning to solve problems with different approaches, its all about preparation for the unexpected and keeping a cool head, when problems need solving. Team work and input from all members, to evaluate the situation, the team leader then takes the lead and remains accountable right or wrong its an experience learned but never failure.